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I'm sorry to tell you guys that this is A LOT easier than you think. It's so easy that it will almost piss you off that it's not as hard as you conditioned yourself to believe it is.

It's totally frustrating when you see a nice girl closeby and you choose to do nothing until the moment is right...until the stars align and you find the perfect 'opener' to use on her. Well, wanna hear it? The perfect opener is usually, "Hi, my name is [insert name]". What's important here is to stay calm, hold strong eye contact and let her bask in your presence for a while before you say anything else.

Going direct like this is what Tyler calls, 'A Real Man's Blowout', because you decided to stick your neck on the line and be authentic from the get-go. Something as simple as this reducing your reaction time (time spent hesitating over what to do). It forces you into the present; and like stand up comedy it has the supplementary advantages of helping you think on your feet.

There are some basic steps to getting better at starting conversations with girls. And first of all, the people you interact with for practice in your social development do not have to be girls exclusively. Talk to elderly people if you want - they're usually the most open to conversation, and it's a good warm up if you've been inside your house all day, want to talk to some fine 18 year olds but you know you're in a rut. So go talk to your local shopkeeper for a bit, and lubricate your social muscles.

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Also, set small goals which gradually become more challenging. Do not attempt to speak to 15 girls in one day if you're just starting out - most likely you'll fail, blame yourself and give up.

Set it as 3 girls - attractive, fat, thin or pygmy, it doesn't matter who she is just sap up some of that feminine energy and experience the feeling of taking action.

Good luck!
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 Nice article! I'd even suggest to start off with one approach a day if a guy is just starting out. :)
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InternationalLover

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For sooth. The great thing about setting just one approach as your goal is that you can trick yourself into doing more approaches. After I've gotten my minimum requirement out of the way, I'm always like "Ahh, fuck it. I'll jut do a few more" and I end up doing like 20. 
dave7- wrote:
 Nice article! I'd even suggest to start off with one approach a day if a guy is just starting out. :)
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Yes exactly! And then you see those extra approaches as "bonuses". 
InternationalLover wrote:
For sooth. The great thing about setting just one approach as your goal is that you can trick yourself into doing more approaches. After I've gotten my minimum requirement out of the way, I'm always like "Ahh, fuck it. I'll jut do a few more" and I end up doing like 20. 
dave7- wrote:
 Nice article! I'd even suggest to start off with one approach a day if a guy is just starting out. :)

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