Alexander~ RSD

Alex~
 
Simply having a set of goals and working towards them is something that put you into an empowered mood and drive influential behaviors. Working towards goals is something you can do for yourself that will give you an amazing feeling that will be automatically projected onto whoever you interact with, inner game thought loops that lead to good results.

The desperate times motvate you towards the privileged times. If you didn’t know the pleasures of the privileged times then you don’t know what you're turning your ambitions towards.

Money certainly isn't everything. During my times studying I had barely any wealth, living on a tiny budget. Prior to my employment with Real Social Dynamics as an executive coach I was desperately broke and constantly sick with anxiety over where my next food would come from or how i could transport myself to my next work shift.

But even in those hard times it wasn't the end of the world. And even thougn i was doing it tough financially it had no effect whatsoever on that fun I had when i was out in the bar.

But living day to day asking my roommates for $3 dollars to do their washing for them so I could buy a 50 Pack of Dim Sims was utterly depressing. I will never be able to eat dim sims again. If i stopped to think about my situation I felt like a fucking failure. I fucking hated it. I, like all guys, felt like I deserved elite status in life.

For a while I moped around and felt like a victim and let this lead to make me behave like a loser.

After a while I realized that no one was going to get me out of the bad situation but me.

When I started to make a plan to get out of debt and take control of my life it was the most empowering feeling.

In hindsight I realize that the desperation of my situation was the catalyst for my self-actualization.

While I found that it was great to plan to get back on my feet, it’s was exceedingly empowering to make plans that were ambitions. To aim high.

Maybe it’s like the secret or something like that, but when you turn your focus towards what you want in life it really does come to you, as long as you commit yourself to it.

Just having something towork towards change my whoel demeanor, despite that fact that I hadn't even com close to acheiving my goals yet. Just feeling as though I was moving forward made me infinitely more attractive. Perception is projection.

I used to wonder about these guys who'd write on RSDNation and the way that girls would say that ‘there was something about them’. As soon as I switched my primary focus from 'not losing' towards my ambitions I became inherently higher value.

I distinctly remember being in social situations talking to girls – during a time when I was trying to wrap my head around being naturally attractive – and the girls just weren't anywhere near as important to me as I used to think they were. The focus had shifted towards myself and my own ambitions. 

The dyanmics was changing right there within me, it was identity level change in action. Girls and people would be right there infornt of me in conversation, simply reacting to me and being around by me, instead of me trying to game her. I was all about me, and the more you are about you, the more influence you have an the more others look to you for reliability and stimulation.

When you really think about it, if you’re ambitious and you sart to fulfill some of your ambitions you truly do put yourself first for a while.

But there is a big misconception about those kinds of people.

It canb be thought that ambitious people are selfish, self centered or that they ‘don’t take the time to think about others for once’. The truth is, these ambitions people are motivated by never, ever having to depend on others in the same way that they once desperately did.

More than that, one of the biggest underlying motivations of an ambitious person is to become something so significant that his loved ones can rely on him. So that he can serve the role that he has respected others for. Helping him when he was desperate.

Its growth and identity level change from beta-males to naturally attractive alpha male.

I've gone through this and I've seen in it so many others as well in this RSDnation as well.

You might have to be truly desperate to have the leverage to develop huge ambition. But reading about it here amidst your own self actualization it should motivate you to raise your own ambition-bar to be something more for yourself, and those you’d love to be able to influence positively.

Friends, family, self and girls on the cold approach.

Aim high, and keep going.

Alexander~
www.alexattitude.com
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#1

xJudgex

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 Another great and empowering article. Anytime when I'm in a crutch in my life, simply by me taking action and getting myself out of it is empowering in itself. Thanks Alex.
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lol totally thinking about the same thing.

also i think when you have challenges and then the times suck REAL HARD but you keep persisting and taking action and you succeed ---> tons of selfesteem for you + you know you can rely on yourself.


on my way to getting financially independent now ahha fuck girls
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willgood

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 A friend and I were recently comparing bank accounts, I had $13 to my name and he had $19 and we both agreed we had never been happier or more fulfilled in our lives. Money is nothing, true self esteem is EVERYTHING.

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We're all in this together.
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 more videos from you please Alex
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Steve-0!

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I think Rocky said it the best... " Burma's a war zone"  sorry wrong movie.

"The world ain't all sunshine and rainbows. It's a very mean and nasty place and I don't care how tough you are it will beat you to your knees and keep you there permanently if you let it. You, me, or nobody is gonna hit as hard as life. But it ain't about how hard ya hit. It's about how hard you can get it and keep moving forward. How much you can take and keep moving forward. That's how winning is done! Now if you know what you're worth then go out and get what you're worth. But ya gotta be willing to take the hits, and not pointing fingers saying you ain't where you wanna be because of him, or her, or anybody! Cowards do that and that ain't you! You're better than that!"
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I can relate to this article 100%, man. I hit rock bottom emotionally before deciding I could do more with my life. Then in the process of making more of my life I hit rock bottom financially as I struggled to build my business. Now I`m starting to reap the rewards. Now that I`ve been through that and understand what it`s like as a man to have a mission, I exude something different. No girl ever becomes my priority anymore and AA is pretty much a joke. When you`ve been in the position where you might be kicked out of your apartment or have no money for food and you get through that challenge, no girl is scary.

The important thing to note is that the thing that made me happy was taking action towards what I wanted. Even when I hit rock bottom financially, I was happy because I was moving forward towards my goal. Before I had started takign action, I had a regular steady paycheck but I was stagnent so I wasn`t happy.
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 “Self-pity is easily the most destructive of the nonpharmaceutical narcotics; it is addictive, gives momentary pleasure and separates the victim from reality.”
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 Yes. Money. I like that :)
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"know what you want to achieve - that will lead you in the right direction.
have personal boundaries - that will SEAL you inside the right direction."

haha no dim sums? if you're staying at the Imperial Palace this summer, then you're gonna have to eat shit !

blowing up, Alex~ ! solid, solid article.
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 Another Great Article from the RSD boys 
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#11

HotStud17

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You should have higher ambitions towards negating spelling errors ;) Nevertheless great article and "The Secret" rules motherfuckaaas! - the universe wants us all to get late so therefore we will!

Looooove - Matt
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#12

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"The secret" is nothing more than pure bullshit !!! Read Bruce Lipton and Maxwell Maltz and you will discover the true "secret"
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Thanks for this.  I've just read "Think And Grow Rich" and this is along the same lines.  Are there any specific things you can do to maintain that focus on what you want?  I've tried meditating, and I'm improving at it, but not totally 'there' yet.  Do you solely take time out of your day to envision what you want in life? or how do you go about it?

Thanks again dude.
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Doge~

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lol @ success kid.
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good article my friend
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Steve-0! wrote:
I think Rocky said it the best... " Burma's a war zone"  sorry wrong movie.

"The world ain't all sunshine and rainbows. It's a very mean and nasty place and I don't care how tough you are it will beat you to your knees and keep you there permanently if you let it. You, me, or nobody is gonna hit as hard as life. But it ain't about how hard ya hit. It's about how hard you can get it and keep moving forward. How much you can take and keep moving forward. That's how winning is done! Now if you know what you're worth then go out and get what you're worth. But ya gotta be willing to take the hits, and not pointing fingers saying you ain't where you wanna be because of him, or her, or anybody! Cowards do that and that ain't you! You're better than that!"


I really love that quote!!
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#17

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Awesome as always Alex, I look forward to reading more of your articles.
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Sketchyyy

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 Thank you for this, Alex. 

Your articles are so simple, direct, yet meaningful. 
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GaryBusey

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I dig it.

"The sun shines bright on those who keep their heads high."

Interesting how one's development is interwined with everybody else's, on more than one level.
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Wow you where broke and stuff? I could have never imagined.

Great article, I have to set higher ambitions for myself as well, financial but mostly just hot chicks wise.
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#21
RagaTanha

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 Good points, but you failed in editing.

The first sentence makes almost no sense:
"I’ve in many different instances that for a guy having goals and moving towards them is one of the most fulfilling things you can do for yourself, and something you can do for yourself that will give you an amazing feeling that will be automatically projected onto whoever you meet."
What are you trying to say?

Also on the seventh paragraph: "People think that ambitions people are selfish."
Not professional, revise your work. 
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Tobias

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 Thanks Alexander, this is really the kind of stuff I need to hear from someone in my life. 
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Nice Article.  Good to hear something about inner game with respect to ambition & success without the focus being directly on getting laid.
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I looooove to see the rsd guys get into deep stuff like this, awesome article.
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#25

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 Thanks for sharing this Alex, it's reaffirming things for me. Reminding me to keep at my ambitions and goals and not look for a quick fix in life.

Also, thanks to Playboy for the quote from Rocky. I'd forgotten about that!
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 Good article.  So true. 
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You have an amazing way of verbalising in-depth the mindsets and principles I live by, and I can tell it comes from a position of more experience but fuck i'll be where you are in time, believe dat.
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Great stuff - If you need a Proofreader (seriously) send me your shit before you post it and I'll do it for you :)
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#29

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"The desperate times motvate you towards the privileged times. If you didn’t know the pleasures of the privileged times then you don’t know what you're turning your ambitions towards."

How do you do this, how do you "see in too the future"?
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AZmagic

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 Thanks, man!

"Aim high, and keep going"

Beautiful.
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Kris-

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 cool shit! currently just got out of that depressive loser stage myself. Im still jobless and poor but now i'm working toward starting my own business and looking for work! i used to care way too much about women and but far too much value on pickup. I just realised that its called game because its pretty much that just a game It's not to be taken seriously and it's sole purpose is FUN!
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Mizu

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To empower others you must first empower yourself.

Massive results require MASSIVE action.

Go get em'

~Mizu

P.S. Once you get your finances handled, it's a whole new fuckin' ballgame. You enter into Alpha Traning, yo. Competing with the other Top Dogs while the chodes still mill about trying to get from meal-to-meal.

Hottest of the hot girls, razors edge. No other place you'll feel more alive. Like Fight Club, only in a club approaching dimes.
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#33

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This may also mean that guys who achieve great success have inner issues that aren't already solved...
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