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Barry White
 
i do this model for me. it's not a theory nor trying to reinvent the wheel.

i'm trying to figure out how to have a simple model in mind to perform the pull. i don't know very well what works... but I know very well what doesn't work :-D

tension builders: attraction + intent (mostly subcommunication, verbally or physical contact but not "closes")
tension releases: too direct + make outs + kiss closes + fingering + being predictable + giving too much information about you...

calibration:
detect the amount of comfort needed and the tension needed to fuck the girl it will depends in logistics and kind of girl... alcohol levels... and how much tension the girl can handle without crushing.

i think my turbo escalation it's an idealization of going fast slightly before the tension crush zone then keep it at the limit.

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i'm the make out guy in the picture

edit:

i think there is a dynamic aspect that's hide in the model.
for exemple if you do a lot of tactics of building tension but then you're tactics are over (you're only an entertening guy) then the PU dynamics will release tension 'cause you became predictable as a guy. 
or for exemple, if you releases tension in a way that teases the girl, that builds tension. (like, kissing then stopping and saying "we're going too fast")
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Barry White
 
 I split the week in 5 sections

SECTION I: what i do mondays to fridays between 8AM and 18H30
SECTION II: what i do mondays to thurstday between 18H30 and 00H
SECTION III: what i do fridays and saturdays between 18H30 and 6AM
SECTION IV: what i do saturdays in the afternoon
SECTION V: sundays

For me it's an easy way to think the week instead of keeping in head a planning of 7 long days.

on SECTION I there's 4 phases and every day is the same
A the morning before work
B work in the morning
C eat + sport
D work in the afternoon

on SECTION II there is 2 phases and phase A could change between days
A the night
B before sleep

on SECTION III there is 2 phases and is the same both days
A the pre game
B the game

SECTION IV is mono phase -> random activities
SECTION V is mono phase -> random activities
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stuff to do every day that it's worthy to insert in sections I.A, IV and V

-> the "thanksgiving": i write some sentences of why i'm satisfyied with my life and stop criticize my past
-> main goals: i write the main goals of my life
-> self talk: write a positive self talk (some 30 sentences of a particular topic for a whole month)

-> plan your next  work day before going to sleep (in sections I.D and V)

in section I.B

-> clean your desktop
-> fill a bottle of water
->plan your day

to continue...
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Barry White
 
Challenge finished (last FR nothing interesting.. only a kiss close and an almost bathroom pull avoided by the bartender :D lol)

stats:
4 pull = 2 fcloses + 2 LMR

& lessons for the future and for the next 30dc which starts today.

1. going out 7d/7 it is not a good idea. mainly because some days are waste of time and money and some days is good to be in shape to sarge. --> this months I'll only go out thursday/friday and saturday. and saturday and sunday afternoon for day game.

2. some venues are waste of time and money. this month I'll sarge in venues who lead to lays.
in my case
- PUBS/ANIMATED BARS/CLUBS
- SALSA/LATIN BARS
- single sets on DAY GAME: mainly coffeshops and parks


avoid going nowhere conversations in quiet bars or going out during the week... too much "hahaha but no"-sets
thursday , friday and satuday game has to be agressive and risky. no bullshit.


3. filter shy/insecure girls early... go for fun/extroverted/openminded girl. MY GAME SHOULD NATURALLY FILTER COOL GIRLS.

4. in the field ONLY BE FOCUSED ON

- follow the game plan (approaching, don't spend too much and intelligent logistics)
- having fun / enjoying the interactions
- show intent and burn the interaction to the ground
- voice, smile, eye contact, posture and be zen

5. build a social circle. Not to pickup girl inside de social circle. but to know people for going out and have fun.
days to build ecosystem: SUN,MON,TUE,WED. quiet bars, after works and salsa bars (during the week) are good venues to num close in a friendly way.
SUNDAY & TUESDAY -> only networking. go out early, go home early.
then BE PROACTIVE with the social cercle.
- invite people to go out
- invite people home
- restaurants 1/week. SOCIALLY.


6. GAME NEAR HOME.

7. more discipline at work

8. DISCIPLINE ON SPORT / SLEEP AND EAT.

9. CLEAN ROOM. BE PREPARED FOR PULLING.

10. PRESENCE!!! -> GO OUT READY TO PICK UP A 10. NOT LOOKING LIKE A HOMELESS PERSON HOPING TO PICK UP A FATTY.
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Barry White
 
Turbo escalation it's a great exercise for accelerate your close. It's based on state-based attraction techniques, aggressive physical game (in the spirit of instant make outs) and intelligence to deal with social logistics. I'm working on that since few weeks ago, by studying my roommate's club game (rapid make outs and good dealing with logistics), thinking about the strong points of my game (state, attraction and social freedom) and goin' out with a wing who is very good building comfort and tension.

I recommend this for intermediate guys (like me) that had some issues with kino and wanna become more comfortable with the close and work on their One Night Stand skills. Is benchmarked on VOLUME (one night stand / rapid game / quantity of girls). If your goal is slow down your game and guarantee "quality" and "dates" and "girlfriends"... maybe my approach isn't the right path.

The structure

1. CLOSING
2. MAKE OUT
3. LOGISTICS

NB: this game will work for guys with good COLD APPROACH SKILLS that can OPEN/ATTRACT and GO KINO and who have a CONFIDENT PRESENCE. THIS TYPE OF GAME DEMANDS A LOT OF SOCIAL FREEDOM AND CALIBRATION.

1. CLOSING

1.a. OPEN AND SOCIAL COMFORT: don't be fooled by open and social comfort: do the essential minium. It's for the girl to be sure that you're not a psycho, a needy guy and that you are a kind of high value guy (presence, confidence and being cool). If you are in a social cercle or it's a date or a instant date, this part of the game is already done. On cold approach, it will take a few minutes (in quiet areas) or a few seconds (if you are in a animated place). This phase is finish when you feel that the girl could have a normal conversation with you... but we will not have a normal conversation here 'cause we will jump into a rapid escalation.

1.b. STATE-BASED ATTRACTION: Here you use attraction material (natural or canned) that increase the state and the buying temperature of the girl: role plays, teases, randomness and sexual innuendos. Don't think in terms of intrigue or DHV or too conversational/boring stuff. Our goal is to play with the state. DO A LOT OF ATTRACTION.

1.c. PHYSICAL ESCALATION: At the same time u do your attraction games start a very rapid physical escalation. RETARDEDLY RAPID! in less than 5 minutes you should be dancing or cavemaning the girl or slapping her in the ass. IT IS POSSIBLE / IT WORKS / YOU DON'T NEED BE IN A CLUB TO DO THAT. I DO IT IN QUIET BARS AND IN THE STREET (yeah, if there is not music... THEN YOU SING MO'FO!).

IF THE GIRL IS ATTRACTED + GIRL PHYSICALLY COMPLIANCE = ISOLATE A MINIMUM AND CLOSE! (and that's the end of the phase 1)

2. MAKE OUT

Newby mistake: You kiss close then you're thinking "ok, i want to fuck right now"... SLOW DOWN MY FRIEND. It's only now where real game starts. You close only 'cause state, now you have to consolidate the close. It's like muscles. If you lift some weight today your arm will be inflated for some hours, but there is no real muscle.

2.a. FURTHER ISOLATION: isolate to a quiet place and start to make out and stuff. be dominant but not too pushy. keep it cool: you should communicate do that all the time and that you are a professionnal one night stand guy and you're enjoying the moment, not in a rush for sex (fake it until you make it). Try to be non linear. HOT KISS then STOPS, NORMAL KINO, RUB HER then STOPS, NORMAL KINO, LICK HER TITS then STOPS. YOU SHOULD CREATE TENSION.

2.b. BUILD COMFORT: comfort will be build naturally with the passage of time. but you can improve that talking some personnal stuff (fun subjects, get logistical information), qualify a bit, ask for her name (lol :D), do some attraction routines. keep the state always but also some intrigue and do the girl feels comfortable and more deeply attracted (you have to transform girl's "I WANNA FUCK"-vibe into a "I WANNA FUCK WITH YOU"-vibe. I DON'T DO IT BUT MAYBE SOME SEXUAL COLD READ STUFF COULD BE GOOD IN THIS PHASE (i.e. cold reads based on the bad girl-good girl duality)

2.c. DIRTY/SEX TALK. I do a bit of dirty talk yesterday. Is a sticking point for me but I forcing my comfort zone. I felt weird when I started to do it and the girl felt that. MY FRAME: I PREFER TO DO SOMETHING WEIRD AND LOSE THE SET AND IMPROVE MY GAME than STAY IN MY COMFORT ZONE FOREVER.

3. LOGISTICS

3.a. SOCIAL LOGISTICS. YOU SHOULD STOP THE MAKE OUT and ANTICIPATE go to see HER FRIENDS and YOUR friends and start to handle the logistics. DON'T WAIT FOR HER TO BE CONCERNED BY THE LOGISTICS. It's nice to rub her all night but logistics are the CORE of this game. Then say like "is good to see your friends now, maybe they are looking for you"... hold her hand and walk through the venue. Then go build some comfort with her friends. Introduce YOUR friends... LOGISTICS = BE THE LEADER.

3.b. DEALING WITH THE VENUE. If things are happenning fast (we are in between 30min and 2h in the interaction timeline!) the game is being driven mostly by state, dominance and buying temperature. THE GIRL IS IN A CRITICAL MODE. If a fuckin' homeless person with the lamest game on earth enter to the bar and start to game her, she'll be compliance and he can pick her up. Maybe she'll start to flirt with ANYBODY ... maybe a player will try to pick her up. STAY DOMINANT. Don't try to fight with attraction techniques or "game vs. game"... you'll lose. YOU SHOULD KEEP A DOMINANT KINO ON HER, BLOCK OTHER GUYS, BUT ALWAYS BEING CONFIDENT AS YOU DON'T FEEL REALLY THREATENED... YOU SHOULD KEEP A FUCKIN' TIGHT GAME. IS YOUR GIRL, IS YOUR TERRITORY.

3.c. EXTRACTION. OK, HERE IS THE PHASE I'M LEARNING AND I'M KIND OF NEWBY HERE, but as I see from experience and looking for friends. It's important to keep a cool vibe. YOU'RE NOT IN A RUSH FOR SEX. It's important to kept in mind that the extraction can "cold" the interaction. Then u should think a lot on keeping your game connected with your dick and not with your ego: enjoy the fuckin' moment with the girl!. Don't start to freak out with the "I MUST EXTRACT TO SCORE"-mindset.

That's all. It's the first draft BUT it's retardedly effective to close and solid make outs. further and more fine-tuned versions of TURBO ESCALATION-BASED GAME to come.
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