House party. Don't what to share the full story but Im obligated to list learning experiences and behaviors.
Opened 2 girls on the way inside. (goal to get out of my head)
Set Diddnt last coulda been more engaging.
Walked in with friend who does not party. Chilled. Got to party early their we're like 4 girls.
Unfortunately hesitated which I shouldn't have, stood next to girls then opened after 30 secs.
Not ideal. Weak open. But I did it regardless. Still it was reactive I want to be more the man
Stuck in head "which is why I shoulda just hit it up with my buddy, and started having fun".
He's not te hit it up type, I get a lot of resistance comming from him. The type that's totaly against the grain with me. It's just our different conditionings. Not to be an ass but I hope he bends and comes more into my reality...I think it would be beneficial.
I'm not gonna try tho. 0% success when I do that
Chilled for awhile and chatted.
No reason why I am not enough, nbd
Focused on monopolizing my state and pumping the bubble of emotions, starting with myself.
So a while later people start to show up.
I will now go into the sporadic approahes and situations related. Highly unorganized likely due to the fact most of them were rejections :)
Girl at bar was tall..started talking...i was probably a bitch....conversation died. Talked to girl I was walking by on stairs, grabbed her and spun her around, she's like woooooah, I was just moving her out of the way cuz i had to pee,i started slowing down cuz she engaged me half pissed off/interested (she digged the communicated status) then my friends like no!, outside! And I'm like yeah yeah yeah, she's cute tho sorta. She responded to this
Def coulda re-entered the set. She was all over the swag.
Saw girls standing outside, Diddnt approach
Started chatting to cutie in red hat. She chatted. Blah blah blah blah blah...ii let the verbals handle themselves. Prolly Diddnt communicate enough ENOUGHNESS, BEASTMODE, VALUE - to her!!!
She went to fill her cup. She Diddnt reject me I just fell out of her ras...isn't that what most rejections are.
Approached girl that I remember saying something to by grabbing her had. She said to me tho this time, blah blah blah blah I want a drink!
So I say follow me nonchalant as I walk by and grab her hand.
She's with a guy and she resists and looks at him like I'm some sort of wierdo.
I let go and continue.
Here I may have communicated that I knew and Diddnt care that she didn't come, kinda like a chode version of te indifference threshold where you just suck shit and you have no belief or positive assumptions.
Basically a low value not abundant with girls reality.
So instea of just walking away next time something like that happens Ill just stop an be like...no?
Like super confused because I anticipate she come.
And if she says no.. I'm not a chode I just kinda thought shed come...okay, goodbye homie.
Lol beast mode
Opend group in a corner with are you guys selling drugs?
The one girl bit and I Vibed with the group as long as I felt totally cool about it and I just looked away like full abundance...you could say I shoulda stayed in set...and truth is I shoulda. But then again my intention was momentum (these approaches Aernt in order, at all) so w.e
I'm not gonna try so hard.
Open girl on the flo, it opened fine but I said some dumb shot and made her walk off...a lot of these sort of fuck ups are just from being stifled trying to act unstifled. Then I gave her the hand of god and she reacted funny.
Really I wanna start approaching 10x as much cuz I miss most of the really INTIMIDATING SETS usually, not gonna lie it's hard at this point I hit thoes girls up as they dance with their friends, noted.
Opened asian girl with Nike similar o mine, I touched her face, accepted, told her she was cute or something and either she left or I let her go. Diddnt rapprochement later on when I saw her
Approach girl saying hey I'm black, she looked like Brandi the singer and I was cool with that.
She was smily. Def was fully myself here. Set ended in her like having to leave.
I think the girls leave a lot (even on good notes) cuz YEAH IM AROUSING, but I'm not fully unstifled so they will get attracted and be like he's hot buuut theirs people more unstifled than I so her ras goes there. When if was just more like a mutherfucking MAH DEUCE! (figuratively speaking) the girls would stay longer. Plus maybe she's more "comfortable with her friends".
So she walks away smiling.
Btw I am kinoing all these girls. First set of girls called me out on my high five awkwardness and kinda dominated the frame actually, then lost interest, prolly gave off cues as to I'm not congruent with the high five, which is true a handshake woulda been more normal, anyways.
Girl chillin next to bar i just say random shot to. Get my waffle on. Like wht are you drinking. I was pretty open. She was pretty open. We talked for a bit then the Friends like who is that guy do you know him! From across te bar, this shut me down fast as my girl started talking to her friends.
Tonight I learned that it is hugely important to interact with the interruptive friends regardless of their intentions you gotta maintain your seat as te influencer in the interaction. Awesome learning exp.
Saw the hat girl again for real quick and was introduced to a friend. It was all good. Ends in a good note again, idk why but it seems I have a lot of impatience with myself and other people when interacting with them, I'm sure this will be handled in no time really just massive action and application of Alex's 4x/ 10 hour rule.
Kinos a bit off. Saying by to leave I'm like blah blah blah blah (blah = positive conversation vibe) French kiss. She's like no no! I'm assuming she was thinking the American French kiss.
I kissed her cheeks and left. She seemed not to hate me doing it so much, I was 50/50 on why he thought of it...but regardless.
Saw blondie and it was all good then something happened after a min where I asked her why she was at the beer pong table she's like that's my boyfriend...I look over, he's looking at me, he slaps me up, I'm like I'd be more interested in u bro! He's like nah prolly won't happen
Then i say to the girl "i was so gonna hit on you"
Prolly shoulda tried anyway just to see what happend.
Beauty is too common to make it noteworthy. Only important when it applies to the consistency and Kick to your approach which should be no more different than u were on a fat girl, only difference is the cute girls make you horny. I seriously get as nervous aoproaching a fatty as I do a beauty, the hardest approach for me tho are the ones where the ppl are just having fun. So hard lol
Hugged Asian girl walking by and kept going, she reacted the same way she thought I was gonna approach her but nahhhhhh.
I could feel she woulda walked away If I stayed. To remedy this I would attempt julien and Tyler's EH!
Like over EVERYTHING LOUD AND BELLIGERANT AS FUCK. Have everybody looking then........
Hand of god
Saw black girl with dude. Almost Diddnt say hi not gonna lie I was choding! Mind had me halfway out the door metaphorically speaking then I reached out with hey...are you African American. Then I asked if that was her dude. She says no and i committed. Lol prolly woulda anyways
we chat for a couple minutes about bullshit and the dude leaves.
As I'm talking to her I see the hat girl (this is a third time) and this times she's in a nice fur coat.
I pull her in and she is so warm and fuzzy so I keep her forever. Friend starts talking to her lol. Guy starts talking to her, I was beasting it tho. i told the black girl I knew her from before, she Diddnt care she walked away.
So I'm hugging the girl and she obvs leaving so I had to let her go.
Walked up to the black girl again and...nah...no good response.
Came back later on and tapped her after quizzing my friend on what was gonna happen.
As I'm leaning on the wall She's like........ Giving me the kinda interested DONT BE A LOOK.
Strong eye contact reciprocated. I offered her my hand and she placed it and i squeezed to pull her im and she pulls back. My kino is off. She slaps my hand cuz I tease her then my friend slapped mine...then back and forth then we slapped his then we slapped hers. She's like ow..lol.
Diddnt last the table started having more fun than me and him and we just died away, she kept looking back tho as he and I discussed eckhart tolle concepts.
Their was definitely a lack of momentum here, results would've changed if I were simply hitting it up.
Chilled on wall.
This was prolly the best set of the night for subjective reasons only.
Chillin on wall with friend idk some girl I complimented and started to talk to
Words were exchanged. Def charged in the way I like from a girl.
Don't remember specifics....basically just abundance mentality, self amused, and engaging which of course incorporated a full range if emotions...
Less eye contact really...had some of her drink.
Also soo funny idk what brought it up but I mocked her jewelry. im like "blh blah blh conversation starter"
Then I teased her and acted as a guy who was hitting on her or a guy comming on too strong and I'm like "guys walk up to you". "wow nice necklace, dam girl u are so fine blah blah blah blah I want you noww girl I wanna fuck you right now. Had this sinister look on my face. I actuall felt like i wanted her. Like a method actor, it felt great. I laughed to myself.
she's like I could tell you get alot of girls,you get a lot of girls.
I'm like no I'm gay.
I'm finding that I use this line alot and it is not serving me at all whatsoever except after intense physical contact, so I'm dropping it. It just seems to not be too effective. In this case I'll instead say "no I'm totally friendly and hug the girl or/and go for a kiss on the cheek. girl said the same thing last night.
Or I'll say ya. Anyways!
Or just look at her.............and see what happens...
ANYTHING! TRY ANYTHING JUST STOP SAYING THAT YOU ARE GAY IT JUST CAUSES CONFUSION.
Seriously only say it after you've made out and been all up over the girl.
Regardles of the your not gay response and my yes i am type response (i think i may have corrected and told the truth) we keep vibing and at a point she's like I'm done with you and steps away and comes back. Obvs she's digging the rsd style vibe and I even am like fine go at a point she steps back like 4 feet and comes back. I was being arousing and she was all about it...then I became physical.
I thought she was all bout it and I pulled her into me and go for the kissssss!
She gives me the palm to the chest.
From her it like dies as she got sealed up by picture taking (that I should have mogged)
As they were in my vicinity.
See Brandi girl again and she was INTERESSSTED. She sees me walking by shes like "blahhhhhhhgg" all reactive and shit.
I'm like heyyy or w.e, the intent was there. I was like, Brandi girl! I grabbed we hand as shes tryin to talk I'm like "if you put it down right like the way I want it in the club then maybe we could fall in love!"
She's really liking it. Her friends are right here too. We vibe some and I'm all goood. Plus I'm impatient so I kiss her lips and she's gives me the palm to neck/chin move.
I laugh, social conditioning I'm assuming plus the friends, or my game.
I laugh and just dip out. Gonna start staying in set tho cuz that's what champions do.
See girl all good. Last approach after stalling out for awhile. I just go up it took some willpower and she's like hey and receptive to my emotions and intent.
I believe if I was more in the intent side of the equation she woulda digged and and like went up on me but I communicated chillness and potential attractiveness. Started chatting. I think I tried physicality and that failed then I said some dumb shit. Then friends came in. Basically approached cool...but fucked it up internally.
I could've gotten any of these girls, its quite possible but this one I think prolly just needed a horny dude with congruent behavior/socially acceptable to a point. Own intentions.
So major learning experiences:
Approach MORE GIRLS. I DID NOT GET ULLY INTO OUTER SPACE EVER.
KEEP BEING PHYSICAL AND LEARN
-high fives are gay, hugs are better
Be louder and more attention grabbing. MORE EH!! Off the opener.
KEEP DOING KINO YOU FAILURE
DO NOT GO MORE THAN A MINUTE BETWEEN APPROACHES SOOOOO CHODE AND STAY IN SET LIKE YOU ARE DOOMED THERE. Endure!
IMPORTANT: ENGAGE THE FRIENDS LIKE ITS A MUTHERFUCKING FIREFIGHT!!! denenenenDNENENENNNEN!!!!!! Bang bang!!! BOOM!!! "Ahhhhh"
Hand of god will eventually work.
Pausing before a girl is fully engaged with you is bad. Makes sence.
Keep going! Open all!
Reapproach up to 4 times.
Also be a leader more. Lean into your fears, tread uncharted waters. Go where the pain is.
Don't say dumb shit...don't run out of things to say.
Monopolize your emotions, centered within your own behavior.
MANY MORE LEARNING EXPERIENCES CONSCIOUSLY FORGOTTEN ONLY TO APPEAR PHANTOMICALLY IN THE FIELD AS NEW THOUGHTS WORDS AND ACTIONS. AN INEVITABLE PART OF GOIN OUT ALOT. YOU CHANGE ON AN UNCONSCIOUS LEVEL AND ON A CONSCIOUS LEVEL (if you write blogs you maximize your conscious learning capacity)
Things u did well:
Kissed a girl
Made girls smile
I was happy the while night even now.
Focuses on the process not the outcome
I spoke loud tonight
AND MANY MANY MANY MANY OTHER VERY GOOD THINGS THARE ARE ONLY HONNA GET EVEB BETTER AND EVEN STRONGER AS THE NIGHTS GO BUY.
This is all, thanks for not reading my blog