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I’m at about 28,000 feet somewhere about Nimbin, probably, rocking out to some Deadmau5. I’m feeling good. I’m in a pretty good state.

Maybe its virgin blue airlines? Or maybe it’s my natural game? For the purposes of this article I’ll attribute it to my natural game. But make note, virgin is where it’s at for airlines down under.

The whole pick up industry is greatly misinformed and misguided when it comes to understanding what state is, and how they should use it to help them in their game.

The true fact is that state is usually a very accurate determiner of how successful you are going to be. Not a necessary determiner but a very accurate one. This article is a guideline, not a biblical law – there are always exceptions to the rule.

But if you follow the rule, you ensure that you mitigate inconsistency. That is, you take action to avoid bad nights. Which is better that trying to create or force good nights. One of the 28 points of natural game is ‘if you try to force something it will never come to you’ – that is to say that it’s unnatural. So it’s better to mitigate inconsistency and trust that you’ll have good nights - instead of trying to force state and trying to force good nights. Mitigating inconsistency is more chilled, and you’ll soon realize that you will have better state for the night - than forcing good state.

Though this is complicated mental masturbation you should find yourself in the club thinking ‘we’ll I’ve taken the simple steps to chill out and relax’ and feeling the burden of concern lift from your shoulders. You can relax knowing there is nothing else to worry about. As opposed to being in the club forcing yourself to ‘manufacture’ an elusive nonexistent idea of state that you will never actually experience – a process that will obviously make you more and more concerned and anxious as the night goes on.

So the ACTUAL and proper idea of state is actually relaxation. NOT AN ENERGETIC THING.

Let me hereby once and for all announce proper state.

RELAXED AROUSAL. Relaxation to the point of arousal. I’ll break this down in a second but let me hereby clarify some other former terms thrown around that are nametags for the same phenomenon.

Relaxed arousal is a clearer way to articulate and explain terms like ‘laser eyes’, ‘hyper focus’, ‘being in the zone’, ‘nimbus’, ‘woo’, ‘the searing hot coal’, ‘when fireworks turn into a laser beam’. And those are just the RSD terminologies. I think there are other terms out there like the ‘ember’ and the ‘magic’ and the ‘flame’ or something.

RELAXED AROUSAL is the feeling you had when you had an on night. A pure on night, not an ego-validation night. It’s that feeling when you completely unstifled, witty, funny, influential, giving girls the deer in headlights eyes, invincible nights. Or any of the other names given to this phenomenon as listed above. Usually, it takes some time to work yourself into RELAXED AROUSAL, maybe five minutes, maybe three hours, but once you know it and recognize it for what it is you can access that emotional pathway and take yourself back you RELAXED AROUSAL faster every time given rise to much quicker inconsistency-mitigation and the overall result is you become much better at picking up girls.

Note this. RELAXED AROUSAL IS NOT AN ENERGETIC THING. On a personal note, if I see one more homosexual game chode running around with a bowtie on high fiving people and chinking glasses I will cry tears of bile. You do not get good gaming state – RELAXED AROUSAL – from pumping yourself up. This is one of the biggest misconceptions in the game.

Energy is not state. Energetic opening is a dead end. Being energetic, i.e. loud, noisy, brash or abrupt in a club will get you attention sure. But guy who go out and are overly energetic are compensating for a lack of trust in themselves that ‘they are enough’ to begin with. Energetic approaches and energetic game yields visible reactions from girls. Proper game that has proven to be successful and DOES yield numbers, relationships and intimacy will usually rarely inspire the girl to overtly react to you.

Simplified, RELAXED AROUSAL game doesn’t get reactions but it gets success. Overly energetic game (mistaken state game) will have the girls initially reacting but not following though for proper success. The reason why relaxed arousal game yields numbers, dates and intimacy is because a guy who doesn’t rely on reaction to verify he is enough is a naturally attractive guy. Whereas a guy who uses energy to generate reactions and ‘notice me’ situations doesn’t trust himself and isn’t a naturally attractive guy.

On that same point, a guy who opens with excess energy in order to gain reactions cannot retain that energy for the entire interaction and the interaction is doomed to fade away as the energy invariably drops away. Whereas a RELAXED AROUSAL state interaction can build momentum, that is to say that once a guy starts an interaction the interaction will progress, get better and build momentum instead of fading away.

So the misconception is that energetic behavior will equate to good state. It will not. BUT NOTE THIS, sometimes energetic behavior can carry you across the social indifference threshold on any given night. So, energetic behavior can serve to UNSTIFLE YOU which will cause you to become relaxed - the first component of RELAXED AROUSAL.

So to clarify all subtle misconceptions energetic behavior can unstifle you to a point of RELAXING, you have shrugged off your anxiety in the situation, which leads to good natural game state. But energetic behavior is not good state for game, a subtle BUT VITALLY IMPORTANT difference.

For example, go into the bar or club and act like a moron, let loose until you are relaxed and feeling good. Then go and make normal conversation. It could take some time and effort but with a few renditions you’ll access RELAXED AROUSAL quicker and more effectively each time. With day game just chat to a few people and very soon you will be socially relaxed when approaching strangers. Voila good state for game at night or day.

A lot of guys pump themselves up to a point of energy that they simply can’t replicate or maintain. Then they become concerned or anxious that they can’t replicate or maintain their energy and this gives rise to massive anxiety. Anxiety is the opposite of relaxation, so this is obviously the opposite of good state for gaming.

On the other hand if you can achieve relaxation in a bar, club or day game then you have a rock solid platform from which you can express yourself in whichever way you please or is calibrated to do so. So you can be relaxed and expressing yourself with low energy, or relaxed and expressing yourself with high energy. Relaxation as a baseline state means that you are free to express yourself in any form you choose at any point you choose.

As we know A = HV (+-)E [attraction = higher value plus a full range of emotions] if you are the once choosing freely how you want to wield your emotions you can inspire whatever emotion you want in those around you at any given time. That means those around you will be reacting to you, making you higher value. Each reaction is an emotional arousal. Enough emotional reactions will leave them aroused. So if you’re relaxed and keep talking i.e. chatting up girls, you will inspire attraction and Pick Up.

Alexander~

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