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My latest philosophy is based on that succes comes not from the pursuit to want the success, but from the LOVE to your decisions, hobbies, job, etc. You probably need to do something, and you want to do something (different), but basically you DONT HAVE TO do something, you DECIDE to do something. Be loyal to your decisions. Often you cant decide to do what you love so much, but have to love what you decide to do. Its no fucking spiritual shit, this are two different concept and workflows you apply. You probably heard all that stuff and I recommend some books about success, as this whole succes thing is your house - where your dating life is a room in it.

However I struggled with the principle of non-neediness hard. Actually if you want to be non-needy to get chicks you are acting needy.

You dont decide to approach that hottie because you need her validation, but simply BECAUSE YOU WANT HER. If you dont know what the difference is - I cannot describe it for you - YOU FEEL IT

Peace
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Fuck her
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When you do not know why you are good.
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Okay, this is kinda strange. Remember when you didn't have the nuts to do something, because you were too nervous? Remember when you meant you had no state.

I remember being fucking paralyzed when I had my first time.

Okay here is the thing, you cannot make your head to cut the nervousness and simply to chill. Or better said not the usual way. When I get nervous I go into "Action Mode", meaning that when I get nervous, I do not wanna chill, i wanna go fucking nuts. And when I reached a certain level I am able to blast trough the image of my existence and use my potential, look forward and chill. But not chill like fucking stoner, chill like fucking iron. You must understand that your potential is way more bigger than your image of yourself.

You see a challenge and you get to decide, you get nervous - your body wants to say that it want to get something of your potential. Nervousness helps you.
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We have a big campus on our town's university where often many 15-19 yrolds collect on weekends and where I (19) was really really popular when I had school holidays. Then the holidays were over and I visited school with my new confidence. I became more popular. Sounds like a cool story. But there's a problem: I couldn't stop thinking about that I had lower value in school that I have on weekends when I'm sarging. So I started to care more what other students think of me what is against my philosophy in general, so I tryd to gain more and more outer game to get better results, and came quickly to an end. There just was an end, the frustration that you cant get this level and suffer to get to the next level. I was in an vicious cycle with my goal (more value in school) where I wanted to "socialize" as far as possible, but was just collecting value as far as possible. I needed another point I can concentrate on. High school really sucks when you watch it as a competition (competing with other students). Set another goals. If your confidence falls, there is only arrogance remaining. I was so concentrated on outer game, trying to impress, even trying acting not trying to impress to impress (which is the most horrible). Also: Impressing other people is very connected to perfectionism, which is stopping you from your goals. I was acting like a company idealising its commercials more and more to get more and more money until to the point competing with others who do the same. I know that value gives you (or nearly equals) confidence, so my goal was to sell me as good as possible.
The thing is that you should not collect value and store it, but to let it circulate, everybody gives and takes value and those that can use it good, will have more value than those who are constantly storing it. See yourself as a politician who has to decide where the money should go to.
That makes you completely independant of approval, because your confidence is independant from how much you have, but how well you handle value and give it to people. Outer game is really second.
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Last night: private party of some classmates, no closes, a bit drunk, high, and very very social. walked home for about an hour. Feels good.

Stress is good

This is maybe the core of pickup, being alpha, discipline or self-development. Coming out the comfort zone to develop yourself, to struggle with the outer stress (people bitching around) and the inner stress (negative thoughts). I read Ozzie saying that punching through resistance (from the girl) is that what creates attraction, but there's not only resistance from her, but also from yourself (I also think that resistance only exists in your head) and maybe this is because many keyboard jockeys, lazy dudes, but also beginners in pickup concentrate on inner game or outer game details, it reduces the stress and resistance. Sure, game is fun, but it also envolves handling much stress, the alpha is that guy who can handle the most stress in the group. Be it discipline, positivity, humour, pickup tactics, KINO, socialness, it all comes down to the handling of stress/emotions. A straight back is also very important, i don't know, but it kinda gets you to another level of stress.
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Sometimes I cath myself procrastinating an approach, house work, studies, whatever. Yeah, we all know that this is bad, but it is so comfortable. But one day I rode my bike to a village near my town with a badass hill inbetween and realized one of the simplest things on earth you can actually describe philosophically: you need to ride uphill, before enjoying the ride downhill, yeah simple Newtonian physics, I know. Also stopping in the middle for your comfort does fucking nothing and riding back makes no sense. Lazyness is like riding on the same level, without riding uphill, but also not riding downhill.

If you have a negative connotation with discipline in your mind, like I had (my first sports teacher, which was dislikable IMO,  taught me the word), I offer a kinda optimistic view of discipline: it nearly never is bad: It is like the potential energy you invest (riding uphill) to enjoy the ride downhill, delaying gratification.

But it also takes an independance, I better say acceptance of your own emotions to push through the hard part. (Jeffy said something like: "Better pain of discipline, than pain of regret") But soon you will begin to eat energy of your discipline, of your excitement, viewing pickup kinda like a sport or hobby, where the work IS the fun.

And yeah, its kinda attractive to the girls.  But that comes second to what discipline really is: The biggest factor for success.

Also read the Marshmallow Experiment
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Yo, this one is simple and huge: People are your friends.
If you treat people as obstacles, they will also treat you as obstacles.
If you just believe the mindset that people are your friends your behaviour changes and so your reality.
You probably ask "Oh Eugene, how do I believe this?"
I know, some of you are probably gamers and this functions great for me.

This is all a game. Imagine there is a ball, an icon, over a person you see, it is green and its meaning is:
This person is friendly. He/she does not harm you. This person likes you.
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Dont search for the moment

1. You missed the right moment
2. There is none
3. You decide when it is
4. It doesnt come if you search for it

All in one: the right moment is unimportant
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I had an epiphany a while ago that goes like this: "Hey if im going with good energy into a set, the set will react good", yeah pickup scientists said this tousand times.

Maybe I will go deeper in this, but i just want to say. Go away from this powersaving, its like living life on standby mode. "Investing Energy" sounds a little bit pussy to me like searching for approval.

I have a good metaphor for this: What you do should be like a chemical reaction, use energy to start the reaction (BAAAAAM, *explosion*) and the reaction will spend you energy, the chemistry's going on, ya know :D
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