Not easy at all. I went to salsa class alone and this was cool Talked to a few girls and I knew most of them from classes before plus I am decent in my dance now so I can actually have fun in class. Ran into a few friends and we chilled for a while.
On the way back home I decided to go solo sarging in nearby downtown MV. Fridays are hot! Lots of cute girls and they scene was not bad at all. I ran into a girl who eye fucked me and there was this HUGE dog that weighed more than me that was stopping everyone it its track. I talked to a few people and said hello. Could not bring myself to walk into the club with $10 cover and solo sarge. Just felt too weirded out about it. Maybe I failed. I don't know I just couldn't do it.
Getting dancefloor game down has been interesting. I realized that you need a certain "vibe" that equals the combination of
1. relaxed and smiling facial expression
2. moving to the beat
3. having fun
4. not caring what other people think
If you embody these things girls will dance with you on the dancefloor. Salsa lessons are definitely paying off as well.
Daygame is going well, approaching at least 2 girls a day during the daytime. Time to push it to more closes instead of just "opening"
I was in a super good mood after listening to some JPop music this Monday on labor day. As I went to day game with 2 other PUAs I realized that most people are miserable. I was walking about and people don't smile, and tend to stay within their "gray area". Their comfort zone that gives them the least comfort. This is how most people are when they are out.
I tried to get my guys to not think so much and just do. They did alright. Serban impressed me by sticking to his guns. I HAVE TO DO THIS!, he said as he stopped a HB10 blond as she was walking. Impressive. She totally did not speak English but I applaud his big balls.
Some people day game and others don't. For me, I generally have no AA during the night and can approach on command. However, during the day, I have mad AA. I realized that I just wasn't used to it. In my head, I believed that it was a social rule that was not meant to be broken .Therefore, only instances of extreme situations (i.e. girl drops her notebook) can I open. We all know how often this happens in the movies vs. real life.
As I opened more girls during the day the more comfortable I got. People are actually nicer during teh day, it is not a club / antagonistic environment. The worst the girl will say is "oh thank you" and then walk away. People (including me) need to get used to doing certain things regularly. Building a behavior pattern.
I have been going out a lot lately.
Night game Palo Alto
Opened a lot of sets. None of them went very far but the conversation was ok. Mainly getting over AA.
Approached 4 girl sets, 5 guy sets. Out with another guy but he didn't approach at all, and ended up not adding a lot of value other than being there as a friend.
Day game Mall game
It was hard for me! I couldn't open during the day. I have some type of mental block here about this. I pushed myself and spoke to 2-3 girls
Day game Monday labor day
Today, Steve was there. He made me better. "No rich, I want to do this. 3 sets". After I told him to give me $10. And he fucking did it. One of the girls was there with her husband and it was hilarious but I applaud him for doing it. He made me want to follow up so I opened my 3 sets as well. One of them turned out to be a number, the 3rd one turned out to be a chick I met before and we insta-dated for tea before her break ended. She has a BF now but she told me she was into girls and opened the door for future threesomes. Nice.
Getting used to opening during the day. It is just your mind playing tricks on you. Gotta love that AA.
A problem I had recently was about friendships and why we do the things we do to each other. Once you start getting girls, a lot of competing things come in the way. I am not sure how to handle this conflict other than by my own standards of ethics and treat people as best I can. However, sometimes if they are harmful to me, I have to distance myself or learn to fight back.
Overall, I am glad I am getting over my daytime AA
I realized today that my core belief as bad as it sounds is that sometimes my pride gets in the way. I think that I am too good to actually go and approach girls and it is beneath me. This stops me from approaching girls during the day, where I am normally in a business setting.
Wed night hanging out with the mastermind alliance group, we moved the class room like setting into a bar for weekly meet to see how it would work out.
forces you to be social and used to bar environment
can sarge right afterward
learn to be social and hang
music is very loud
bad for serious discussions
I ended up texting 2 girls I met to come meet us. They showed up H7 and HB9 German blondes. The guys were mostly cool, maybe a bit quiet at first when they arrived. Mostly were cool.
We hangout and have cool conversation. I end up moving the girls back to the open section where the music is less loud. German girls smoke. I hate that. I tell her. 5 points for being blond, minus 10 for smoking. You're now in the negative zone (-5). Nice neg :) gotta remember that one.
She qualifies why she smoke etc. I talk to the HB9. This one is 29. She's super calibrated from ALL the guys trying to hit on her. I would say she's a 9.5 close to 10. I remember when I first saw her I was quite impressed. You know, that "wow she's gorgeous" look. But, as I was talking to her today I realized that I didn't really have a sexual attraction for her. We were being friendly. At one point:
Me: We should just be friends
Hb9: ok. That's good.
Me: no sex though. (teasing)
Hb9: just a little.
Me: Is that right.
Hb9: does not say anything.
I look at her. She,again, being super calibrated does not react AT ALL. Simply looks forward and acts like everything is normal. I couldn't tell if it was a shit test or she meant it. Really good girl game! Good thing I don't are. I just smile and talk about something else. She has really solid game. Probably from being a 10 all her life and now being close to 30, she's so calibrated.
Later, 2 frat boys join us and as expected from those with no game, immediately starts hitting on the girls. HB7 looks at me with big eyes, signaling this is weird. She ends up going out to make a call. I end up outside and we chat. She's on the phone with my BF. I'm there alpha dominant and she's talking to her BF and looking at me. I find out later that its going downhill and probably won't last.
HB9 gets hit on by the other frat guy. She's SUPER good at turning the conversation into "friend zone" territory without offending the guy. I'm not sure how does this, but its fucking gold HB10 game. IF I was a girl I'd want this so that I can make the most from my guy interactions. If I like them, I"m hot and can get it, if I don't, I can befriend them and they won't be mean to me and call me a bitch. She has this vibe about her that allow her to get away with this. Her HB7 friend is less so and is more direct, which is more of what I am used to in my targets. I calibrate easily to this. Neg hard and then be serious, genuine and playful. But HB10 has super playful vibe and FRIEND (LJBF) vibe. Good shit. I learned a lot watching her. I think I am going to befriend this one as I learn more about 9 and 10 game.
Frat guys pisses me off. Starts saying stupid shit. I call him out on it. He apologizes and buys me a drink. Retarded. Guys with no game is fine but obnoxious guys with no game are annoying. I am usually pretty calm, and Royalty confirmed I was being more than fair to him and he was out of line.
I open a brunette girl in front of HB7, she was cool but with other guys. I treat these girls like friends now. It is SO interesting to see how OBVIOUS it was when a guy was HITTING on her and when he was just "being cool" and "being in the group". The dividing line is obvious tonight.
Overall, I want to improve my night game to consistently open. I only opened 2 sets tonight (cold approach). I owe DJ Fuji 20 more.
My homework assignments:
Approach 10 sets a night every time you go out (Go out at least twice a week)
One day a week, do a solo sarge. Say hi to everyone.
Approach 50% HB7,8+ and above to practice talking to 9s and 10s (Have to get past this fear)
We rocked it last night man. From sausage fest to blonde German girls. We pulled off the caper. In less seduction nerdy terms, we owned the theme and we owned the party.
Party afterthoughts - what we did well
Theme is memorable and impactful
Double room areas rocked
Music was solid
Lots of alcohol
Watermelon Mojitos were really good
Flip cup went well
Afterward, when the girls showed we did well
Rooms were too dark for flip cup
We maybe spent too much on alcohol, although it was a good cost. We can throw and equally impressive party with less cost
Owning it as hosts - I honestly think we could have done better showing the guests around and introducing them to one another.
I think areas of improvement here in relation to inviting girls to house parties are:
Create attraction and value with more girls
Make girlfriends that are dependable
Just game more in general, with an overall statistic of higher value.
I did. It felt great. I also think that it is helping my game big time. I feel aligned. I'm walking the right path. For a long time I felt like a at my job because .... I was. That was my role. Walking away from it has given me the inner strength I need to be confident and this congruence translates somehow into your conscious and unconscious mind.
It wasn't hard. People. Other people think it is. They say they wish they can do it. I tell them they can. Plan. Save. Learn skill to make cash flow outside of paycheck. But, alas, we know that most people are too lazy or unmotivated to do so.
Day 2 with a really cute German girl. She looks just like Katie Holmes. Really cute. She's getting her PhD at Stanford and has a tight body. Like other American girls she's a little "thicker". As in, she's just bigger overall. Still perfectly proportional in body tone, but it just felt a little bigger. I couldn't hold her down as much as I would be able to my normal skinny and tight Asian girls. But something about a European face just turns me on.
For some reason, the girls that go on day 2s with me now have always really liked me. I don't even run game anymore. I just tell them my life story, which I'm starting to see is actually really fucking unique and interesting.
At some point during my day 2s I always asked the girl, ' do you really like me?" This is both a qualification and genuine curiosity. If she says yes then great, if not, usually she says "I don't know yet". Or, she just says "no", in which case, at least you know where you stand on the date.
This girl says, "Yes. You're really good looking. It is kind of intimidating actually". I was surprised at this. On a side note, girls used to tell me I was "ok" looking. I always thought I had good genetics (I'm really tall, have a skinny body frame and my face is pretty clear cut) but after years of abuse by haters I stopped believing this. I am also super critical of myself since when I was a kid I wanted to model but I think my ears are a little too big and my nose isn't sharp enough. These are things that only I see because I think about modeling but otherwise, normal everyday girls never even notice it. If I was dating models, they may be aware of it in addition to my personality. As my game and overall inner direction improved, girls started giving me a lot of compliments on looks. Like, "are you a model?" or "you're really good looking". Before I would only hear this from Asian girls or old Asian moms who see me and want to introduce me to their daughters, now I hear it more often. I think nothing about my looks has changed that much, except that I carry myself better.
Back to German girl - I find out that she's a super good girl, studies a lot and her previous boyfriend was kind of nerdy (PhD) as well and so she actually thinks I'm kind of a player. But I disqualify this and tell her that I am very good to the girls I meet, which is completely true. I just date a lot of different girls to find out what I like. I also had to give her value after that statement because she placed me so high. I told her I liked her a lot (she's very genuine, no fakeness) and she looks amazing to me too. This seems to set the rest of the date on the right mood.
I pay for dinner because I find out she's on a stipend from the university for a very small amount and I feel a bit bad. We go back to my place, watch movie on computer, and end up making out. The clothes come off but she's having her period (fuck again!?). So at this point I could have stopped by I end up placing her hand on my cock and the rest is blown over. Pun intended.
I make her I ask her if she wants to stay, (make the option hers) and walk her to her car. Overall, I really fucking like European girls. The connection is there if you search for it, but its not natural and right away like it is with Chinese girls or other Asian girls. Asian girls usually the attraction is really strong and she's pretty much DDBL'ing me right away. With German girl the attraction was there but we didn't "connect" right away until we got more loose and until later on in the date.
Hope this helps if you're an Asian guy like me who likes white girls :)
Asian Model was super cute, knew how to dress REALLY well. In bed she has a good body, but nothing special. She has a very cute face and the photographers like that. But aside from this its all an illusion of clothes and well done make up. She's got mad game and gives me a run for my money. (I.e. my boyfriend is in NY and he owns his own company.... I don't know if i Like you yet..... we'll see). But no match for a PUA. muahahha. Finds my PUA Training DVDs. Shit. I reframe. We watch Matt Hussey talk about approach anxiety. She agrees with almost everything there. Is fascinated by this subject. I tell her a little bit but then change topic and change movies. Kino. Makeout. She really likes me. Hesitates because of boyfriend. Ends up jerking me but won't kiss or BJ because of "boundaries".
I usually don't date girls with BFs, but this one is in NYC, and he's leaving for HK for good in 3 months. I don't see a future here and I checked her pulse every step along the way here.. no forced game. All natural.