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I’m at about 28,000 feet somewhere about Nimbin, probably, rocking out to some Deadmau5. I’m feeling good. I’m in a pretty good state.

Maybe its virgin blue airlines? Or maybe it’s my natural game? For the purposes of this article I’ll attribute it to my natural game. But make note, virgin is where it’s at for airlines down under.

The whole pick up industry is greatly misinformed and misguided when it comes to understanding what state is, and how they should use it to help them in their game.

The true fact is that state is usually a very accurate determiner of how successful you are going to be. Not a necessary determiner but a very accurate one. This article is a guideline, not a biblical law – there are always exceptions to the rule.

But if you follow the rule, you ensure that you mitigate inconsistency. That is, you take action to avoid bad nights. Which is better that trying to create or force good nights. One of the 28 points of natural game is ‘if you try to force something it will never come to you’ – that is to say that it’s unnatural. So it’s better to mitigate inconsistency and trust that you’ll have good nights - instead of trying to force state and trying to force good nights. Mitigating inconsistency is more chilled, and you’ll soon realize that you will have better state for the night - than forcing good state.

Though this is complicated mental masturbation you should find yourself in the club thinking ‘we’ll I’ve taken the simple steps to chill out and relax’ and feeling the burden of concern lift from your shoulders. You can relax knowing there is nothing else to worry about. As opposed to being in the club forcing yourself to ‘manufacture’ an elusive nonexistent idea of state that you will never actually experience – a process that will obviously make you more and more concerned and anxious as the night goes on.

So the ACTUAL and proper idea of state is actually relaxation. NOT AN ENERGETIC THING.

Let me hereby once and for all announce proper state.

RELAXED AROUSAL. Relaxation to the point of arousal. I’ll break this down in a second but let me hereby clarify some other former terms thrown around that are nametags for the same phenomenon.

Relaxed arousal is a clearer way to articulate and explain terms like ‘laser eyes’, ‘hyper focus’, ‘being in the zone’, ‘nimbus’, ‘woo’, ‘the searing hot coal’, ‘when fireworks turn into a laser beam’. And those are just the RSD terminologies. I think there are other terms out there like the ‘ember’ and the ‘magic’ and the ‘flame’ or something.

RELAXED AROUSAL is the feeling you had when you had an on night. A pure on night, not an ego-validation night. It’s that feeling when you completely unstifled, witty, funny, influential, giving girls the deer in headlights eyes, invincible nights. Or any of the other names given to this phenomenon as listed above. Usually, it takes some time to work yourself into RELAXED AROUSAL, maybe five minutes, maybe three hours, but once you know it and recognize it for what it is you can access that emotional pathway and take yourself back you RELAXED AROUSAL faster every time given rise to much quicker inconsistency-mitigation and the overall result is you become much better at picking up girls.

Note this. RELAXED AROUSAL IS NOT AN ENERGETIC THING. On a personal note, if I see one more homosexual game chode running around with a bowtie on high fiving people and chinking glasses I will cry tears of bile. You do not get good gaming state – RELAXED AROUSAL – from pumping yourself up. This is one of the biggest misconceptions in the game.

Energy is not state. Energetic opening is a dead end. Being energetic, i.e. loud, noisy, brash or abrupt in a club will get you attention sure. But guy who go out and are overly energetic are compensating for a lack of trust in themselves that ‘they are enough’ to begin with. Energetic approaches and energetic game yields visible reactions from girls. Proper game that has proven to be successful and DOES yield numbers, relationships and intimacy will usually rarely inspire the girl to overtly react to you.

Simplified, RELAXED AROUSAL game doesn’t get reactions but it gets success. Overly energetic game (mistaken state game) will have the girls initially reacting but not following though for proper success. The reason why relaxed arousal game yields numbers, dates and intimacy is because a guy who doesn’t rely on reaction to verify he is enough is a naturally attractive guy. Whereas a guy who uses energy to generate reactions and ‘notice me’ situations doesn’t trust himself and isn’t a naturally attractive guy.

On that same point, a guy who opens with excess energy in order to gain reactions cannot retain that energy for the entire interaction and the interaction is doomed to fade away as the energy invariably drops away. Whereas a RELAXED AROUSAL state interaction can build momentum, that is to say that once a guy starts an interaction the interaction will progress, get better and build momentum instead of fading away.

So the misconception is that energetic behavior will equate to good state. It will not. BUT NOTE THIS, sometimes energetic behavior can carry you across the social indifference threshold on any given night. So, energetic behavior can serve to UNSTIFLE YOU which will cause you to become relaxed - the first component of RELAXED AROUSAL.

So to clarify all subtle misconceptions energetic behavior can unstifle you to a point of RELAXING, you have shrugged off your anxiety in the situation, which leads to good natural game state. But energetic behavior is not good state for game, a subtle BUT VITALLY IMPORTANT difference.

For example, go into the bar or club and act like a moron, let loose until you are relaxed and feeling good. Then go and make normal conversation. It could take some time and effort but with a few renditions you’ll access RELAXED AROUSAL quicker and more effectively each time. With day game just chat to a few people and very soon you will be socially relaxed when approaching strangers. Voila good state for game at night or day.

A lot of guys pump themselves up to a point of energy that they simply can’t replicate or maintain. Then they become concerned or anxious that they can’t replicate or maintain their energy and this gives rise to massive anxiety. Anxiety is the opposite of relaxation, so this is obviously the opposite of good state for gaming.

On the other hand if you can achieve relaxation in a bar, club or day game then you have a rock solid platform from which you can express yourself in whichever way you please or is calibrated to do so. So you can be relaxed and expressing yourself with low energy, or relaxed and expressing yourself with high energy. Relaxation as a baseline state means that you are free to express yourself in any form you choose at any point you choose.

As we know A = HV (+-)E [attraction = higher value plus a full range of emotions] if you are the once choosing freely how you want to wield your emotions you can inspire whatever emotion you want in those around you at any given time. That means those around you will be reacting to you, making you higher value. Each reaction is an emotional arousal. Enough emotional reactions will leave them aroused. So if you’re relaxed and keep talking i.e. chatting up girls, you will inspire attraction and Pick Up.

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#1
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awesome article

i realized this kind of stuff from my own experiences (the difference between energy pumping and real relaxed arousal; and how being energetic can remove fear to gain acces to relaxation; but with relaxation as goal -- because energetic becomes reaction-seeking if you continue with it after removing fear), but I haven't been able to grasp the concepts so clearly; which gets me inconsistent.

i just love the reframe of removing inconsistency, instead of gaining consistency.

i notice you do this all the time, and this really helps understand the "you don't need to do something, you just need to stop sucking" approach on many levels.
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Oh man bro.  If I manage to save up enough for a BC by this fall, it's definitely gonna be you in Vegas.

This article is a long time coming for a concept that is INCREDIBLY misconstrued.  Nicely put.
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Thank you for clarifying this. You nailed it man -- like fucking perfect!
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 WOOOOOoAH Alexander!

EH BUDDY!

Completely impressed! This is articulated so well, it hit the nail on the head.. this is for me. The concept of "hot searing coal" was so fucking VAGUE. (A LOT of RSD concepts are vague..I wonder if on purpose?) I was going out a lot in the summer and this captured it well... the best night I had, where the girl is still messaging me (SINCE THE SUMMER, even though we have NEVER hung out) has been because of this! I couldn't pinpoint what it was.. but it was DEFINITELY me TOTALLY RELAXING. My wing (and I) CONSTANTLY tried to be energetic man and it never panned out.. instead of just relaxing. RELAXATION = self-trust.

Brad- might have some competition in terms of writing!! Keep at it man.

Love from T dot!
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 seek and ye shall find, I was talking on this tonight,  its the road map on how not to give a fuck. to be 100% you and cool with it. when i am in 'state' it works. now i know how to get there. 
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So "relaxation" state is achieved by either

1) Being fucking self amusing and in the moment and loud/energetic and then relaxing cause you don't give a fuck anymore
or 
2) Building social momentum.  Talking to everyone so when the time comes and you see that hottie you no onger have fear of approaching.  

Is this right? Can "relaxation" state be acessed/created by building social momentum?


NS
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#7

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great article, man.

Tonight I felt exactly what you wrote about. At the moment I have the "problem" that I'm near to success and I have to be patient to let the tweaks sink in. I told myself not to be successful for a while cause I was too outcome dependent in the past. 
And tonight I gave really a fuck. Honestly, it wasn't like my brain said "rsd said: dont give a fuck. be outcome independent." but i FELT it this time from inside and just leaned back in the interactions. I just chilled. And suprise surpise: they went great. and if you keep on going like that you can focus on other things.
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#8

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Alexander~ wrote:

RELAXED AROUSAL is the feeling you had when you had an on night. A pure on night, not an ego-validation night. It’s that feeling when you completely unstifled, witty, funny, influential, giving girls the deer in headlights eyes, invincible nights. Or any of the other names given to this phenomenon as listed above. Usually, it takes some time to work yourself into RELAXED AROUSAL, maybe five minutes, maybe three hours, but once you know it and recognize it for what it is you can access that emotional pathway and take yourself back you RELAXED AROUSAL faster every time given rise to much quicker inconsistency-mitigation and the overall result is you become much better at picking up girls.

This is why you have to love RSD. No magic tricks, or "who lies more....?" openers, but a real breakdown in the definition of 'having testicles'.

I've never seen an explanation relate to me so close before.

But enough jerking-off Alex, he gets enough girls himself.

I want a broken down process of How To Get To Relaxed Arousal.
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wow that was awesome man.

Ive been going out and being a dik caz its fun and as a byproduct, gets me unstilfed to full awesomeness.

wasnt until i read this that ive realized it HAS been a superficial reation from the girls without any substance. like if there was a car crash, naturally everyone would look over to see what the big bang was.

Maybe its caz in a club environment its easy to forget Attraction = quiet and attentive and they can be nervous and stifled too.

real big eyeopener for me.

Awesome article too, easy to read and comprehend.

Achilles~
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Finally! Very clear, and much needed.

Question: How to provide a WIDE RANGE of emotions when all you feel is happy, relaxed, and aroused? Does she need to feel darker emotions as well?  confused

Always been confused about this one.
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Mild Seven

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Real talk from the trenches.
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 wow son. BALLER ASS MODDA FUKKIN ARTICLE. 
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wow that was amazing this one article offers so much value, it is like a foundation to build off of from.Alex is def my fav in rsd i would no i gotta take a BC with you asap thanks for this!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

btw any word on when your webstie will be updated with new content?
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Laaavish wrote:
Finally! Very clear, and much needed.

Question: How to provide a WIDE RANGE of emotions when all you feel is happy, relaxed, and aroused? Does she need to feel darker emotions as well?  confused

Always been confused about this one.
As I understand it, you have the "whatever you feel, she feels" rule. You should feel good,  loving, empathy... i.e. the positive stuff. However, if you stay true to yourself, if you stay honest and authentic, you might offend or shock a few people. This is not a deliberate act to provoke or be unkind, it just happens if you don't adapt to what you think the person in front in you likes. These are the darker emotions.

If she is not interested or she does things you don't like, you walk away or call her out. She might not like it, but you stay honest.
If you get her jealous because you are attracted to another girl and you don't hide it but you stay honest.

It's when you refrain from managing other people's emotions, and focus on managing your own into "relaxed arousal", that if you stay honest and true to yourself, you'll bound to provoke some negative reactions and emotions
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 haha Nimbin....
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BRAH wrote:



Laaavish wrote:
Finally! Very clear, and much needed.

Question: How to provide a WIDE RANGE of emotions when all you feel is happy, relaxed, and aroused? Does she need to feel darker emotions as well?  confused

Always been confused about this one.

Yes. I like to talk about rape and shooting dogs on the street.
I lol'ed... because you do.
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Thanks Alex! Usually I don't post here, but that article is fuckin' good man!! Congratulations :)

Best regards,
from Brazil to you
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Btw, when will u come here to Brazil?
It'd be amazing!
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I want a broken down process of How To Get To Relaxed Arousal.




He just gave you one in the article mate. It ain't hard. Talk to people to get you out of your head and socialising. Oh, and I find slowing down my speech,movements and deep breathing all help as well. And relaxing my gaze so I'm staring through things a bit not at them. This activates a certain part of your brain that relaxes you. It's the same gaze that babies have.
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So what you are saying is:

At night time there is a lot of crazy energy. 
So I jump in at that (physically grabbing, yelling, talking or whatever is appropriate).

And at day time there is a lot of normal energy.
So I jump in at that (mostly small talk to get talkative).

After this I am socially relaxed.
So I can do anything I want, in a relaxed way.

Add to this the word: arousal, and im at your concept of Relaxed Arousal.
At least this is what I got out of it. So really interesting article man!
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i understand things better in metaphor's....and how i see this is....

relaxed state =  expressing yourself from a clean and blank canvas...if you 'fuck up' you just turn the page and start again fresh. it doesn't really matter

unrelaxed state = expressing youself on a canvas that has scribbles and smudges on each page...all expressions are 'tainted' or 'diluted'.....you can't hide these no matter how good your 'art' is

i don't know if 'game' can be distilled and explaind any simpler than this article....but then again, iv'e heard that said before.

cheers alex
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#23

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I like to sit on the dancefloor meditating and wanking at the same time yo! (Relaxed arousal taken to the next level baby!). And what a fine article! when thinking back it explains a lot of my sticking points i think. Where can i find CHODES NIGHT OUT 2 by the way?
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Alexander~ wrote:

BRAH wrote:



Laaavish wrote:
Finally! Very clear, and much needed.

Question: How to provide a WIDE RANGE of emotions when all you feel is happy, relaxed, and aroused? Does she need to feel darker emotions as well?  confused

Always been confused about this one.

Yes. I like to talk about rape and shooting dogs on the street.
I lol'ed... because you do.
After attending Hotseat i've been talking a lot about rape with girls - dont know what the hell happened!
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Alexander~ wrote:

BRAH wrote:



Laaavish wrote:
Finally! Very clear, and much needed.

Question: How to provide a WIDE RANGE of emotions when all you feel is happy, relaxed, and aroused? Does she need to feel darker emotions as well?  confused

Always been confused about this one.

Yes. I like to talk about rape and shooting dogs on the street.
I lol'ed... because you do.
Lol@ shooting dogs in the street

Thanks Markzor, thats kind of the impression I was getting. But its confusing---you don't want to 'manufacture' feelings, you just want to be relaxed and aroused...yet there's this logical 'formula' (A=HV+E), where you have to provide a 'wide range of emotions'.

I'm easy-going, and I don't tend to say blatant things that cause 'emotional spikes' or really stir the pot. So should I be consciously working on this/taking conversational 'risks' on purpose? Or just forget that and flow. I took a BOOTCAMP once, and we touched a little on emotional spikes so Im guessing that's the key here.

That's what Id like help with if anyone is willing to lend a thought.
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 low energy is more boring than high energy though.... I dunno i tell myself to let go of everything stopping me from having fun, and that usually makes me high energy
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theclear wrote:
 low energy is more boring than high energy though.... I dunno i tell myself to let go of everything stopping me from having fun, and that usually makes me high energy
I got exactly the same , but i will try to be in this new relaxtion state aswell  to see the difference.

What do you guys think is beter to get the "social momentum" open as much people as possible and make some short conversations  or just open a few but make a long conversation ?
thanks in advanced
good article alex ,

let's grab some cold ones when your in  Amsterdam !
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I have been going through a plateau recently, frustrating as hell.

My approaches are generally high energy big cheesy grin style. You´re right alex, it is a way to cover up my inner emotions which are probably  different forms of insecurity. Still, i usually am able to enjoy myself.
I´d rather be able to do both - enjoy myself and pull.

My friend´s watch me approach and are under the impression i pull like a fucking champ. I take a girl home sometimes but i want to be doing it weekly. 

Embrace that which is hardest. For me that is going up chilled as hell and generally much more vulnerable than my usual slap stick humour approaches. Damn, it seems difficult but why?

That´s probably why i find day game much harder - i can´t pull off that crazy muggin grinning dude 24-7 and my vulnerability comes through. I know what relaxed arousal feels like. You feel like the most powerful person on the globe.

That doesn´t mean being chill all the time. If i´ve gone up to a girl and we´re having fun and i want to go wild, hell yeah. I´m aroused, that´s how i feel and i´ve already shown the girl what i´m like normally.

My plan to achieve relaxed arousal:
- Meditate and stretch every morning for 45 minutes. Dance class once a week, MMA every other week
- Nailing my diet, supplements and workouts
- Being the action taker. I´ll be busy as hell when the year starts and i want that to fuel that state of being alex talks about. Think about what you want for yourself rather than other´s opinions - do for yourself.
- Looking after my family and loved ones. Being an amazing person to be around. One step for improvement there is to listen more and stop giving out unsolicited advice.
- Stop explaining myself. Even when i´m thinking to myself. Sometimes i´ll get this weird feeling like i´m talking to someone and telling them why i´m doing what i´m doing. No, no more of that shit.

Oh, i almost forgot

- Go out regularly (4x weekly), day game as well.
- Talk to everyone. Girls and guys, enjoy yourself and just chill out.

A question to Alex or anyone who has a formulated opinion on it:
How would one reconcile Relaxed arousal + Beasting?
Go in chill and as the interaction builds you become more aroused and the result is beasting? I´m unsure on this one. Can the two concepts be reconciled?

Thanks
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Great stuff!


Sthlm bootcamp on my birfday. Hmmmmmm ;)
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 On that same point, a guy who opens with excess energy in order to gain reactions cannot retain that energy for the entire interaction and the interaction is doomed to fade away as the energy invariably drops away. Whereas a RELAXED AROUSAL state interaction can build momentum, that is to say that once a guy starts an interaction the interaction will progress, get better and build momentum instead of fading away. thumbs up

awesome article
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#31

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just my opinion, but I think there is some confusion regarding this style of interaction vs. some of the other ones mentioned historically on RSD. I think that it can and does all work, but for me personally I gel with this style personally more so then others. Doing the high energy thing doesn't seem to lead to connection with the girl FOR ME, but being chill and horny does.


Great new style and article Alex, thanks man!
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Klaesson wrote:
Dont understand, in flawless natural Tim say that you should use the "woo" as fast as u get into the club, like clab, shout, sing, high-five people and do that for 20min and u will be in "state" for the rest of the night.

Now you are saying that you should just relaxe and dont be high energy and it will be fine?
In the article he makes a distinction between getting into state, and being in state. For getting into state, you can do high energy or crazy stuff. But once you have reached that relaxed state through becoming indifferent to what happens, just approach and be normal.
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 Fuck it Vortex

 Hitting Karaoke on a Friday night. 

With the Aim not to really not give a fuck, I spent the night evoking the aura of non fuck giving. I realised this during a singing lesson I had. Facing the fear of being judged in isolation is terrifying. AA is nothing compared to it, letting your core bare. I have been work beasting all week increasing my efficiency and workload, I knew tonight was going to be a push as I was been burning the candle at both ends. My wing was on a downer all day and I really wanted to go out. I spent the day challenging his state. 

I had the lesson then found my wing man and hit the Karaoke Bar. I walk in open the 1st set instantly. amazing we start singing, grinding, jumping. then I eject and open another set. boom, same cool and sexy time and then A guy grabs me and we start dancing and jumping and singing. By this point I'm so tired and really not caring so I high five and get a drink. Awesome intro entrance. Been relaxed and aroused loving it so much I starting caring that I was not caring I'm sure there is a name for it. ‘the Fuck it vortex’ (I own that now). I let go and let the night happen. My state was honest.

O I nearly forgot. We sung Kiss and I was owning the crowd, making eyes at the front row. I kept eye contact and kissed a girl during the chorus. not giving a fuck is great. I was not on, I was not off. I was me and it was AWESOME! 
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NonSense wrote:
So "relaxation" state is achieved by either

1) Being fucking self amusing and in the moment and loud/energetic and then relaxing cause you don't give a fuck anymore
or 
2) Building social momentum.  Talking to everyone so when the time comes and you see that hottie you no onger have fear of approaching.  

Is this right? Can "relaxation" state be acessed/created by building social momentum?


NS

Exactly.
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#35
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 Alex free tour dates are going up! Tokyo 22nd of Feburary - check out www.rsdfreetour.com !

Alex~
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Alexander~ wrote:
 Alex free tour dates are going up! Tokyo 22nd of Feburary - check out www.rsdfreetour.com !

Alex~
See you there. We'll jump and high five and clink glasses like fags.

Actually I'll meet you on the 18th.
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 Awesome article
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When I read this for the first time, last night I fuckin hated you to be honest.

I was going out, and planned to go out and hit full ENERGY/STATE.

When I hit the club I tuned down my energy, and went around thinking "I don't have to DO anything. I'm the king, I practically OWN this place" And I laughed about it. 
This was a new kind of STATE to me, and it was very relaxing. 

But here is the thing, whenever I hit a good state I allways lose it after a little while, and then I go down to the point where I just give up.  And that really sucks!
How do I maintain a good state, or what do I do to prevent myself from chodeing totally OUT ?

BTW I don't hate you at this point. I'm sure that this relaxing arousal thing will do magic for me.

Thanks! :)
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BRAH wrote:



Klaesson wrote:





BRAH wrote:







Klaesson wrote:
Dont understand, in flawless natural Tim say that you should use the "woo" as fast as u get into the club, like clab, shout, sing, high-five people and do that for 20min and u will be in "state" for the rest of the night.

Now you are saying that you should just relaxe and dont be high energy and it will be fine?
Tim has a different style things have changed (improved) since the release of Flawless Natural.
So wtf do u mean? Tyler said Tim is the best in field he have ever seen, THE BEST. And he is very high energy, so wtf? And how have they improved? Guys have been talking about being relaxed since like forever.
From what Alex has told me Tim is one of the best but I've never seen him in field. However, I've seen the high energy stuff done wrong so many times (and done it myself). Your energy level should be on par or slightly higher than the girl. The venue and the time of night will have a bearing on this as girls tend to loosen up later on in the night (especially in high intensity nightclubs).  With that said, most people warm up early in the night so it doesn't make sense to be too high energy. It's unsustainable and came off 'wierd' in front of the girl. It can still work but it has a greater chance of fucking up.
whoa BRAH, this is some of the smartest shit you've ever said/done... nice one
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nice article
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 Man, on of the best articles here in RSD to be honest... i was the kind of guy who misunderstood the concept of STATE... and i was like pure energy, pure entertainment but this will only will let you to TIRE yourself... one of the things that i learned is to fucking enjoy the night, if you feel like you want to scream, you fucking do it, but that doesnt mean that you are going to be doing it all night...

This article remembered me that! thanks man! you rock, see ya!
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solid piece, definitely reinforces the last few months for me.

chill out, do stuff, see what happens.

so much less thinking required
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 yay finally a very clear post differentiating between the electric plug and the burning hot coal. personally hitting consistant relaxation state is one of my biggest life goals
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Klaesson wrote:



BRAH wrote:





Klaesson wrote:
Dont understand, in flawless natural Tim say that you should use the "woo" as fast as u get into the club, like clab, shout, sing, high-five people and do that for 20min and u will be in "state" for the rest of the night.

Now you are saying that you should just relaxe and dont be high energy and it will be fine?
Tim has a different style things have changed (improved) since the release of Flawless Natural.
So wtf do u mean? Tyler said Tim is the best in field he have ever seen, THE BEST. And he is very high energy, so wtf? And how have they improved? Guys have been talking about being relaxed since like forever.
Tim's not high energy. Check out the first 2 minutes of this video, he gives examples of approaching with too much woo, too much Intent, and the right mix of both.

http://www.flawlessnaturalvideoblog.com/?p=6
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 SO TRUE.. I was stuck in that energetic frame for years.. with initial make outs and no end results. So all your friends think you're the biggest pimp of all time, but you rarely get laid.. SUCKS. Relaxed arousal.. I like the term hyper focus to describe it. I have been fluctuating in and out of it for the last couple of years after beginning to read Eckhart Tolle. When you got it it's great... You allow the state to emanate from within rather than feeling the need to do anything ;) 
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Sooo....Chodes night out two....where is it?!??!
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TBird wrote:
Sooo....Chodes night out two....where is it?!??!
We are just settling the internet distribution rights and the advertising commission break down to the parties involved before it can go live, everyeone expect this to be a viral sensation because there has been nothing like it before - but who kows what will actually happen. 

And while www.alexattitude.com is almost ready, its still missing a couple of things, so once they're in place then it wil be one of the first posts!

Its a 26 minute video! Infield footage, based on real people and real event, occuring with real people and real events.

Know this name!

TIMF BHRAOHWN!

Alexander~
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berlinrsd wrote:

by boring you mean awesome...
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Yeah I really liked this post. It backs up a lot of things I've felt and discovered to be true in the field and it's cool to have it backed up like this. Cheers for that.
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