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Ok, I've recently turned 22 and I have never had a girlfriend and never had sex although I've done things such as fingering girls. When I was around 16 or so my dad freaked out on me when he discovered I was talking to a girl and started chanting "keep your dick in your pants" whenever I talked about going out etcetera. The reason for this is that he never has any money to give his kids (5 from 3 different women) and his life is not far from the life of a vagrant despite a decent paying job. They were a couple of (mostly unattractive)  girls that were attracted to me throughout college but I always thought they were playing around and I even told a girl "I'm gay" to get her off my back. Girls that i'm attracted end up friend zoning me and tbh I'm tired of the whole thing and want to start taking steps in the right direction. I've started taking better care of myself in terms of hair cuts and even started dressing more 'flashy'. When I say flashy, I'm an average height, muscular guy so I've started buying closer fitting shirts as opposed to my regular cargo pants and t shirt mode. Where I live they aren't many night clubs etcetera and I prefer to lime with friends at the beach as opposed to going to a club. For whatever reason though, as of late this issue with women has really been sticking me in the side since I've realized time is ticking. Tried asking girls straight up for sex and was shot down. I want to express myself as a man properly, fucking thing seems confusing somewhat, never gave a shit until now. It feel like i've woken up from sleeping and know that I have to go out there and conquer but it's like wtf do I do, I've reached 22,  why give a fuck now? Completing my degree soon and I would really like this shit handled before money starts coming in and the gold diggers start coming around since I've seen a similar situation and  that shit ain't pretty.
Side Notes
For some strange reason, some women think i'm a womanizer. Don't know if it's because of the muscle.....
A friend who was in a similar situation payed a prostitute and is now acting like he's a God.
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#1
dcampo3

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Join Date: 05/01/2012 | Posts: 1988

well man... only you can take the decisions that you want in your life. Pretty much i was in the same situation you were 4 months ago. I suggest you read my chode confession.
http://www.rsdnation.com/node/233115/forum?page=2
And also how ive been progressing, my journal: http://www.rsdnation.com/node/227409/forum?page=3
Pretty much, the solution is simple: Take action, challenge your fears, and expand your reality. Thats the way to master pick up.
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Nova88

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Join Date: 06/21/2012 | Posts: 18

Watch Transformations.
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Nova88

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Join Date: 06/21/2012 | Posts: 18

You have to step up and be a Man. The boy in you must die. Feel confortable with having sex dude its natural. You cant become good at anything unless you practice so go do it : )
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Jumpin

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Join Date: 05/17/2011 | Posts: 46

Sup bro, the reason your friend is acting like he's a God is because he is high off the "TEMPORARY" ego boost. And it is not necessarily to be judged, no one can really avoid an ego boost at the start, until you notice that behavioural pattern and then you discipline yourself to be more down to earth (presuming that's what you want).

Right, althought in theory impossible to boil things down and give you a magic pill, I will based on my experience, and then I will say what you would probably need to do to get your own experience.

Your voice must be projected well, and no matter what you have to say, must be said in a manner that communicates that you want to be heard.

You must be comfortable holding eye contact (understanding that if you feel butterflies, it is some ego protective reflex that you shouldn't really give in to)

Direct yours and hers attention to what you find interesting or fun in the moment, making yourself "happier", and what you feel she feels. (set your target to chatting and giving a range of emotions, rather than fucking) and you will get it.

You have to be extremely responsive and PRESENT when in a conversation and not allowing yourself to go into "day-dream" mode. This is genuinely tiring, and you will want to perserve energy and avoid social rejection by ''switching off'' and not being 100% in the conversation. YOU WILL GET PUNISHED IF YOU ARE NOT PRESENT.

LEAD, Take pressuer off the girl by (chatting to her on a private level, as in, whenever possible, isolate her from her friends so she dont feel like a slut). Be man enough to push for (a make out, extraction or doing what you want to do) and yet still be LEADing to the point where you notice if she is uncomfortable with it and if you need to POSTPONE, and just keep chatting/dancing/having fun/shouting together....

You have to be able to not take yourself too seriously... thereby showing confidence and modesty ( you know you are not the end all be all... you know that you are not a loser so you don't care about your """image"""" that much )

Now on a more realistic note, get reference experiences (go out and talk to women) which will tell you 1) you dont have to be a virgin for the rest of your life
2) girls like you, just cuz you are a man
3) girls will like you even more if you can be 'real', basically meaning that you don't need to be "perceived" in a certain way, but you can just be funny, cool and present.

Anyway resources are obvious (if you have real low self esteem watch blue print) 
If you are decent with confidence go for foundations/transformations, watch tylers youtube videos on Intent (http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=268fopITxKM)  and then the one on congruency, watch jeffy show part where he talks about vocal projection.

Alright bro, good luck...
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awakened1

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Join Date: 03/19/2012 | Posts: 3

 Thanks for the feedback peeps, I'll start posting my attempts in the coming weeks.
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