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Seduction community makes us believe that we have to seduce girls. We have to make the first move, “chat her up” and hope she'll like us. If not, we'll do the next set. Approach after approach, we have to recognize and learn from our mistakes and get better.

In school teachers told us men and women are all born equal and sex happens when both of partners are ok with it. They told us sex should happen with someone we love. So did my parents.

When I was feeling something special for a girl, I usually tried to spend more time with her, in hope that one day she'll also fall in love with me. I didn't want to say “I love you” to the girl I loved too early because I didn't want to miss my chances with her. I spent my days wondering whether or not she was feeling something for me.

Looking back at those days I'm pretty sure she was ready to become my girlfriend. But I did nothing, except for talking a lot, and eventually she said me one day: “I want us just to be good friends.”

I thought a lot about mating. I liked maths, I even calculated the probability that a girl and a boy will fall in love with each other in a group of X persons where there are as much girls as boys. And the interesting thing is that if we consider that every guy and avery girl have equal chances to be loved, and if we also consider that every girl and every guy can love only one person… in any population (no matter the number of persons), there will always be approximately only one couple.

So the smaller the groups, the more romantic relationships it will be (one in each group on average).

I recently watched a random Russian film and it reminded me that in Russia, men are not considered as the seducers, but the seduced ones. In russian culture, a man who can resist a girl who is flirting with him is viewed as an honorable person, a real man who can control his desires. It also reminded me how two girls talked to me on the street and proposed to go home with them when I was younger. Or this girl with huge tits with whom I had my first sexual experience and I didn't even wanted to kiss her. Looking back at it, I wonder why I didn't want to have a relationship with her, she was really hot.

It confuses me a lot that since I moved in France things are different, girls seem to view every approach as if they were threatened by sexual predators, people are not very open, they rather try to avoid conversation.

The image of a man who can resist a girl's sexual advances without cheating on his girlfriend seems great.

But it is just not applicable in my current reality.

Where are those girls who are females, who represent love and sexual desire?

I see girls playing nasty games in clubs and leaving alone.

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What I've learned in the last night:

Need to set clear goals when I'm in a set and lead to the close.
Ego issue? Very often I feel like the girl is not that awesome and that it wouldn't be such a great loss if I just leave. Maybe I should learn to lower my criteria and stop seeking the nice blue-eyed blonde with beautiful long hair. I certainly should push myself, try to close at least one time because there are too much interactions that go nowhere. What I must be looking for now is just a healthy, normal girl. Otherwise I'll just spread too much time looking for that perfect girl.
I am able to force myself to do things I'm not really feel comfortable doing. I take the first step and I'm already doing it. But sometimes I don't take that first step. I should be taking those first steps more often. Sometimes, I still hesitate to just talk to a girl in certain situations.
I should get more blow-outs to become much less sensitive. I got only one on the last night, and it doesn't feel good. I restored my state five minutes later but I really had to work on it mentally and physically.

Planning for the next week :

Wednesday night:
  - Warming up sets : work on my the sub-communication first (eye contact, rapport, voice volume)
  - Be goal-oriented and use my “natural” method (without the outer game part)
  - Day game, and maybe alone, using what Alexander~ wrote
Saturday night:
  - Goal: try to get blown out by showing a lot of intent. Do at least  20 approaches like this.
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Well, this is what I would like to share with you for historical purposes.


So lets begin. I was born in Ukraine, and I was just a normal guy. This is a bit funny to be here on RSDNation, because I first saw a girl naked when I was 12, she was a cute blonde girl. She was so loving me, she wrote me letters, we spent lots of time together and it quickly turned sexual… Well, I'm neither glad nor ashamed of it, it is what it is and few people experienced it so young.


(of course this is not me nor she, just a random photo on the internet)

So I grew up in Ukraine. When I turned 11 my family migrated to France. I didn't even spoke french. I went to school, where obviously I didn't unterstand anyone and I was very isolated first few months. Next four years I was at the same school and I created a self-identity of a guy from a pour country who is always apart from the others.


Some people made fun of me. Sometimes I didn't even unterstand it, and sometimes I just pretended to not unterstand what was going on because I didn't know how to deal with it.

Well, I was a very smart guy so I had good marks, and now I speak french perfectly, but I was lacking something important. Social experience. Friends. Joy of being together. When other people where going to parties I had to occupy myself with something, so I was sitting home doing homework, reading litterature, studying physics and mathematics, or writing computer programs.


I cracked up. I felt in love with a girl and I didn't even managed to get her. I was thinking about her every day, I cried nights on end praying god “if he existed” to do something so I could get her. I was ready to do absolutely anything for her, spiritually she was like a queen for me and I was thinking of myself as her slave. And I was.

Then I went to high school. And still no girls. I went to a special class for future engineers and in our class there were only two girls : a little fatty and an absolutely disgusting crazy brunette with black nails, thick glasses and dark purple stockings.

A year ago I noticed a girl and I liked her. As she was very unreactive, I searched through internet how to make her attracted. And I discovered the community.

This is where I made a huge mistake.

I learned I was an AFC.

I learned I was a chode.

I learned I had problems.

I believed this fucking bullshit. I forgot my little success.

Unfortunately I knew nothing about what RSD teaches.

Trying to learn pick up, realizing I had to change my personality, and going out a lot meant to acknowledge that I was not enough, I was not yet good by myself.

And this is what I hate the most in pick up industry. They are an authority and they tell you how you suck, so you lose your confidence, and you begin to suck. And you begin to believe that you really need their shitty products.

Haha, I remember how I learned pick up lines late in the night and tried it in the next morning on my unique “target” on the way to school.

So, if you are a newbie, be open minded, but don't let some “authority” define who you are, judge everything for yourself. You have to trust yourself and to follow your own path, external self help ressources are only tools and you are the only one who will decide if you want to use them or not, and when. You are the pilot.

You DO NOT NEED all those pick up products in order to succeed. It is optional. It can maybe just accelerate your learning. The most important thing is you. Your life is your own journey. And remember, most of present “gurus” figured it out by themselves and then created their own “methods”. And now, they are just trying to sell it to anyone.


Enjoy your own life and don't be tooled, boy!

Rely only on yourself: besides, this is what it means to be natural.

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Look how he enjoys his own music, look how he spreads good emotions around himself.

You can even watch this without sound.

Beautiful. Spread Music. Spread Love.
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