Field Reports

 
Continuing with field reports. I went to club by Korea town last night. I was feeling out of state in the beginning. I should have just forced myself into talking to some people. I was feeling bored/tired all day. I should never let state effect how I act. It's all internal, so I just talk to a bunch and I get over it.

I felt that it was too loud to talk so I decided to just do kino blowout mission. It was a solo sarge. I grinded with two girls. I realized that I have to stop thinking too far ahead of how I think they'll react, and just DO IT. I won't really know unless I try. And I'm usually rewarded for my efforts. I have to not let my ego get in the way. But I did go in, so Im proud of myself.

When I go in, I have to just be doing my own thing, in my own reality. Do what I came to do. My jap girl friend came over later with some friends. I should have talked to them, one of them was a lesbian. Its all about the networking.

Clubbing made me realize how I have to put in 100% all the time if I'm going to get a girlfriend that I want. I have to work on myself and most importantly, not be afraid of the experience. This is who I am, I'm a pimp, I'm cool, i'm the shit, and I'm going to keep going for it until I get what I want.

I went all the way from manhattan to queens, because I had nowhere to crash in newark or manhattan. Didn't get back til like 10am. The things I go through for girls. I have to work hard and focus on getting these girls on dates. No other way.

I already know what to do, I have friends in relationships. I just have to get to that point.
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This is an old forum post by Tyler from back in 2007. Extremely inspiring so I had to share. I'm currently looking for a job and I will spend 13 hours a day until I get one. I will not rationalize 3 hours as hard work and that Tyler is extreme blah blah. I have the HUSTLER SPIRIT and am setting standards for myself. This piece by Tyler is so real to me, I remember reading it two years ago and it was like watching a movie. I couldn't get myself to actually IMPLEMENT it. But I have reference experience now and i KNOW that it works.

Enjoy. :)

Establishing Clear-cut, Inviolable Personal Standards for Yourself

Kickass Anthony Robbins vid up on here --> dude is totally dominating the stage and fully in state... Wow.

Anyway, Tony is talking about your model of the world and how it translates into all your behaviours -- and on that note, I'm going to post an article here that I think is important, but that also might offend a few people.

As your parents probably told you growing up, there's a few topics that people will tend to have emotional disagreements towards... 1) Religion, 2) Sex, 3) Politics, and 4) Money.

That being the case, if anyone takes offense to it, just take it as one of my own wacky personal beliefs that you don't necessarily have to take on board.

At the same time, if you think it's something you need to hear (which for some of you it will be) then, like...... print it and paste it to your wall or something.

OK, here goes........

So today there was a post on RSD Nation about a predicament that a well-known member has found himself in.

Here it is.......:

"This post is not so much related to game as it is to life. The past several months have been kind of hard on me, and I am in a situation that can be considered "rock bottom" right now. It wasn't all that long ago that I had a great stable job, a longterm girlfriend, a nice car and I lived in the city. Everything was hunkie dorie. I had a college degree and success was just around the corner.

The past year however things have gotten really bad in my life. I had some money issues and had to move back to my hometown after I broke up with my girlfriend, and there is no job potential here. I also have lost the ability to drive because of a stupid mistake that I made. The only thing that has really driven me is that I have been working on bettering myself and my inner game, and learning how to game girls. Right now as it stands I am stuck in a dead end town, with no potential and no wheels.

A part of me wants to find a way out, sell my car, and take off to parts unknown to start a new life. This is something I have never done before though and it is kind of intimidating because I would be going some place with no wheels and no job. All my life I have lived in the Northeast and to go south or west would be quite a risk. The alternative though is to stay in a dead end town, with a limited amount of targets, and no jobs.

I feel like if I stay here I will just be giving up, there would be little chance to save up money, and it may be a couple years before I can truely get my life going again. If I take off somewhere else though, somewhere with public transportation, job potential, and targets ... I will be taking a huge risk. At least here I have friends and family to help me to get through this.

Anyways I know this is some really personal shit I am throwing out there, but I am hoping there are some guys on here that have gone through a rock bottom period, or who would be able to offer some of their perspective and help me to understand the relevance of this decision. How can I make the best of this situation?"

Alright, so for some reason I found myself having somewhat of an emotional response to this.

It reminded me a great deal of the situation that I personally came from, and how important it is to me to always find a way to rise above it.

So here is my response, which I originally wrote up for the forum but decided to post to the wider audience up on here......

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The challenge with certain small towns is that although it's cheaper to live, there is also oftentimes very little in terms of earning potential.

Canada, for example, has much much cheaper rents and whatnot however the earning potential is 10-100X less than it is in the United States. In Canada if you make $250,000 a year you're considered to be a very wealthy man or even a "rich prick". In a major city in the US if you making that you're, like............. keeping up with the Jones's.

Anyway, you may want to consider places like NYC or Honolulu where it's unnecessary to own a vehicle. Both have phenomenal public transportation systems, as opposed to places like Los Angeles where public transpo is virtually impossible.

I don't own a car and I have absolutely no plans of owning one any time soon -- and that's because I almost always choose to put the extra $1000 in gas/insurance/repairs/payments towards the rent to live centrally in cities where they aren't required.

If I were you, I would personally save enough to barely scape by for ONE month. Then I'd print of several thousand resumes (I'd actually start with a few hundred and modify them based on feedback) -- and approach employer after employer for about 13 hours a day until I got a semi-decent job, even as a waiter or a bartender.

Once I'd secured even a semi-decent job I'd keep applying and applying in every spare moment I had until I got a better one.

Of course, if you have no trackrecord of being self-motivated and working that hard in the past then there is very little reason to believe that you'll do so in the future. You'll probably wind up doing like 3-5 hours of applying for jobs per day and rationalize that it was a lot of work, however you'll soon run out of money and be left in a foreign city totally screwed.

That being the case, you may want to start with smaller, more realistic goals such as going to the gym 5 times a week and lifting weights, etc etc... Then once you've cultivated the habits of creating a goal and sticking to it, you can upgrade your goals to something more on the "wild side".

I've personally been broke without food numerous times growing up, so I have a hardcore hustler's spirit and to me the situation you're in sounds like child's play. Every time I think of being broke and hungry again I feel this massive panic in my chest and feel like throwing up, and then I start working like a fucking madman.

Your situation, to me, is like a nightmare I've been in myself multiple times. Stuck in a circular rut where you live in a small town in which you can't make money, however with no means of getting out because it TAKES money to MAKE money -- and to get to the place where you could MAKE money you'd need to somehow FIND money in order to get there.

Ugghhhh......

Still, I've been there many times and throw me into your shoes and I'd be back on my feet in under 90 days.... Seriously.

How would I do it?? I'd think fucking Big, and I wouldn't entertain a SINGLE thought that isn't productive at all whatsoever. The only thing I'd think of is HOW DO I DO IT and to KEEP FUCKING MOVING.

I've done this my whole life. It's the only way I personally know of to get anything done.

Imagine waking up in Kandahar Afganistan and finding out that you've been transplanted to a mud-hut village with filthy water and disease and despair.

You'd do *anything*, like literally whatever it takes, to get yourself back to America. It'd be like a horror movie where the guy is trying to get out of Hell and back to his family.

THAT is what going back to living in a no-opportunity/no-employment town with zero possibility of escaping is like to me. The things I'd do (and have done in the past) to get out of it are literally that extreme.

The challenge is that even if you're "depressed" or "sad" about it, you'll still stay there because it's more difficult to motivate/discipline yourself than it is to maintain at a semi-crappy state.

For me though, I wouldn't be "depressed" about being back in that situation.... I'd be vomiting and freaking out like I was in a pool of acid burning off my skin.

Sure, if there were no other possibility then I'd accept it. I could meditate and resign myself to find happiness in my own mind --> self-generating like I do when I'm on a 40 hour airplane flight or pushing through difficult challenges with my work.

But to me it's about PERSONAL STANDARDS, and one of my personal standards is not going back to that type of situation.

I will never, ever be without food again -- no matter what.

I will never, ever be stuck in a bad situation for more than 90 days -- no matter what.

It's like how guys will often ask me "How did you find the motivation to go out all those nights??"

The thing is, not having a hot girlfriend in my twenties and thirties is totally unacceptable to me.

It's so unacceptable that to fix it I'd do literally anything. I didn't have to "motivate" myself to go out anymore than you'd have to motivate yourself to jump out of a nazi gas chamber.

Mediocrity just isn't acceptable with all the opportunity in the world right now. I've been in mediocre situations and to go back to them would be like going back to the third grade and sitting there for a whole year PRETENDING to be stimulated by what's being taught.

It's just not something I would accept under any circumstances.

That being the case, my brain would go into "emergency mode" and you'd find me in a better situation within 90 days.

The thing is, you can read this now and get all motivated and pumped up like "Yeaaah I'm going to get out of here!!"

But as soon as you turn off the forum and a few hours pass, if you haven't maintained that level of emotional-leverage then your brain is going to find all sorts of rationalizations like "It's really not that bad here.... That Tyler guy is way too extreme.... He's just dealing with emotional issues and he can't find the beauty in the simplicity of a more straightforward existence like mine..."

The thing is, I COULD find happiness in mediocrity if there was a reason to, and if I had to live in Afganistan I'd do that do too. The fact is that I DON'T have a reason to, and that being the case, my personal standards for myself are that I treat myself as a "first class citizen" and I've got to treat my own life with the respect to do the things I truly care about while I'm at an age where I can appreciate them.

Hope that stirs up some thoughts.


Tyler
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Was just reading Brad Branson's blog, a lot of good mindsets that I can relate with. I really need to get my life in order and start going out more. I miss the days in the fall where I felt like I was going through girl after girl. I realized recently that everytime I go back home, I'll feel like I'm back at a time when I wasn't as confident. But in reality only the environment changed, not me.

I'm developing core confidence so I can be myself regardless of the environment. I went to a party saturday night. Intense experience. The birthday girl's boyfriend killed himself. Here I was, in my self-pitying, analytical mindset, too disconnected to see that there was a outside reality with insecure, flawed people. I missed the big picture. The boyfriend seemed like a good guy from his blog. Really loved his girl, was stressed from his architecture work, from what I hear he was emotional and little shy. And he took his own life. It's something I won't forget and I'll use as fuel to drive my own life.

I remember feeling uncalibrated that night, felt hard to maintain good contact, but after talking to a bunch of people (and a few drinks) I got social and made some cool friends. It was all good. I really have to go out more. I remember thinking about how I should stop focusing on things that didn't help me and just working on being a better, stronger person. Old memories of the girls I got with last fall came up. When I was in my college apartment, I felt more indepedent, more like I HAD to do this my own, I had to shift my paradigms BECAUSE I HAD NOTHING ELSE TO FALL BACK ON.

I learned the most through action, not thinking oh should I do this or that, pros and cons blah blah. When in doubt, just take ACTION. Keep doing it until its second nature and soon everything will make sense. I'm just a guy. I have limitations. I can't understand everything. But I know I'm the shit. I know i'm smart and cool. I trust in that.  I have to keep moving though and not the let the world i built in my head to get any bigger.

I know what I have to do, and it will be done. It will FEEL right. I know exactly what needs to be done. If i'm not calibrated, then I will work on it until I have. I am the ONE.
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Back on campus. Been really lazy and slacking past couple of weeks. Hearing about guys who have a girlfriend and two fuck buddies really motivates me. I did some cold approaches last week that put me over my comfort zone, but I need to do more. I have the right mindset, Im just seeing if these girls are cool and letting my personality shine. I'm cooler than them and don't have to prove anything.

I was with my friend and his female cousin in the city yesterday, and I felt a little stiff, since I havent been socializing with girls much. I understand good sucom now, I just have to ingrain it in with massive field practice. Not think so much, just go for it. I have another night before I go home so it's time to open some sets!

-the one
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im on addy right now so i may as well contribute something to the community.

ever since getting into game, i hoped that there would be a quick fix and it would allow me to have control over things, which is something i wanted my whole life. recently i realized that game is basically overcoming and re-wiring your mind to have good social habits -- that's at least how i see it.

tactics are just the result of someone else's calibration that you can use so you can focus on more important things.

but doing this helped me get out of my head. and even though i'm still too analytical, at least i'm aware of it and can focus on talking to people and calibrating. i just have to trust that if i stick with the habit that i'll get it. i'm a winner so i know i'll get it.

im always aware now of who is controlling the frame, who is alpha, what kind of vibe creates attractions, etc. it takes effort for me to BE MYSELF and just focus on my SELF. i just have to go with the flow sometimes, nobody is micromanaging anything. i'm ALPHA, so i just have to be myself and TRUST that it will show and KNOW that I will get better over time -- all I really need is to look at my past to understand that.

I used to be a lost, lonely kid, with no idea how to express myself. Now, I just DO ME, and it shows, and I can relate on an equal level with other people. i just have to stay social and socialize a SHITLOAD. Work on new things everyday. Don't expect rewards all the time, all that matters is that I PUSH MY COMFORT ZONE BECAUSE THAT'S WHAT A MAN DOES. There's no getting around that.

If I'm a man, I go for what I want, and i don't let bad emotions drag me down. Talk to everyone, and have passion other than just pickup. Mine is being a successful businessman. Just think how fucking COOL it is, running your own business, making money, and spending it on whatever I want.

"Focus on YOUR reality."

-The One
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not even going to lie, i'm depressed constantly because i'm not overcoming my fear and achieving the goals that will make me happy. i'm looking to follow someone else's life. i'm not FOCUSING ON MY REALITY and that is the root of all my problems. i don't have my girl, i dont have my job, i dont have my passion, i'm still LOOKING FOR OTHER PEOPLE TO DICTATE MY REALITY.

don't even entertain an unproductive thought for half a second.

do what i need to do. i know what i need to do. just do it.

-The One
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fuck this girl that i was seeing in february just got into a relationship. i kept putting it off, i should have seen her. i kept doubting myself. i should have assumed she was playing hard to get adn just kept pushing it. she said she gave me clues... what fuckiing clues? first week, we hook up and then she stops. im confused, think i messed up and stopped. she complains to my friend so i know its still on, i text her, end up in college party getting head from another chick. she waited for me to call her that weekend adn she sees my party pics. she says shes tired of waiting.. im mad at her and stop trying all together. really, it's bc i didn't know what the fuck to do, and was too scared to just TRY ANYTHING. anything would have at least made it clear what was up -- either she's down or it's over. i look at how F handles J. she's bitchy and emo and he PUTS UP WITH IT. I just got mad.

well, now she's in an LTR, and im at home getting anxious and letting old thoughts take over. sometimes i think im a nut job. i have to get out of this rut. i went out with jrole the other night and i got my pimp on, danced with so many girls... but i need to be getting it in with them. i need to get into social circles where i meet and seduce girls. the touch of a girl. i need it. stop studying pickup and just ACT.
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Listing my life goals that are a reflection of my values so I can align my internal compass towards this direction.

I want to have relationships with the kind of girls that I like.
I want to have a social circle of cool, ambitious people.
I want to have financial freedom by having my own businesses.
I want to have excellent health and a muscular physique.
I want to travel to Asia, Africa, Austrailia.
I want to teach others how to improve their lives and understand themselves better.

Everytime I move towards these goals, I should feel like the shit, because I'm making MY life better and making other people's lives better.

Like Will Smith said, talent isn't required, what you need is dedication and ridiculous amount of hard work. When the rest of the world is sleeping or eating, you have to WORKING TOWARDS YOUR GOALS.
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Going to focus on sexual framing for the next month since it makes sense to me that this is the best way to get SNLs, which is what I want. I need to be more scientific when it comes to this. Sticking point analysis, game plans, going out and talking to at least ten girls a day.

Notes on sticking point analysis

NEED GAME PLAN
Open, Attract, Qualify, Comfort, Sexual Escalation

Always be working on something. Something needs to change. Ask guys in the community.

Don't Number Close, it's useless. Time Bridge instead.
Time Bridge Routine
I'm having a party this saturday with my friends, and I'm bringing two mystery guests. I'm going to be there saturday in the UC at 9pm.

Field Work yields Patterns
If you qualify and she's not investing, then she's not attracted. THINK how can I solve this problem?
Work on 3 sticking points at a time. Go into set to work on sticking points.
eg. if your SP is time bridge, than work on getting tb in every set.

If you're inexperienced, just go for the lay if girl is into you.
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i went to this party in my old dorm last night. i tell these hispanic girls that im the birthday boy and they're really cool. i chill with the suite residents and i just have a good time. i should have talked more to the girls and everyone. i did realize that i cant be analytical and thinking whats the best thing to say, i just have to use my intuition, because everything happens in real time, i have to rely on emotional mind to guide and this is honed through practice. improv would be great, having a stack would help -- but the only i should be thinking all the time is "im the fucking shit, lets see if these ppl are cool." thats what works for me. just talk to ppl like i already know im the shit.

when the spanish girl was grinding on me, i was like this is fucking sexy i want to fuck a spanish girl. these black guys were dry humping them, and they were cool with it. black guys are comfortable with their sexuality. i should sarge with black brothers haha.
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