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 So I went out again this week on Friday with my PUA friends. Scratch that, I think it is safe to call them just 'my friends' now. Anyway, I did several approaches that evening. It was quite intense on me because I haven't done this in so long. Some of the sets were pre-opened and I was introduced into them, some we opened as a group. A few I opened on my own too. I should point out at first that I have a killer new look: I started wearing contacts. I love how even the tiniest movement my eyes or mouth can give me a completely different edge, from cheeky to cocky to mischievous. When I wear glasses my entire look is focused around them, so I have trouble giving off different vibes. With contacts though the slightest chance of expression leads to a completely different personality being conveyed…at least that is who I feel about myself. Combined with seeing results in the gym and I am really feeling good about my body these days. I brought a book on self-esteem (The six-pillars of self-esteem)…but I am not sure I need it anymore. I think I will read it out of interest if nothing else though.

I also wore some clothes that are quite different to my regular clothes (a blue horizontal stripped cardigan, a black jacket and black shoes and blue jeans). I’ve never done a combination of clothing like that, but combined with the contacts and new haircut I looked totally different. My friends noted this. Most of the people that had only met me the week before didn’t even recognise me.

I told them that I felt I looked so good that when I looked in the mirror I came. This got loads of laughs…If I get the chance I want to say that in set!

Set 1: 4 girls near the bar counter
OK. So this was the first set I was set up to do. I was told to go in and use the 'who lies more? men or women?'. One of the girls said men lie more, and then proceeded to talk about what bastards men were and so on. I am guessing she has a problem with guys, or more likely she knew this was a pickup and was screwing it up on purpose. The conversation went on for a little while and then the girls turned to each other and asked 'what are you drinking?'. At which point I became invisible. Ah well. I approached, no loss there.

Set 2: 4 girls already opened
OK. This showed a remarkable contrast between how easy it is to talk to random girls vs a set that is already opened and going well. I was told to go into the set with the PU guy in. Say 'Hi!', shake his hand, and then have him introduce me. One of the girls was called Amy. I asked her if it was spelt 'Amy' or in a pretentious French way. It was just 'Amy'. I told her I liked that, it meant she was down to earth. She smiled. The next girl was called Daniella...I told her 'Hey! Did you not just hear what I said about being pretentious!' :P

She started backpedalling and trying to explain herself: 'it's not like that! My family is Italian'. Ahahaha. Good stuff. In the end I felt the PU guy already in set was controlling the set too much for me to do anything in it. Still I noticed that one of the girls who returned to the table was sitting there not responding to what he was saying to her (in terms of words), but was sat staring at the floor and repressing a smile like a little girl being scolded; this guy I was in set with was clearly pretty good.

Set 3: 3 girls standing around in the middle of the bar (pre-opened)
My friend went into this one and they responded really well. Then the third girl joined and we made fun of her name. She tried to make fun of us for being a gay couple and we told her she could never separate us, the she-witch. This girl was very touchy feely. And she was very easy to get my arm around and all that. I suppose sometimes you get sets like that as well.

I noticed my friend would do something interesting as well. He would ask what the girls would be doing later (at which girls give lame responses like 'walking around' or 'I dunno'). He would name drop a cool sounding place and told them come over later. Of course they never knew the name of this place (maybe it doesn't even exist). All I know is it made him look cool, in control of his directionality and finally made them seem a little uncultured.

Set 4: The marriage proposal
OK. So we needed to do something crazy to get me out of my head so was told to do a marriage proposal. It went like this:
Runs up to girl and taps her on the shoulder
Me: Sorry, I can’t let you go without you knowing this.
Gets down on one knee
Me: Will you marry me?
Girl looks bemused and she and her friend walk off
Me: Come baaaaaaack! You’re my last chance!!!

Doing this felt great. Our next set actually saw this so we talked right up to them.

Set 5: 2 girls 1 guy set who witnessed set 4.
My friend took one girl and the guy and started feeding them info about me…not sure why, maybe it is the celebrity effect? He was telling them what I’d studied, the places I’d been (he’d asked me about those very things that evening, now I understood why).
Girl: Don’t worry about those girls love, plenty more fish in the sea
// Somehow we ended up talking about the size of my penis. I’m short so it is an easy target for women to pick on.
Girl: Sorry love but I don’t think you have it quite down there if you know what I mean. Not enough penis for me.
She gestures a tiny penis with her fingers
Girl: Bet you are like that!
Me: Let me put it this way, I’m about 100x bigger than you are. How big is your penis?
Girl: Wha? You can’t prove that!
Me: Sure I can, I’m gonna need some evidence from you first though.
// The conversation moves on and we get onto the following topic //
Girl: Don’t worry love, worst case scenario is that you will have to find some easy to go home with.
Me: Nah, worst case scenario is I come back here (and pick you up).
She gets pretend angry
Girl: So I’m easy now? Is that what you are saying?
Me: Well, one of us had to say it! :P

We moved on to another set. This next set I opened totally on my own and my friend just watched from a distance. Enter set 6.

Set 6: 3 girls sitting down in a bar
This time I was to go with using nothing but normal conversation. Go on and ask ‘Hey girls, how is your evening’. Just like my friend did earlier.
I did this and got a mixed response. Ran out of things to say (ahahaha) and reverted to the ‘who lies more? Men or women?’.
The girls started getting suspicious
Them: So where is this friend you were arguing with?
I waved my friend over and he salvaged the set. Then I left him and headed off home, but I hit up two more on the way home.

Set 7: Middle-aged woman and two hot girls
So I saw this oldish looking woman flanked by two really hot girls. One wearing a sequin dress.
Me: You are really shiny!
The girl looks confused but pleasantly surprised.
Girl: Thanks
Me: Oh no, it’s not a compliment, it’s an observation. I hate it when I have to tell people that. ‘Hey you are wearing blue’…and then they get all happy about it. Then I have to run damage control and explain ‘no. no, no! I didn’t mean it like that!’ (I used that line before, but it only worked once, the first time I used it and it naturally came to me. Other than that it tends to fall flat. Guess my heart really isn’t behind it when I say it rote)
Old woman: Look you! Leave us alone! I’m not trying to be rude but we don’t need someone like you tonight.
I started to walk away and then thought better about it: I’m not gonna let this old hag push me around like this!
Me: Hey! What did you just say to me? You don’t talk to me like that! (playfully angry)
Woman: Just go away!
She starts trying to pivot my body away from the group, but I stay facing them straight on. The two girls watching this can’t help but smile.
Suddenly the woman’s attitude changes, she becomes all nice, now I am hugging them all and having a short conversation.
I learnt that sometimes sticking it out when you are getting resistance for 30 or so seconds can actually save a set, or turn it around into a potentially disastrous to a good set.

Set 8: 2 girls from somewhere mysterious
I stopped two girls on the street and asked about bus schedules. One of them had a funny accent
Me: You have an interesting accent. Where are you from?
Girl says something I don’t quite catch and then walks off.

At least that is what I thought happened. In retrospect I realised there was a hesitation after what she had said and her wondering off. She was waiting for me to take the reins back off her and control the conversation again (I think). I didn’t notice this at first and basically let her walk away. Granted I didn’t hear her, but there is a way around that; just say ‘wha? Speak up!’ (cheeky aggressive).

All in all I learnt that approaching itself isn’t that hard, it’s the actually opening of the set. I never at one point that night felt blown out badly, and I handled everything that happened well enough. I also learnt that I need a game plan for the evening. Where am I going? Which bars? With who? If I have that then I have a framework that I can invite the girls into instead of being that weird guy that wonders around alone talking to girls.
Also I need to be a bit more in charge. Things like letting girls walk away, or walking in with an opener and then expecting them to take the reins is a bad reflection of masculine character (sadly at the moment I am just that kinda person. I need to work on this).

I think next week I am going to hit up the clubs in the China town around here. I love Asian women and I haven’t been to a club in a while. Could be REALLY fun! Of course I need a game-plan. Where am I going after the club? (I could always meet up in a bar with my pick-up friends for instance). That masculine sense of direction is something I am sorely lacking (at the moment I am the most junior PUA in the group so perhaps that is not surprising).  

I am not closing at all at the moment. Thing is I have done that before so I know I can do it...but I don't ever feel I am in these sets long enough or that they are going well enough that they would work out.  Nonetheless I will continue practicing, even if it is only the one day each week.
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