The Alexander~ Bootcamp Tour rolls on with intensity. Cameras are rolling now... day game, night game, in venues all over the world. I've got a busy schedule coming up, and a special unofficial announcement.

Brisbane Bootcamp: Friday 22nd June

Sydney Bootcamp: Friday 13th July

Melbourne Bootcamp: Friday 20th July

Perth Bootcamp: Friday 27th July 

-------->>>>>> Then Canada! Calgary and Winnipeg and certain jetlag!

I’LL BE RUNNING TWO RSD WORLD SUMMIT LAS VEGAS BOOTCAMPS. Email support@realsocialdynamics.com to get involved.

And after that... RSD is bringing you a comprehensive dose of Alexander~ game for you benefit...



Exciting. Stay tuned to my RSDnation blog. Now to learn.

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There is far too much aimless wandering by guys out learning to pick up girls and making their best attempts at picking up girls.

One of the things I hate to see is the ‘trawler’. Newbies and experienced guys alike fall into this sinful pattern of behaviour. Just kinda trawling around the club, half approaching multiple girls while he uninspiringly wanders around, hoping a girl will present herself and pick herself up. The worst thing about the trawler is that the behaviour stems from a mindset of laziness. The lazy mindset is a BETA male mindset that is the PURESET example of NOT THINKING FOR YOURSELF, and hoping helplessly that something happens.

The opposite of ‘not thinking for yourself’ is ACTIVE THOUGHT, BEING DECISIVE ABOUT WHAT YOU’RE SETTING OUT TO DO.

A very valuable lesson is ‘you are perfect’. Everything that you’re setting out to do is the best decision you can make at the time, so act on your decision decisively and unapologetically. But, you make allowances for screw-ups as you go along as new information about the situation in front of you arises. In the interaction, that means you make you approach, stick to your decision and commit to the approach (stay in set up to four times). If the set doesn’t work out there and then, go chill out with friends, gather your thoughts and emotions and prepare for your next dedicated approach. You can think of yourself as ‘perfect’ in that you are doing everything you know to be correct at the time. Your intentions on the approach are great, stand by it and make it count.

Don’t trawl!

In other words TAKE RESPONSIBILITY. There are there distinct approaches to sessions that I take to ensure that I make the most of my cold approaches, pre-season, performance-season and off-season. I’ll explain what they are and how they serve you in a moment. First, take responsibility. Skip to the 1.00 minute mark to get straight to business.




Ok. When your in the community your either doing one of two things; learning new things about yourself and developing social skills or using those social skills to get results.

There is a distinct difference between learning skills and emotions strength and using skills and emotional strength. Experimentation and growth – versus - keeping yourself together and going the distance with one interaction.

Either way, you need to FOCUS. When I play back my own infield videos I continually hear myself reminding myself to focus. Otherwise your efforts, discipline and intelligence are wasted and you probably go home alone because you’re too lazy to switch on the responsible part of your brain. Pretty gay.

Use the Natural Instinct Method as your guide of what to focus on; it’s a great overarching guide that I use for myself.



Natural Instinct Method Notes

I actually say to myself over and over again, talk, endure tests, be physical. There is no reason why I’m not enough, and with those reminders I automatically smile. Use it as your guide as well. If you do the simple things well you get good results.

Approach nights as different sessions. Dedicate your cold approach pick up days and nights to either specific training nights (pre-season), execution nights (performance season) and don’t-even-think-about-game-nights (off season).

If you’re new or intermediate you really have to take the time out to focus on new skills. The most important three skills are having endless amounts of things to say, being able to stay in set up to four times and go back into set, and establishing physical rapport with the girl. Deliberately decide before you go out what you’re going to dedicate yourself to training.

When training yourself in a new skill you need to employ some trial and error, and maybe push things unreasonably hard. Be willing to get blown out and be willing to take risks. Take the time to explore your own expression at the chance of looking absurd. Push interactions with the skills your focusing on so you can get a very clear sense of peoples true reactions. When you’re there in field make sure you’re making the most of your time deliberately ingraining new skills into your head and emotions. As a newbie this can be really fun.

Use your smart phone if you have to make notes that help you remind yourself of what to do. Ask yourself at the end of your next infield cold approach session ‘what did I achieve?’ and if you think to yourself ‘not much’ then it’s time to start implementing the deliberate pre-season training style game.

It is also really important to stop and acknowledge what you achieved when you did deliberately train yourself in one skill or another. Ideally it should be in a little personal development log on RSDnation, or maybe you just note it somewhere in your smartphone. It doesn’t matter where you do it, what matters is the feeling of personal expansion and decreased anxiety towards the skill after training through active acknowledgement. Just like a muscle being trained, that skill is now stronger and can ‘handle more weight’ next time you need to use it. Of course the more you train it, the stronger you become.

We do hardcore back-to-back training style drills on Bootcamp every weekend. It’s really fun to push the social boundaries and see all the ways gorgeous girls react and to see the students learn about themselves.

Then there are the execution nights.

On nights where you go out to execute you want to approach the night giving yourself the best chance to get results. So you want to think about a good synergy between talking, staying in set and physicality. To get results with girls the key variables are two things; having long interactions and being with the girl when she leaves the social venue and re-enters reality. Deliberately shift your focus onto those things. Screening is important when you’re going out with a focus on results as well. You need to know who is going to be best to spend your time with. Do a lot of approaches and meet lots of people early. Don’t be afraid to tell people chode facts about yourself in exchange for asking chode screening questions, like ‘are you having a big night tonight?’ or ‘what area of the city do you live in?’

On play-to-win nights think to yourself high risk = high loss, low risk = low loss. Please don’t misunderstand this idea. I’m always running on the assumption that ‘there is no reason why you’re not enough’. So when I say low risk I mean take your time in the interaction, slow and steady build up of talking and physical rapport over the course of the night. You needn’t do anything that might pressure the girl into leaving and severing the interaction prematurely. Take your time, do the things that the RSD community knows to work.

TIME IS YOUR ALLY. This might mean that you part ways with the girl and her friends and reunite over the course of the night, no worries. Just remember, the longer your face-time with a girl the higher the mutual arousal. Its really important that if you meet her inside a club that you also see her on the outside of the club as well. Which means being involved with the interaction towards the end of the night.

On night of execution, trust in the work you’ve done on social skills in the past. You don’t need to focus on them, but trust your ability to deal with pressure, keep interactions going and stay relaxed when you feel some anxiety building up have been ingrained into you beforehand. Again, its really-fucking-important that you acknowledge this to yourself otherwise your previous good work fails to register in your consciousness, alleviate anxiety, and the result is you just get sucked right back into socially conditioned behaviour.

Then there are the nights off. Deliberate nights off when you want to absolutely avoid all thought about ‘learned pick up’ altogether.

Nights away from ‘pick-up thinking’ focuses on developing something completely different; having fun and letting out built up stress. Its good to focus on learning new things and channelling your emotions but it can also be very stifling on your emotional expression and expansion of comfort zone.

On the nights off I advocate totally letting loose, having fun, being reckless and doing whatever you feel. If that includes drinking or whatever, so be it. Make sure that you still take action. There is plenty of time to be lazy in the game once you have abundance. Oftentimes when you have ‘nights off’ you get automatically get bored and just become really fun and extroverted. You get into ‘state’ and get momentum, which is great, and it can make you very attractive, but the problem is that with a lack of focus you fail to logistically co-ordinate beginnings of interactions into the ends of interactions. And even then, sometime those nights off with friends are so fun that it doesn’t even matter that you didn’t finish the night off with a new girl, but with old friends exploring better state and good emotions than you regularly have.

Developing emotional arousal gives you unconscious continual arousal that works unconsciously for you when you’re having ‘on-nights’.

Each type of session has a specific purpose. One to hone individual skills to levels of greatness, one to learn how to hold sets longer and get used to integrating all skills together AND maintaining emotional-focus stamina, and one for learning how to become emotionally self-inspired through letting go and having fun.

Be very very careful of getting caught between one type of session and another. Otherwise you become the trawler and aimlessly wonder around not knowing what to do with yourself, everything being half-hearted making your time in field fruitless. Make a decision and stick with it.

Which of these three types of deliberate game sessions do you think yield the most results with girls?

In my experience and that of my peers all nights are equal. But, if you want to get your overall consistency and quality of girls higher you need still need to divide your time between these three. The truth is, you never know when the results will come, or in what form of logistics. But you can guarantee that you get results when you’re dedicated, and not when you’re trawling.

On skill-focus night you can get so focused on the moment that you conduct yourself so well that you don’t even have a chance to think about outcome dependence, meaning that things can go very well for you like a natural.

On nights when you’re there to execute by simply staying in interaction for a long time, you arouse the girl and inspire rapport and compliance which leads to results.

On nights when you don’t think about game at all you have so much fun that game instincts start to pop up and inspire the girls attention and affection. The compliance.

What we’ve found when we go out aside from bootcamp is ‘don’t-think-about-game-nights’ are the best approach because we’ve already done all the work that brings out the right game skills instinctually in the moment. Nonetheless, I MUST remind myself to focus from time to time, otherwise I get so wrapped up in fun that I don’t capitalise on the attraction I’ve inspired throughout the night.

I want to make a special note about thirty day challenges or any mindless repeated going out over and over again.

I definitely think its great to go out on a thirty day challenge, BUT I REALLY CAUTION YOU TO DO 30 CONSECUTIVE DAYS.

I swear by two dedicated night game sessions a week, one for a skill development and one for playing to win. And two day game sessions, because results come much easier from day game and the light of day makes skill development and results that much more acute – fast tracking your growth and results.

That leaves at least one night of the week to go out and not think about procedural game and personal development where you can just have fun. In the other nights of the week do other social activities. Make every effort to go on ONE DATE A WEEK, to familiarise yourself with female company. Spend other nights of the week on ‘you-time’ ideally developing hobbies and means of creative expression.

I hear stories of guys going out 30 days in a row and becoming complacent towards responsibility, or even going out in smaller cities where there really aren’t enough busy venues to achieve good growth and results on quieter week day nights.

Going out for thirty days in a row can have fucking freaky awesome effects if you’re over the indifference threshold and can honestly call yourself unapologetic (or I don’t give a shit what anyone thinks of me) and believe that ‘there is no reason why you’re not enough’

In that case you’ll take your self to psychic, mindreading levels of social and emotional intuition and you’ll start to get laid almost automatically. But until then, know the difference between polishing your skills and development them for the first time.

I’m so afraid of the lazy beta male thinkers that think if they just go into social spaces for thirty days in a row things will magically happen. They not.

Instead, do your four dedicated sessions a week, a date, a night off and night of personal development to absurdly supercharge your growth, and then game results.

Pre-season, Execution-Season and Off-Season.

Alexander~
Executive Coach
Real Social Dynamics.

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