Yo, I’m Back in Australia working on some hotseat videos. Hanging out with the AWESOME Australian RSD guys. I flew back from Atlanta to Australia, a thirty-freakin-hour transit, arrived home and went straight to party, had some excellent bonding times, got kicked out of a bar for playing with the DSLR, my friends got into a street fight, we all had fun and glory at the casino, my friend pulled a girl and had his wallet stolen, and I pulled a girl for some Australian glory times! GLORY. But goddam... these Australian girls have a wierd accent. Haha; which I know is strange, since I grew up here, but I can definitely say that I love Scandinavian and American girls much better. But hey, when in Australia, get messy.

As usual… Bootcamp updates, take action in Australia before I leave for months and months:

Sydney Bootcamp: Friday 15th June

Brisbane Bootcamp: Friday 22nd June

Sydney Bootcamp: Friday 13th July

Melbourne Bootcamp: Friday 20th July

-------->>>>>> Then Canada! Fun times for a Canuck Summer. Can’t wait.

THEN I’LL BE RUNNING TWO RSD WORLD SUMMIT LAS VEGAS BOOTCAMPS, MY BOOTCAMPS IN VEGAS ALWAYS SELL OUT AND ARE A RIOTOUS PARTY. Email support@realsocialdynamics.com

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Today… I want share an advanced idea for the experienced and intermediate guys. When I write articles and make videos I want to create something that shares advanced knowledge between instructor level guys and my most experienced wingmen.

Be sure that I don’t expect everyone to get this idea, but I do love to provide insight into the mindset that the advanced guys have.

I remember when I was new to cold-approach pick up I always thought I wanted to know the advanced secrets of the guys who were best. Little did I know that I wouldn't even be able to comprehend the kind of thoughts they were having, let alone conform to the same kinds of emotion and behaviours that came from their advanced mindsets. But, I think there is a lot of value in ‘planting the seed’ of advanced ideas to draw you toward them, even if you have an inexperienced framework of understanding the social world.



http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=g7VNhR78v0A&feature=plcp

I have to admit, I was a little scattered after the 30 hour Atlanta-Sydney flights so I was a little more prone to tangents that usual. And ripping on Julienne, which I thought was necessary as he is the newest member of the team.

I want to give you a more concise summary of the point I’m making here.

There are a lot of guys who follow RSD material, go out a lot and have had a lot of infield success, albeit inconsistent and lacking in results with the hottest girls they REALLY DESIRE.

What happened to me through experience was a certain mindset shift that I noticed help me skip forwards to insane consistency and ease of results with the hottest girls. I’ve seen this mindset in some other natural guys before, and I’ve shared this mindset with some close friends who’ve taken time to think about it, allowed it to internalise and evolve their game from 'lots of good average results' to 'consistent excellent results'.

The mindset you eventually want to adopt to go from average at picking up girl to becoming FREAKISHLY good at picking up girls is the...

“somebody’s got to do it”

…mindset.

You go through all the learning processes of cold approach pick up, overcoming social conditioning and personal development as though its an ‘advancement of levels’; a process of gathering new ideas and exceeding previous lesser-advanced ideas.

And for the most part getting good at cold-approach pick up and learning to navigate the social world is a process of expansion but this only goes so far. Once you reach some kind of invisible emotional threshold you have to get over all that, acknowledge to yourself that you 'get it', stop gauging yourself in terms of levels and start to think relative to other guy's attempting the same cold approach pick up around you.

That thought process is that “I’ve done everything that I need to do, this isn’t about getting good anymore, it’s about providing the patience and emotional strength to give a gorgeous girl an opportunity to have fun with a guy in a way she can’t have fun with when she hangs out with un-developed guys.”

Think of it like: you're exactly want she wants in a guy, even if she calls you out (non-compliance tests) on everything, or doesn’t recognise your quality instantly, you still hold the trust that you can give her what’s she’s looking for much better than any other guy.

After all, gorgeous girls want stability, fun, someone’s shoulder to cry on, and someone to tell them to ‘shut up’ when they’re being immature or silly. You can be that, she needs a guy like you. So its worth dealing with the brief period of her not understanding your value and sceptically testing you on every little thing.

Once you really get this mindset, enduring this testing phase is very easy to go through because the word ‘endurance’ means something that you inevitably pass, it just requires some time or formal process that needs be observed.

So, when you’re there in the bar, shift away from all the awful stifling limiting-belief thoughts like “I’m not at the level in the game where I want to be” or some other bullshit logistical limiting belief that stops you approaching.

You become the only guy who can keep his cool approaching the legitimately scary looking girl that desperately wants a guy who can actually handle her without freaking out, trying to be impressive or just ejecting because you are dissatisfied with your own ‘pick up performance’.

Imagine the way you would feel if you adopted this frame. Patient, strong, affectionate, judgemental and like a leader. All the kinds of traits that girls list in men’s magazines as things they want.

It can be hard to maintain the "somebody's gotta do it" frame for a long period of time – for sure. Remind yourself throughout the interaction that the girl you're talking to has had different forms of boyfriends in her past… remind yourself that this girl will sleep with one guy or another… it might has well be you. Because she's probably dated, or slept with other guys in the past that are comparable to you.

If you already have a lot of social RSD experience have a good hard think about this idea and realise the ways it can help you go from ok results to VERY GOOD results with hotter girls, by simply removing your status based limiting-beliefs, allowing you to get on with being the man that girls desperately want a man to be.

If this is way beyond your emotional comprehension for now, don’t sweat it. Think about this mindset you eventually want to have, and watch over time as you come closer and closer into congruence with it.

Go out and cross the emotional status limiting-belief based threshold.

Alexander~
Executive Coach

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