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Whats up RSD I was wondering how do you guys work on your verbal game? Last night I went out and  I felt my verbal game was very similar to the previous week I had gone out. I want to improve this part of my game and I do not want to use routines  (they fucking suck) and want to have a  variety on the topics I run through and also be smoother. Also I have noticed that the less you fucking think the better you will probably do so should I try and pick a topic like tyler did on the blueprint (taxes shit) and try to make as interesting as possible.  What do you guys think?
much appreciated
Andoni
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The Struggler

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Join Date: 03/21/2011 | Posts: 129

A few quick questions/thoughts for you to mull over broski:


1) What subjects are you most 'passionate' about?
2) Would you agree that the RSD instructors have proven that what you 'say' as an opener etc is irrelevant?
3) Would you also agree it's been proven that 'how' you say something, is more important than 'what' you say?
4) Would agree 'feelings/emotions' are contageous and women in particular mirror good emotions that are projected at them?

(I'm assuming your question, is more along the lines of "Ok, but I still need 'something' to say"?)

If 'content' is irrelevant, but 'how' you say it is of great relevance...
then would picking subject that 'you' are passionate about seem like a good logical choice?

If you love NASCAR, how long a conversation could you have? 1min, 3min, 2 hours?...
Yet the whole time, would you struggle to speak 'passionately' about the subject?
Would to stuggle to 'control the frame', if some 'changelled' your love of NASCAR?
What would the 'vibe' your projecting be like to those receiving it?
How does that 'vibe' compair to what you'd be projecting if you say, ran a routine?

Speaking about constants in your life -- things you've always loved -- 'might' get boring, just like repeating the same routines over and over, but doesn't the news (daily) have something in it that you feel passionate about?
(A funny story, a story that make you want to be a better person, a story that make you want change something in society)


An alternative might be 'self amusing' conversations -- a lot of people seem to like this at the moment.

Potential reason: as you have less of an 'attachment' to what you're saying (when it's random crap) you tend to feel more comfortable opening with this stuff (how can you care if someone challenges you saying "I like Mullets, they taste good." or "green is bovine"? -- you can't 'challenge' the logic of an obviously illogical statement)

but... potential problem: If you have a 30-45min SA conversation, how can a woman feel bonded or attached to you? (After 30mins she still doesn't know anything about you, or what makes you tick, right?). So perhaps a 'passionate' conversation only needs to take place in what was traditionally the 'Qualification & Comfort' phase of a interaction.

BUT you could argue, that to a degree, SA openers and conversation are still 'a little' like routines, in that they're plastering over a feeling of internal weakness ("I can't just talk straight off about NASCAR, what if they don't like it!") -- If you were truly alpha, wouldn't you just talk about the things that interest you and not give a shit if they were challenged?

BUT (yes another one), laughter (shared) is one fo the strongest builders of rapport so... you still have choices of your own to make, as to which way 'you' want to talk to people.


[Hope there's something of use in there for you.]
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Alaix1985

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Join Date: 04/03/2011 | Posts: 3

jeffy said that he uses canned material when he senses the girls are getting bored just to hook them back in, or sometimes to open. he said he had over TEN hours of straight canned material, fuck thats a lot. another thing is to just have some back up random topics, i used the rebecca black topic quiet a bit last night. check out farq.com for some interesting topics.

good luck with that tho, i know i have the same problem
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Laaavish

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verbals...the only game in town? nah way.

talk about how youd like to make super babies with her
talk about pulling her hair
talk about how her lips are sexually frustrating

point is this is a sexual art. other than sexually direct/fun kind of stuff, just say what comes to mind. if you're in a good mood (or.... "state" :O) , it will flow organically.
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The Struggler

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By 'the Rebecca Black topic' I take it you mean which way would prefer to kill her? Right now I'm favouring a Semtex sandwich, or a wooden plank with rusty nails "fun, fun, fun, yeah!" DURR...

Must be tough being 13 these days, I mean, having to work out 'which seat you want to sit in' and all ("yeah!"), but (according to her video) at least you can drive once you've hit 13 -- could they have picked a younger looking kid? Any younger it would have been a fetus at the steering wheel!
Alaix1985 wrote:
jeffy said that he uses canned material when he senses the girls are getting bored just to hook them back in, or sometimes to open. he said he had over TEN hours of straight canned material, fuck thats a lot. another thing is to just have some back up random topics, i used the rebecca black topic quiet a bit last night. check out farq.com for some interesting topics.

good luck with that tho, i know i have the same problem
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