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 It’s 7 in the morning right now and Im just in my head. I just woke up from a dream where I told I was on a trip with friends and something was going on. Lin was there. She was just chilling there I think I was getting her back or maybe she was my girl idk. But it felt weird because I’d always thought a girlfriend would just be perfect and everything’d be rose and butterflies.. but reality can’t be like that. That’s the shit from movies. I’ve been in short relationships.. I’ve seen friends in relationships… it’s never perfect. It’s like with lin. Idk why I cant stop thinking about her. It’s like how I got myself to have strong feelings for patty and then tammy for a while. U invest in something and then can’t get it… then u feel like u just want it back. I know she liked me a lot. Our relationship was so short. Like 2 weeks.. I didn’t know what to do when she played hard to get. I should have just kept hitting her up. She liked me. Jo gives ferrie a hard time and acts insecure and emotional. He puts up with it. I just get mad and thinks she’s being stupid or trying to mess with me. If I want to be in a relationship I have to deal with that. Starting with girls right now. I know im better than 95% of guys out there. I just have to let my best self show. I have VALUE to add to these girl’s lives. Im tired of watching other people in their relationships. It’s all inner dialogue. I need to handle the reality in front of me. The way I do it. This is done and practiced, not studied.
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Laaavish

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Join Date: 10/30/2007 | Posts: 306

Hey dude - I noticed one main thing here: 

".. I didn’t know what to do when she played hard to get. I should have just kept hitting her up. She liked me. Jo gives ferrie a hard time and acts insecure and emotional. He puts up with it. I just get mad and thinks she’s being stupid or trying to mess with me. If I want to be in a relationship I have to deal with that.

As a guy with relationship experience and trying this and that, you are right.  You DO have to deal with that. Girls are stormy - whack emotions, testing you, gettin' jealous, making YOU feel jealous, etc etc etc

So as a man, you have to be there and weather that mo fuckin storm. Girls need that from you. Girls want to cry, yell, get mad, feel immense joy, and have you just be there without reacting emotionally (*not like a blank-faced serial killer, but patient and understanding, letting her feel the range of her emotions before reacting to the feelings you're getting from her).

I think the community can confuse guys who are in relationships -- guys who are working on their 'standards' start thinking, I WONT TOLERATE ANYTHING. NO BULLSHIT. Well guess what, you're not going to have a girlfriend then.

Girls want to know that when their shit gets whacky, they have a man who will stand strong, and be their pillar. Be grounded, let the girl be insecure and angry and emotional. Just don't react to it and get mad too. Understand she's not designed the same way you are, and let her express herself without judging her. Realize she's being a girl, and you have to be the man.  (Funny, as I typed this I had to stop - got a call from my g/f who was upset about menial shit, and I just followed my own advice, and by the end she was laughing and happy etc.)

It's rewarding too. You let her be a woman and she'll make you feel like a man. She will reward you for this (offering to cook for you, suck your dick, etc etc). But do it because its natural, not because you want chicken salad and a blowjob.  Haha cheers, hope this helps.
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pua4play

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Join Date: 01/11/2011 | Posts: 35

 Fuck 10 other chicks, you will forget about her.
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#3

aurelius

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Join Date: 12/21/2008 | Posts: 281

@Laaavish: Good stuff man, confirmed my recent realization. :)
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aurelius

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Join Date: 12/21/2008 | Posts: 281

pua4play wrote:
 Fuck 10 other chicks, you will forget about her.
That's an old community way to get over oneitus. It might work, but it's not going to help if you want to work out a relationship.
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