For a long time now we have been calling what we do NATURAL GAME but that’s not actually what it is.
We don't want to set out to LEARN natural game, we want to go out and have experiences that lead us to develop NATURAL INSTINCTS.
This terminology ‘natural instincts’ implies transformation, that you are enough and that it is an emotional and congruence shift, not a logical and cognitive shift.
Why did we call it natural game in the first place? Because this is the GAME industry. So it's a word we use to help each other understand what we're talking about. In the case of the terminology 'natural game' it means the modality of behaviour that a natural has to get girls. While he's not actually gaming per se, we used the term natural game to help everyone to understand that we're making the shift from traditional game to natural game -- shifting from doing actions to being naturally attractive just by ‘being’.
In the development of new and critical ideas essential for student to learn FROM NOW ON, I will only refer to getting better with girls as 'DEVELOPING NATURAL INSTINCTS'.
TRADITIONAL GAME becomes NATURAL GAME becomes NATURAL INSTINCTS.
‘Natural instincts’ is such an important terminology. From now on that is how we should refer to what we are doing.
The semantics of how you understand what you're doing is vitally important. Whatever you have filed away in your perceptual map of yourself and the world is the filter through which you will automatically generate actions and reactions/responses when you are picking up girls in the field.
Two of the most important concepts central to being naturally attractive and being good at picking up girls is feeling good and trusting yourself. And understanding yourself and how you think about that is your inner game. The supercomputer at the centre of your actions, emotions and thoughts that make you good, or not.
So in the case of thinking about your ‘natural game’ that thought loop leaves space for you to develop anxiety over whether or not your natural type of game is correct or incorrect. Instead of acting decisively it leaves space for hesitation and anxiety. Hesitation doesn’t communicate that you trust yourself, and when you don’t trust yourself you feel less than confident, leading to feeling anxiety. This anxiety is a negative feeling that will detract from the positive part of the positive-dominant guy that you want to be. Meaning you want be instantly categorized as naturally attractive.
When you think of your pick up as ‘natural game’ when it comes to responding to things in the moment, it could make you reactive because again you are contemplating whether or not there is a right or wrong thing to do, rather than just doing it. Contemplation means you’re reactive, meaning you lose value and attraction.
Now, if you think of your pick up as ‘natural instincts’ it takes away from the idea of ‘game systems’ and rather implies that you act spontaneously which is another way of saying ‘offering value’, ‘being creative’, ‘being resourceful’, ‘turning nothing into something’, or ‘being expressive’. Girls are attracted to authenticity. It can’t be in any way reactive because you’re making it up as you go along. So, this instinctual behaviour is higher value and the spontaneous generation of stimulus is your range of emotions. It’s inherently attractive.
The basic model of the game is 1. Take action 2. It’s not what you do, it’s what you deal with 3. Be physical. When you’re aware that you have natural instincts in place you will 1. Automatically take initiative decisively and feel good about it because you know there is not a right or wrong thing to do rather than be unapologetic. 2. Instinctively, quickly respond unapologetically to tests rather than getting inside your head, therefore DHV’ing, and increasing the length of the interaction giving you more mutual emotional investment with the girl getting you closer to successfully picking up. And because you haven’t anything that could generate a test you could pass you’re unapologetic and never anything less than positive in the way that you feel. 3. Guys instinctively express themselves physically.
Now I know that it’s confusing to know exactly what is your genuine instinctive expression and response and what has been conditioned into you, but the more you talk to other people the more you learn about yourself. So just remember that every time you go out to meet girls and also interact with guys you will centre yourself more and more and learn how to be more honest with yourself. Which is the same as saying you’re learning how to be more instinctive.
Natural instincts are attractive because they are decisive, authentic and based on good feelings.
So from now on, what we’re here to do is DEVELOP NATURAL INSTINCTS not LEARN NATURAL GAME.
Which of course begs questions like, what are my natural instincts? How do I develop it?! What if I think I’m developing instincts but I’m actually learning bad habits!?
We’ll get to that in future articles and I’m sure there will be question responses to this post but for now all you need to get out of this article is that...
You need to stop thinking in terms of LEARNING NATURAL GAME, and...
...start thinking in terms of DEVELOPING NATURAL INSTINCTS.
You don’t want to be thinking game when you’re in the field -- you want to be following your instincts. That is where you will find your elite levels of attraction and elite kinds of results.