Alexander~ RSD
Welcome back to another weekend concluding Alexander RSD rsdnation blog. This weekend I nominated a weekend off for myself to go out and work on some infield video. Which has lead me to some excellent ideas and insights that I want to share with you in three videos that I’m very proud of below.
I don’t take weekends of bootcamp very often because I think that my idle hands are the devil’s tools… I like to work on the weekend otherwise, without time and responsibility constraints myself and my crews’ creativity and enthusiasm gets us into all kinds of drama and financial deficits. It makes for great stories, but it's definitely better that I work and share it, than if I don’t. Unless of course I want to make a cool story… like some of the instances in the 2011 video I’m working on now… here’s a ‘teaser trailer.’
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=iJsDw5bAhYY
In the meantime I’m running bootcamps every week in the near future. The few available events coming up are:
Perth on Friday July 27th
Calgary on Friday August 3rd
Winnipeg on Friday August 10th
LAS VEGAS ON Friday August 17th
Take action, email support@realsocialdynamics.com and make your life like a movie.
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This week's article reveals the kinds of thoughts that the most experienced guys in the cold-approach game use to give themselves the best success rate of one night stands.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=0OFRrVPGa9g&feature=plcp
See the full articles and extra videos over at a revamped and running-smoothly www.alexattitude.com
Alexander
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Real Social Dynamics
www.facebook.com/alexanderrsd
www.youtube.com/alexanderhimself
www.youtube.com/rsdalexander
www.youtube.com/alexanderfreetour
I don’t take weekends of bootcamp very often because I think that my idle hands are the devil’s tools… I like to work on the weekend otherwise, without time and responsibility constraints myself and my crews’ creativity and enthusiasm gets us into all kinds of drama and financial deficits. It makes for great stories, but it's definitely better that I work and share it, than if I don’t. Unless of course I want to make a cool story… like some of the instances in the 2011 video I’m working on now… here’s a ‘teaser trailer.’
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=iJsDw5bAhYY
In the meantime I’m running bootcamps every week in the near future. The few available events coming up are:
Perth on Friday July 27th
Calgary on Friday August 3rd
Winnipeg on Friday August 10th
LAS VEGAS ON Friday August 17th
Take action, email support@realsocialdynamics.com and make your life like a movie.
-----------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------
This week's article reveals the kinds of thoughts that the most experienced guys in the cold-approach game use to give themselves the best success rate of one night stands.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=0OFRrVPGa9g&feature=plcp
See the full articles and extra videos over at a revamped and running-smoothly www.alexattitude.com
Alexander
Executive Coach
Real Social Dynamics
www.facebook.com/alexanderrsd
www.youtube.com/alexanderhimself
www.youtube.com/rsdalexander
www.youtube.com/alexanderfreetour



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meetjoeblack
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Approaching the two girls in 8 a.m. during shooting your video blog is awesome shit.
Psyched about the infield video. You keep them coming. I suppose it will be better than last years.
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Obisco
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Alex, for your infield teaser vid, the second half of it is just a black screen.
Braving
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I'd like you to clarify some things for me. Recently, during my initial interactions with a woman after approaching and introducing myself, I would banter, tease, and just say whatever is on my mind.
The types of responses I get is usually lots of laughter, and interest. Over time though, the girl loses interest.
I havn't been really creating a connection or any comfort lately based it seems to bring me out of state. Hah, a lot more enjoyable just having fun, and mindlessly saying whatever comes. :P
So my question is, how important is comfort and connection to getting a one-night-stand? And how do you yourself generate it?
Thank you for your quality posts and support ;)
-Braving
Alexander~
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Alex, for your infield teaser vid, the second half of it is just a black screen.
Now I'm using www.alexattitude.com again im going to do a little tutorial on how to make custom mixes to beat youtube! Woo funtimes.
I know that if i spent the same time on pickup as i did on audio mash up i could make an album like girltalk. I love that stuff.
Alexander~
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when is your montreal free tour?
but I'll be on the east coast of the USA in november this year.
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Alexander~
Approaching the two girls in 8 a.m. during shooting your video blog is awesome shit.
Psyched about the infield video. You keep them coming. I suppose it will be better than last years.
Alexander~
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Yessir, my NYC time will come at the end of March Next Year.
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Yessir, my NYC time will come at the end of March Next Year.
Alexander~
Jascha
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Are you in Australia somewhere around September to February? I would like to have a bootcamp.
Jascha
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Are you in Australia somewhere around September to February? I would like to have a bootcamp.
Jascha
Alexander~
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I don't know the whole situation but from the sound of it, she is losing interest because you are not escalating. Especially physically. I always hear the instructors say "get physical right away".
Do things like touching her forearm when she says something that suprises you. If girls aren't twenty-one yet, I usually grab their hand and look at the "X's" marked on them and then bust on them for it. This is stuff that will initiate Kino early so it won't be weird when you go for some bigger Kino Escalation later in the interraction like hugging her or taking her by the hand or waist and leading her through the crowd to maybe introduce her to your friends.
Also before the conversation starts to lose momentum, move her to somewhere else in the club. For example, from a table to the bar. Or even five feet away from her group. This will reinvigorate the conversation a little bit for you. You eventually want to get her one on one in "Isolation".
It is almost always a good idea to initiate Kino as quickly as possible and move the girls around the club after talking with them for a short amount of time.
The best person I've heard talk about escalation was Wayne Elise AKA Juggler. If you can see his bootcamp video that he did, I'd highly recommend it. Otherwise see what artilces you can read on escalating.
Lastly, take everything I'm telling you with a grain of salt. I'm no instructor or expert myself but this is the advice I have for you.
Your Welcome,
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Tyler
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Love the satellite image you used in it, and Tim's movie thing.
Your vblog content is great as usual we as well.
Tyler
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What you gotta understand is Alex is a dude who is coming in at a VERY high level, looking how to teach you to consistently date the highest quality girls possible. He's looking to make your game PURE SOLID and not gimmicky. He'll go physical at times ("physical rapport") but isn't using it as a gimmick to cover up a lack of conversational skills or core confidence.
As you're first learning it it'll be hit or miss, like anything when you're first adjusting to it. I pulled a very high class, intelligent girl using his method the week I learned it. Total win with a great girl I couldn't have pulled doing it the way I normally do it. Then the following week I tried to "replicate" a similar type of pickup with a hot 20 year old, only to find out the next day that another dude who had been aggressive and physical fucked her the same night while I walked away only with her number.
(And the girl was so into me it was like a romance movie, and this dude was the definition of a ghetto loser douche, although I strangely admired him and found him to be cool when we bumped into eachother at the club the next day. Video where I talk about these 2 sets is here btw...).
Yet in spite of this, Alex probably wouldn't have let that happen, because he is extremely fluid and probably would have stayed in and pushed longer than I had (I left cause I didn't want to look insecure and I felt it was the right time to leave just by the vibe, but I overestimated the girl...).
So it's all a learning curve, same for me and same for everyone, I'd say just try out different things and try to get to the ROOT of what it is Alex is trying to convey.
Tyler
I don't know the whole situation but from the sound of it, she is losing interest because you are not escalating. Especially physically. I always hear the instructors say "get physical right away".
Do things like touching her forearm when she says something that suprises you. If girls aren't twenty-one yet, I usually grab their hand and look at the "X's" marked on them and then bust on them for it. This is stuff that will initiate Kino early so it won't be weird when you go for some bigger Kino Escalation later in the interraction like hugging her or taking her by the hand or waist and leading her through the crowd to maybe introduce her to your friends.
Also before the conversation starts to lose momentum, move her to somewhere else in the club. For example, from a table to the bar. Or even five feet away from her group. This will reinvigorate the conversation a little bit for you. You eventually want to get her one on one in "Isolation".
It is almost always a good idea to initiate Kino as quickly as possible and move the girls around the club after talking with them for a short amount of time.
The best person I've heard talk about escalation was Wayne Elise AKA Juggler. If you can see his bootcamp video that he did, I'd highly recommend it. Otherwise see what artilces you can read on escalating.
Lastly, take everything I'm telling you with a grain of salt. I'm no instructor or expert myself but this is the advice I have for you.
Your Welcome,
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good shit on the ons video too. i sometimes find myself comparing my results to other people and I know it's a bullshit thing to do, but sometimes find myself doing it anyway.
always better to just look at the positive side of what I'm doing and give myself credit for it.
cheers
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For the last few days I have been thinking about how "wasting time" is so useful. Because you aren't in a rush and you are just fucking around...it doesn't make you stressed. Worrying about getting laid (realising that you usually get laid until way later when the club closes).
Looking forward that story (is it finished?)
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good shit on the ons video too. i sometimes find myself comparing my results to other people and I know it's a bullshit thing to do, but sometimes find myself doing it anyway.
always better to just look at the positive side of what I'm doing and give myself credit for it.
cheers
The good old reality check.
Alexander~
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What you gotta understand is Alex is a dude who is coming in at a VERY high level, looking how to teach you to consistently date the highest quality girls possible. He's looking to make your game PURE SOLID and not gimmicky. He'll go physical at times ("physical rapport") but isn't using it as a gimmick to cover up a lack of conversational skills or core confidence.
As you're first learning it it'll be hit or miss, like anything when you're first adjusting to it. I pulled a very high class, intelligent girl using his method the week I learned it. Total win with a great girl I couldn't have pulled doing it the way I normally do it. Then the following week I tried to "replicate" a similar type of pickup with a hot 20 year old, only to find out the next day that another dude who had been aggressive and physical fucked her the same night while I walked away only with her number.
(And the girl was so into me it was like a romance movie, and this dude was the definition of a ghetto loser douche, although I strangely admired him and found him to be cool when we bumped into eachother at the club the next day. Video where I talk about these 2 sets is here btw...).
Yet in spite of this, Alex probably wouldn't have let that happen, because he is extremely fluid and probably would have stayed in and pushed longer than I had (I left cause I didn't want to look insecure and I felt it was the right time to leave just by the vibe, but I overestimated the girl...).
So it's all a learning curve, same for me and same for everyone, I'd say just try out different things and try to get to the ROOT of what it is Alex is trying to convey.
Tyler
I don't know the whole situation but from the sound of it, she is losing interest because you are not escalating. Especially physically. I always hear the instructors say "get physical right away".
Do things like touching her forearm when she says something that suprises you. If girls aren't twenty-one yet, I usually grab their hand and look at the "X's" marked on them and then bust on them for it. This is stuff that will initiate Kino early so it won't be weird when you go for some bigger Kino Escalation later in the interraction like hugging her or taking her by the hand or waist and leading her through the crowd to maybe introduce her to your friends.
Also before the conversation starts to lose momentum, move her to somewhere else in the club. For example, from a table to the bar. Or even five feet away from her group. This will reinvigorate the conversation a little bit for you. You eventually want to get her one on one in "Isolation".
It is almost always a good idea to initiate Kino as quickly as possible and move the girls around the club after talking with them for a short amount of time.
The best person I've heard talk about escalation was Wayne Elise AKA Juggler. If you can see his bootcamp video that he did, I'd highly recommend it. Otherwise see what artilces you can read on escalating.
Lastly, take everything I'm telling you with a grain of salt. I'm no instructor or expert myself but this is the advice I have for you.
Your Welcome,
Its so stupid, guys who're well trained with game often get eclipsed by dumb guys who are just more patient. Who have longer set stamina.
Which brings us back to the old 'have fun' idea. If you can do that infintely then life is good.
When you say you left 'becuase you didn't want to look insecure, or you thought the vibe was right'... are you out of your mind?!
There is no reason why you're not enough. Goes for Tyler, or I, or anyone else reading this. While I feel a bit of an 'off vibe' with the set sometimes I remind myself to override the frame and re-establish the frame the way that I would like it most.
Ultimately, in this case, bootcamp would have really messed with getting these girls. I remember we were running around doing three way make outs all over the place, but left all those highly aroused girls for the good of coaching and demonstration! :)
Alexander~
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Also that Shermanology song is so on point for 2011, they were playing Levels in every single club I went to. You'd hear it in Tryst, in XS, in Surrender, in all the Beach Clubs, in Tao, in Lavo, in Jet, in the Gallery, in the Bank, in Pure, in Chateau, in Marquee, and even when I was living in D.C. you'd hear it in Barcode, in Lima, in Ultrabar, in Fur, any Glow thing, and every single lounge. In fact I made a video from Vegas last year and you can hear it there.
Other songs I heard a lot:
save the world - swedish house mafia
one - swedish house mafia
beautiful people - benny benassi
cinema - benny benassi
party rock anthem - lmfao
the island - an21
turbulence - laidback luke
show me love - steve angello
zero 76 - tiesto
c'mon - tiesto
young at heart - angger dimas
slumber - steve forte rio
blessed - avicii
encoded - hardwell
sun & moon - above & beyond
drowning - armin van buuren
heart is king - axwell
i remember - deadmau5
Some older, some over played, but the whole year was amazing.
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Would be amazing watch your freetour and get the bootcamp program!
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I've never been to south america, it will be an excellent place to practise my swedish.
Alexander~
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I've never been to south america, it will be an excellent place to practise my swedish.
Alexander~
Anyway mate, come! We would be glad!
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But I'm liking Alex's stuff more than anyone elses. Truth is I always did.
Anyway - Its like Game is coming full circle. In the early days 'nice guys' were AFCs or Chodes. But in reality, when you've been in this game a while, and have done the self-development, internalized the important things ... you can - in fact you SHOULD - be a 'nice guy'. You don't have to TRY an be an alpha male. Or say cool stuff. Or act. You ARE just high value. Perhaps you always WERE high value before you even heard of 'The Game' - you just didn't know it. It wasn't your conscious IDENTITY. But now it is. Plus your social awareness is finely tuned and you can sense her sub-communication and amplify it back, see the windows of opportunity. Feel relaxed and outcome independent - just gently steering a course and enjoying the experience
I'm rambling now. What I meant to say was - with that as the backdrop ... You have NO SHAME in just goijng out to MAKE FRIENDS with girls (and guys) and being happy just enjoying her company as a person with little-or-no need to have to 'get laid'.
Getting laid just becomes a natural healthy wonderful side effect of getting friendly with her. With making the time and effort with people. With making friends with a girl + being cool. It's what nature DESIGNED us to do. Who needs a SNL or ONS as the GOAL!? FFS.
If that makes me a Chode - then so be it!! And I say that as someone who has come full circle to realise it! But it only comes after the time-served journey - no shortcuts!
That is all! :-)
detourxl~
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This was what I was like when I did bootcamp with you. Put too much pressure on myself, not very attractive to a girl!!!
Anyway mate, latest adventures in my last 3 nights out in 2 weeks:
Night 1- meet to sex pull 40 mins. Greek milf. Went back out after dropping her off to get a second pull back. no luck on second.
Night 2- ALMOST pulled London commercial catwalk model back to mine. Logistics fucked. But nevertheless a great reference for "I am enough"
Night 3- met five star beautician on night out after Glasgow conference. Meet her, her cousin and cousins boyfriend. After drinks in bar, we agree to go back to beauticians for "afterparty". Cousins boyfriend then tells me he is a drug dealer. I then decide to bounce as it may be bad for my career. As I go to leave bar I say goodbye to cousin (drug dealers girl). I realise she is really hot so makeout with her then finger her at bar, within sight of drug dealer! I then brush and lead her towards bar exit with intention to fuck. suddenly I gain my senses, let go of her hand. Apologise and get the fuck out before I get shot by drug dealer!
THERE IS NO REASON IM NOT ENOUGH
There is no boasting here. The girls dont bring you any extra happiness or joy. That shit comes from within. The game has now become about having loads of fun! Whether I get results or not is irrelevant, I just love having the adventures and having fun ;-)
RSD boys - LISTEN TO ALEX and either take bootcamp or hotseat. YOUR LIFE WILL CHANGE (but you
Might get beaten up by drug dealers so don't say I didn't warn you!)
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If I had to just take one guys advice from RSD and you don't want to become a pick up guru and you want to meet hot chicks with out burning bridge after bridge take Alex advice you will in the long run do better just watch the last 10 videos Alex made and you will be good with woman REALLY FING GOOD.
All the advanced shit takes about 4 years to calibrate there are obviously times when you can escelate hard but the girl was usually planning on getting laid BEFORE she went out.
This is why I know guys who can pull 30 nights in a row in Barcelona and go on a 6 night dry spell in there home town. Base line game is what Alex is teaching.
I love the more advanced shit I find it interesting but unless you go out 7 nights a week just being a cool guy with a interesting life HAPPY having fun with a healthy sense of entitlement You will do great like 99% of naturals.
The thing that seperates a Natural from a Chode is how he feels about him self. Micro managing interactions is not healthy worrying about your "Game" causes more problems than anything.
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Awesome intro, look forward to the rest!
Alexander~
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If I had to just take one guys advice from RSD and you don't want to become a pick up guru and you want to meet hot chicks with out burning bridge after bridge take Alex advice you will in the long run do better just watch the last 10 videos Alex made and you will be good with woman REALLY FING GOOD.
All the advanced shit takes about 4 years to calibrate there are obviously times when you can escelate hard but the girl was usually planning on getting laid BEFORE she went out.
This is why I know guys who can pull 30 nights in a row in Barcelona and go on a 6 night dry spell in there home town. Base line game is what Alex is teaching.
I love the more advanced shit I find it interesting but unless you go out 7 nights a week just being a cool guy with a interesting life HAPPY having fun with a healthy sense of entitlement You will do great like 99% of naturals.
The thing that seperates a Natural from a Chode is how he feels about him self. Micro managing interactions is not healthy worrying about your "Game" causes more problems than anything.
Alexander~