Wow! Probably the wierdest pick-up night I've ever had.
I actually only did 3 short sets the whole night. It's 12:28 right now, and I was only out for about an hour tops... Actually, there's just not a whole lot going on on a Monday night in my town. Granted, there was one place... but it ended up not really working out because of a surprising event.
So, my first set I spotted in an open, well-lit parking lot as I was on the sidewalk opposite them. I kept walking for a second and then I was like, Fuck! That might be the only set tonight, and they looked really cute, too. So! I ran over and yelled HEY! HEY! Ha ha ha... I was really nervous because I had never done an approach like this before but anyways, they stopped and turned around and they WERE really cute. A couple blondes with short blue jean shorts and black tops.
I was like, Hey, I know it's really creepy running up to you in the dark in a parking lot, but my assignment is to talk to at least 5 beautiful women tonight. Hey, I'm Aaron."
Bam! So... they're interested, and one of them starts smiling a bit and she's like what assignment? Who gave it to you?" And I'm like, "Actually, I gave it to myself." And I just started talking about how on Monday they might be the only cute girls in the whole city out right now and some other bla bla stuff and they were like, "Well, we have to go..." But they said it kind of like... well, they were still looking for me to lead and to see how I would respond to her saying that. So I was just like, "Ok, cool, so did you guys go to Dixie's?" And I just kept right on in the conversation! Ha ha... anyways, this is when things took a turn.
All of a sudden, two dudes roll up. Don't even look at me and start talking to the girls. Apparently they knew each other from work and they had just gotten off together. They don't even acknowledge me or anything, so, I just started to talk to one of the girls about her rainbow flip-flops and "plow"... and the wierd thing is that they just completely ignored me.
So, I was just like, "Ok, well, y'all aren't even responding at all, so I'm just gonna go." And I walked away.
I walk into Dixie's and I'm in there for 1 minute when the bouncer says "Walk with me outside." He's a big dude, so I comply. Also, he's the bouncer.
I come outside and I ask, "So, what's going on?"
He doesn't respond.
Me: Hey! WHat's up, man? Why did you want to talk to me?
Him: Talk to this guy.
And he's pointing to this cop coming up to us.
Ha ha ha, so there's also this other guy there with a t-shirt that says the name of the same place where the two girls and two guys I had been talking with earlier worked at, and I'm still thinking, what the fuck is going on?
So as soon as I role up, the guy in the work t-shirt says to the cop: my friend says this guy was harrassing our friends in the parking lot.
Me: Oh my god, that's ridiculous, who said that? I was just talking to them.
Cop: Ok, well, hold on, I want to talk to them.
So the cop gets on the phone with the girl and he looks at me and shakes his head like, ok, yeah, this is ridiculous, and he motions for me to leave.
So I left.
Yeah. Weird night...
When I think about it, I think where I went wrong was when those two dudes came up to me and the two girls in the parking lot. I should have talked to them, or at least said, "Hey! Why aren't you acknowledging me? I'm a real person. Do you have a problem or something? You guys are being really weird right now." Or something like that... I just didn't step up as a man and say what I was feeling in my gut. And I KNOW that if I had stepped up and addressed the issue, the whole situation with the cop would have been avoided.
What a bunch of douchebags. Ha ha... I think it just shook their reality too much to see a guy approach a couple cute girls (that they knew, so they probably also just wanted to be protective heros or some bullshit) and it actually go well. And I think it pissed them off that their feelings of superiority and alphaness were somehow shaken and put to the test. And they were like, well, let's call the cops and tell them that this guy was harrassing our friends. That'll show 'em! They were probably like 19 or maybe 20 years old. Stupid fucking chodes...
But it's whatever.
So, I was shaken up a little bit, but not too badly. After all, I knew I hadn't done anything wrong, and the whole ordeal didn't even last 4 minutes... it was just stupid.
So I'm walking back to my car like, shit. I only talked to 1 set tonight...
On the way back I see 2 girls and a guy and I'm like, OK! Let's go! (Unless he's having a 3-some, at least one of the girls will be available... ;P)
So I go up to them and I'm like "HEy! I'm Aaron!" And they guy goes, "No, I'm not giving you money."
Me: Ha ha, nah man, I don't want money
He cuts me off: No.... (Actually, I don't remember what he said he)
Me: I just came out to be social and I thought I would meet you guys
He sticks out his hand and I shake it and he says Well, good luck man (If you can't tell, he's being a total jerk)
Me: All right, well thanks! Have a good night!
Ha ha ha... so after being reported to the cops, the next set I go up to thinks I want money and when they discover I'm just being social, I'm dismissed immediately.
The girls who were with Jerk_handshake_man were actually liking me and they were mad that he was being such an asshole, but the funny thing is... none of it really shook me that bad...
With the cop, I learned a cool lesson about stepping up and demanding that people be normal and not weird anti-social douches, and with the jerk, I realized that I can still keep my state up relatively well, even when someone's being an asshole... or at least I did tonight.
So, I'm walking back to my car again... it's like 4 blocks away, and half-way there I see these two hispanic girls. One ugly, one cute, taking pictures of what looks like the stoplight... or something... so I say to them, "Ah! You can't tell you guys are tourists at all!"
Ugly one: No! We're actually not, but it's so beautiful.
Me: Oh, yeah... it's nice, but that's interesting you're taking pictures of the stoplight...
And we just chatted for a while... maybe 3-4 minutes... I was like, "Are y'all sisters?" B/c they sort of looked alike, and turns out the ugly one was the mother! Ha ha ha... and the mother was asking me TONS of questions like, "Are you from here? Where do you go to school?" And a few other rapport questions... it was interesting... I really wanted to talk to the daughter, but the mother was hogging the conversation, and I should have just started talking to the mother about how cute her daughter was and just gone direct hardcore, now that I think about it...
Damn. That's why I do these posts. I really think these posts are such a key to getting good. Because it helps you analyze and break down what happened, and what I can do differently next time. I mean, I can see myself getting good without it, but I know posting about what happens each night is going to REALLY be crucial in learning this stuff quickly.
So, to summarize the lessons from the night:
1. Step up and say what's on your mind and what in your heart and gut or someone might call the cops.
2. Follow your gut. If you're thinking something, say it. I have nothing to lose and everything to gain.
Who cares if I ruin an interaction while pursuing what I want? If I don't risk it, I'll lose it anyways!
If I don't risk losing it, I've already lost it.