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Recently, I've been thinking about what my personal STICKING POINTS are...

I would have to say kiss-closing is my current SP. I can approach targets fairly well and open. Hitting the "hook point" is a minor issue for me. #closing is easy, but it's not a numbers game -- the #close is merely the bridge. Sometimes I "blank out" and feel as if I have nothing to offer. Kiss-closing is still my biggest obstacle because I don't do it on a consistent basis.

I've come to this conclusion. No techniques or tactics will aid me at this point. If I had a DEEP IDENTITY LEVEL CHANGE then my SP's would AUTO-CORRECT themselves. My sense of entitlement, confidence in my individuality, dominance, etc etc. If I could just SHIFT my reality, then it'd feel NATURAL to open, hook, escalate, kino, isolate, kiss-close, extract, !close, etc etc. It'd just be ME being ME.
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#1

Frost_

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Join Date: 07/07/2009 | Posts: 47

 "Making out in Clubs is not solid game" 

who cares?  It's fun.  If you want to kiss in a club figure out how to do it.  You push yourself enough, and you will figure it out.  An abundance mind set will allow you to go for it and not fear rejection.  Like Ozzie says, CLOSE!  Ride the train. 
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#2

aurelius

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Join Date: 12/21/2008 | Posts: 281

NewEden wrote:
For me "Making out in Clubs is not solid game" is good because takes you apart from the frame that "it's a big deal" in a strong way. Is good to read the classic article from Tyler with the same name.
Yeah, I've read Tyler's articles on game. His idea is that it's EASY to get a makeout, but that if you do it too early, it can subcommunicate undesirable things such as you're rushing.

Basically, the validation of kissing the girl feels good, but what are you after at the end of the day? You're trying to get her to your place.
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aurelius

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Join Date: 12/21/2008 | Posts: 281

Two months later, the sticking point is solved. I've made out with three girls in the past two weeks, even though they were results of social circle gaming, not cold approach. I feel like it's a much better investment of my time and energy to do social circle gaming. It's not hard to get a kiss because the comfort is there. All you need is Attraction.

At Elevate Lounge, I got the birthday girl to make out with me when I told her and one of of her best friends to make out. She hears it and kisses me. I'm just being cool and laid-back. There's no game involved. And because of this, her friend starts making out with me hard.

And just a few nights ago, I meet up with a girl I've hanged out with a couple times over the summer. I can tell she's into me, so when she sits next to me, I face her, lean in and kiss her. We later do some hardcore french kissing on the stairs. Oh man, if I had known it was this EASY. I kind of hate myself now... haha.
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