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 This is something I've noticed recently.  At social meets like society/club meetings and such I can walk in and get attraction going (both with women and as an interesting guy with the men).  In fact women's friends are frequently leaving the target alone with me after a few minutes.  These small situations escalate easily because the fun you are having with one girl in the corner of the room (pushing her around and making fun of her) are visibly obvious to others in the room (particularly women, what with their strong perephiral vision).  

What has shocked me though is how guys respond to me putting my arm around a girl or giving a stranger a hug, saying things like 'aw man, that has gotta be illegal! someone call the police'.  They are joking of course.  But what is funny is that I am doing some of the things that these guys consider 'magic' with women, simply because they have never done those things.  It really made me realise that I have in fact made progress.  What I am doing must look to them like magic...just as what some of my pick-up friends do looked like magic too me; I could see what those guys were doing but at the time I just couldn't fathom why or how they were getting away with it.

But alas, this confidence appears limited to interacting in social circles where talking to strangers is the norm.  Cold approach is still something I find hard.  In fact doing any more than 4 approaches a day really mentally tires me (especially if those approaches go badly).  I guess I need to get thicker skin.  What do you guys feel I should do to overcome this hurdle?  I suppose the problem I am facing is finding a reason to approach a woman...it just seems strange and awkward to do it and I don't think I am doing it enough to take that fact away.  If it was a social situation where talking to anyone is fair game though I don't feel intimidated by any woman.
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Articuno76

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Join Date: 05/08/2011 | Posts: 41

Another lesson learnt is that as long as I am calm I am probably coming across better than I think I am.  The fact that that girls' friends left her with with showed that on some level they all found me reasonably attractive (and I did number close the girl after all).  Throughout the whole interaction I didn't feel any of that fun energy that I am assuming is sexual-tension.  Nonetheless she responded well enough to me....maybe pick-up is actually just really mundane and straight forward sometimes....ahahaa! imagine that!
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drREIP

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Join Date: 09/29/2011 | Posts: 13

It may sound funny but thus far daygame is much more challenging for me than clubs. I get ridiculous state shifts during day time. Don't know why this is but I'm going to improve it no matter what. Discipline is key as always
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Articuno76

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Join Date: 05/08/2011 | Posts: 41

 I totally get what you are saying.  I think at night-time you feel less bothered because 
1. There are plenty of other girls around (who are receptive to being sociable because of the environment)
2. It is considered ok to approach people in the context of clubs

During the day though I get the feeling that I am bothering people from their studies or their busy working day if I stop them.  I think this is why I feel more comfortable in social situations that already exist rather than ones where I would have to break the social norm to establish contact.
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