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  If you’re anything like most people, then you have no problems having a great conversation once you’ve been introduced to someone. But maybe you’ve just arrived at a party, or you see an adorable girl just walking ahead of you in the park. What’s a good way to get a conversation started in that case? Here are 10 good conversational starters that you can use in some different situations. At a Party or Networking Event 1. Hi, I’m [your name]. You guys look like you’re having fun.This one works best when delivered to 1 or 2 people in a conversational ring, simply by touching them lightly on the shoulder to get their attention. Try to match the energy level of the group, if not slightly above it. So if they’re all smiling and laughing, then make sure to try and say this with a bright smile and a laugh. If they look very somber and awkward, then even a quick smile will help lighten their mood. 2. So how do you all know each other? Once the attention is already on you, this is an ideal follow up question. Oftentimes the answers will be something like “from school” or “from work” or even “we grew up together”. You can use these answers to find out more about them such as where they’re from and what kind of background they have, without having to ask too many open ended questions.

 3. How’s the food/drinks here? Ideally, you would want to try and ask this to someone who’s holding some food or drinks, but that’s not even required. You can compare the catered food at the event to other events, or complain about how drinks are expensive. (People bond better over complaining over things, but make sure not to overdo it). Out in the Daytime 4. Hey, I like your shoes/jacket.  If you walk around and observe carefully, anyone who puts attention into their outfit is usually very conscious about it, and they almost always want to be noticed. This compliment works ESPECIALLY well if you can sum up their outfit in a unique way. I’ve compared girls working in retail to pirates, and a medical student to a yoga instructor painter. Injecting some silly humor in it will draw out a laugh, and you’ll get an instant spike of attraction too. 5. HEY! This is random, but you’re completely adorable so I had to come meet you. An important part of this conversation starter is that you don’t apologize or say excuse me. By starting out with an apology, you’re basically inviting the person you’re talking to to leave the conversation. By instead acknowledging that it’s random, you’re admitting that this doesn’t fit into normal social norms, but that you don’t need to pay attention to that. 6. Hey, haven’t I met you before? A lot of the times when you haven’t had much experience talking to people you don’t know, you’ll find that there’s a sincere vibe that people have when they’ve met each other before. This familiarity is a great thing to practice. If you’re in a college/university setting, this works especially well because you can ask them what major they’re studying, and if maybe you’ve met them in a class before. You can then transition to whatever topic you want. 7. hey do you happen to know the way to the nearest coffee shop? Coffee shops are universally loved and adored, it’s not a big deal to look for them. Just by doing this often enough, you’ll learn to see what kind of first impression you give people. Of course, you’ll get a lot more learning experience if you actually push the interaction further, so get on doing that! Ex: “Actually, I just wanted to talk to you, hi I’m “your name” what’s our name?” In High School/College/University 8. Hey, I’m starting a band and I think you should be our lead singer. Are you in?I did many variants of this when I was still in school. This is a great way to get into some light role playing “we could tour all across Europe and I’d have to hold your hair as you threw up in bar toilets” as well as some cold reading “Really? Are you sure? You totally seem like the musical punk adventurous type.”
Obviously at some point you’ll want to straighten out the facts, and clarify that you’re not in a band, and just wanted the chance to talk to them. 9. Hey is this seat taken? In a library or a study area, you can often use this to just start out the conversation, and establish that you’re ok to talk to. If they don’t look too busy, or too engaged in their work, you can often then ask them what they’re working on. “Hey that looks interesting, what are you working on?” 10. Hey you look like a cool kid. What should I be doing this weekend? This is a great way to find out what kind of parties are happening on your campus for the weekend. They’ll be flattered that you think they look social and popular, and will want to recommend a party that they’re going to that weekend. If you play your cards right, they could even end up as your date for that party. Let me know in the comments how these work out for you, or if you know similarly good conversation starters!
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            Sometimes looking for signs that a woman likes you can feel like guessing all the answers on a multiple choice test. These signs will also vary a lot depending on the context of the situation. For example, signs of attraction will change if you’re at a club, a bar setting, a more professional networking event. There’s also the classic “Does she (a friend) like me or is she just really friendly?” They’ll also change depending on what country you’re in, and what the cultural norms are there.              Here is how to look for signs a woman likes you in 3 different environments, as well as some tips on how to test for them.  1. At a bar or nightclub If a girl at a bar or at a club is still talking to you, then it’s a definite sign that she’s at least intrigued by you. Many guys get tripped up by this, because more attractive girls can be very curt and dismissive in their responses. Part of this is because they know that any signs of obvious attraction like laughing or tossing their hair will give a guy will be the go ahead to annoy them all night, and they don’t always know right away whether or not you’ll be that cool guy they want to spend time with. Another thing to remember is that almost no one will call out an attractive girl at a bar or club. As far she’s concerned, she can act however she wants, and everyone keeps smiling and inviting her out. So ignore what your instinct is telling you at first, and keep talking to her. Slowly you’ll be able to figure out whether a really hot girl is attracted to you. And chances are, more and more of them will be attracted to you the more you build your skill set by talking to them for longer.If she’s not a super attractive girl, then she will be less adept at hiding the signs of interest as she’s talking. These will include laughing often, touching you back (you should be constantly touching her champ), ignoring her friends to talk to you, and touching her face. 2. If you are good friends but you want to get closer Generally for this, verbally escalating will not work at all. Trust me, I’ve been there. “I feel so comfortable around you!” and verbally testing the waters will not get you anywhere. Not to mention girls are very good at expressing their emotions openly, so you will most likely get outclassed here. Best course of action here is to ask her out on a 1:1 date and physically escalate as you normally would on a date, but of course being more careful not to go too far too fast. Another way would be to very playfully flirty the next time you’re out with a group of friends. Make sure to be the same with everyone, so it doesn’t look like you’re just targeting her, but hopefully with her you can bring a more sexual vibe. If it’s enough to get her to notice that you’re acting differently, then you’re off to a good start.       3. While on a date The best way to test your date’s level of interest in you, and also to firmly set the frame where you want it to be is to go in for a kiss or escalate your physical touches about 1/3 the way into the date. There’s a saying that’s very prevalent, especially on dates which is “If she’s staying, she’s playing”. No matter how coldly she rejects your kiss or your escalation, just move on and pretend it didn’t happen. She’s acknowledged your frame that you want the interaction to continue in (a more sexual one) and by staying, she’s acknowledged that she’s “playing”. If you have any questions about these signs of interest, or just fun stories to share about how you broke out of the friend zone, be sure to share them below! 
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