What’s up fellas. I wanted to talk a bit today about the concept of “prospecting” (or, searching for and maintaining a variety of avenues to bring women into your life), and the importance of it.
Now, coming into this game it should already be internalized in your brain, almost a mantra of sorts, that the only true remedy to your afflictions with a woman, many women, or your own self-impression of your relationship with women can only be solved by one definite means: Bringing MORE NEW women into your life. This is accomplished by two simple (though sometimes difficult) means: 1) Having a bunch of ways to bring chicks into your life. 2) Actually OPENING them and learning from the mistakes. This means that you must have a very tightly wound system of ANY and EVERY day knowing how you could meet/get a date/sleep with as many as 5 (or however many you please) NEW, UNIQUE women because you have acquired the skills, and developed the conduits, for women to flow into your life. This is the importance of prospecting.
But of course, all of us go through negative/cold streaks where we can’t seem to get anything going. This is okay. This is natural. It happens to us all. No sports team has ever had a perfect record every season, even ones in which they win the championship. You lose games, take losses, and learn lessons. The fact that you are going through a cold streak should NOT shift your line of focus a single inch other than refining the foundations you’ve already built and spurring you on to greater action.
And so, what is this foundation that I’m talking about? The foundation of prospecting. Having a myriad of different ways that you can bring NEW women into your life… because the old ones will be there, and if you’re not currently fucking them, you probably won’t be. Not that stuff like this doesn’t happen regularly, but it’s not worth putting your money on the idea that you’re going to suddenly “re-attract” a girl who’s know you for weeks/months/years to the put she wants to BANG you, even if there is a low-level flirtation that persists throughout your and her’s relationship (very common in your lives I’m sure). In any case, let us now identify some “avenues” through which you can be bringing new women in your life… today, THIS week, THIS month, and THIS year…
Clearly, this is the most common/cliché way of accruing new hot chicks into your life. It is probably, in a way, the most common method that many FEMALES use to do their own “prospecting”. You SHOULD/MUST have a constant string of bars that you frequent for different days, for different purposes. When your frat buddies come from out of town and want to game some sorority chicks… you should know the “exciting college-style bars” and what nights they are tight so you can take your friends… when your graduate student hipster friends from the other side of town want to go to a chill/political bar, you should know this as well. And you should be able to accommodate your game to each setting accordingly. But in short – HAVE A BAR/NIGHTCLUB FOR EVERY day of the week. It goes without saying that Friday and Saturday nights are almost strictly reserved for these venues, and you should know EXACTLY where you’re going and what that means for those days. Of course, never neglect bar/nightclub game.
2) Social Circle
This is probably the second most common, and arguably the most IMPORTANT level of prospecting you can do. This involves “plucking” chicks from your friends, friend’s families, acquaintances, work functions, whatever it takes. Now I’m not suggesting with that “friend’s family” thing you necessarily fuck your best friend’s sister or something like that, but it is very within the realm of possibility, if your friend okay’s it, for you guys to enter into a relationship, or (even better), you get one of her hot friends. Either way, scenarios like this are always popping up… let’s say your best friend invites you to a happy hour that some of his buddies from work are throwing at a local bar. This is a PRIME time to pick up a chick. Think of it: 1) You could meet a co-worker of his who is hot and no one else in the office can get because they “work with her” 2) You could meet one of this same co-worker’s friends if she’s not hot 3) You could meet one of his co-worker’s sisters/hot cousins if they happen to randomly be there. 4) You could meet a merged set from another group of happy hour folks, or lastly, 5) you could just cold approach/get opened by a completely new set, and your social value is solidified because you’re at this happy hour with a whole bunch of other people.
Now this scenario is an example of how different possibilities (both bar/happy hour AND social game) can be utilized to your advantage.
In addition, social circle game becomes important because of this key fact… and read it well: YOU CAN CREATE YOUR OWN SOCIAL CIRCLES OUT OF BASICALLY THIN AIR. How is this done? Well I will use a real life example. One random Monday in D.C. (where I’m from), a buddy of mine who lives in an up-and-coming area of town told me about this bar which has trivia nights on Mondays which are pretty popular, and might some cute hipster chicks. We get there, and for a Monday, it is fucking packed. Awesome. Well, within 5 minutes of standing there, a group of guys opens us with “You guys look like you know things. Do you want to join our team?” And so we do. Long story short, I became a complete regular with this team, go almost every week, and have had numerous day 2’s (haven’t fucked a girl from that bar yet for some reason… logistics I guess) from the place. We often have barbecues/parties at each other’s houses, and I can meet their friends/cousins/sisters at these parties. You see now? Just from them opening randomly at a trivia night I have 1) a new venue for Monday 2) social value in the venue (I know my team, the bartenders, etc. because I’m a regular 3) all types of social circle possibilities.
NOTE: This example also inherently implies that I was willing to go out on a Monday, i.e. GO THE DISTANCE. Sometimes life requires this of people.
I’m gonna let you guys in a couple secrets. 1) I have fucked 4 seperate girls (and they were all good-looking, no fatties) from online game, including the girl I lost my virginity to and 2 (working on 3) this year alone. So don’t doubt the power of solid online game in getting you to bang hot chicks. Secret number 2, most importantly: 2) GIRLS ONLINE ARE MAD FUCKING INSECURE. They are just WAITING for some guy to come along and pique their interest, IM/email them a few romantically stimulating/cocky & funny jokes, and they will want to be your girlfriend for the rest of all time. I’m dead serious about this… it’s like a knife through fucking butter with these online girls. So I’m going to add that you should IMMEDIATELY join www.okcupid.com
(by far the best/easiest site to pull chicks on, I’ve fucked two from it already– plus it’s FREE) the minute you finish reading this article, look through the site for 20 girls you think are cute, and message every single one of them. If you throw in something unique about their profile and some romantic/c&f… you’ll be golden. Now note: MOST GIRLS ONLINE WILL BLOW YOU OUT. In fact, I’ve found I’ve gotten more blowouts online than in person, however… 1) There is NO approach anxiety (obviously, you’re just pressing the “send” button 2) There’s not real sense of rejection because it’s just a fucking computer… 3) You can just SEND MORE to MORE girls. Trust me some will bite.
Now online is a little different simply because it’s all words, but if you escalate slowly but surely, and just make her mind convinced that you guys “click”, you’ll be fucking her within the week, I guarantee.
Finishing up, I want you guys to really heed what I’m saying about FOCUSING your ATTENTION on the avenues that bring women into your life and always replenishing them. Find new bars, social circles, websites, book clubs, trivia nights, game nights, whatever to GET THIS SHIT HANDLED. And “keep on keeping on”. And you’ll be fine.
Peace and love all!