Do you have any idea how cold it gets in Chicago this time of year? Stupid cold. I can't even comprehend it... I'm used to jungles and beaches in good old Australia. I'm going back soon for some Christmas times after this hotseat tour! Stay up to date with me personally by clicking LIKE on my facebook page!

The hotseats have been incredibly powerful so far! Some testimonials have started to come through from the first two events...

“The Natural Instincts Method is truly amazing. So simple and effortless in comparison to everything else out there. It’s seriously invisible- and it doesn’t require 100 paradigms and reframes. It’s natural, instinctual and incredibly effective and socially intuitive.” - Aspire27 http://www.rsdnation.com/node/256521/forum

“How did the weekend go? Well my brain exploded. My mind melted. My perspectives forever shifted. I spent 5 days with one of the best in the world. Alexander from real social dynamics. I don’t even know where to begin. The dude is also quite possibly the NICEST GUY EVER, extremely generous and very giving, smart, lighthearted and a good time. Perhaps the chillest person I have ever met in this entire community personally. Alex’s “natural instincts method” is a magnum opus. Much like the Blueprint revolutionized the game back in 2008, Alex's work has the potential to do the same in 2012-2013.” – Action http://www.rsdnation.com/node/255947/forum

“Alexander's Hotseat was FAR better than I could have ever expected. I would consider it the antidote to the intermediate purgatory. My game and my entire reality has now completely shifted. And to top it off, I have been getting MASSIVE results after attending the Hotseat.” – Jakesfanboy http://www.rsdnation.com/node/255940/forum

“I’ve watched a few of his videos on youtube/RSDNation and wondered, “What the fuck is this guy talking about?” After attending his hotseat, it’s crystal clear.The hotseat was interesting... It was definitely not what I expected. Completely different style of game from Tyler/Julien/Jeffy. His game is SOOO simple. It’s like so dumb I was dumbfounded. You walk and think wtf was I doing this whole time. It’s so straightforward. Like stupid straightforward. In the beginning, I wondered if there was more going on, if there was something happening below the radar.... There might be.. It doesn’t matter.” - Knightrider http://www.rsdnation.com/node/255612/forum

“I feel like Alex's teaching is actually aimed at guys who actually want to get good rather than at guys who want to be popular or cool in the pickup community. IMO Alex is kind of teaching at a different level of paradigm than what I see elsewhere in RSD, and the theme of innocence that he emphasizes is a big key (you'll see it with other instructors videos' though they never really emphasize that).” – Utopiafive http://www.rsdnation.com/node/254291/forum

"Alex's style of game is truly unique and on an entirely different paradigm than anything else that has come before it. It blew me away, not because I'm in any way new to this because I'm not, but because of how different, effective, and fucking versatile it is. I have attended two Hotseats before. I had already seen a lot of shit beforehand so I wasn't blown away by what I saw in Jeffy's or the Tyler/Julien Hotseat, except Tyler's "Paula" video cause he does a LOT of what Alex does in that one…. What I got out of Alex's Hotseat was on a whole 'nother fucking level. Holy shit. This is going to be a long review… The Natural Instincts Method takes into account every paradigm of pickup that came before it and goes beyond anything anyone's put out on game. Ever. How Alex picks up girls will blow your mind in the simplicity and ease of it and how natural it feels and even LOOKS to an outsider. Alex's discoveries are literally like Charles Darwin figuring out Natural Selection. Like the discovery of dark matter like Alex gleefully calls it.” – Striker http://www.rsdnation.com/node/254112/forum

"Alexander is fucking talented. Alexander is a beast in field. I don’t think you can find someone better than Alexander at this shit." – Tokyoterp. http://www.rsdnation.com/node/253970/forum

This exciting show is coming to a city right near by you very soon! check out the upcoming location and come and check it out!

AMERICA PART ONE:

HotSeat;November 29, 2012: Seattle, Washington, USA
HotSeat; December 8, 2012: Austin, Texas, USA
HotSeat; December 15, 2012: San Francisco, California, USA

Then off to Europe For European Hotseat!

HotSeat; January 5, 2013: Amsterdam, Netherlands
HotSeat; January 12, 2013: Munich, Germany
HotSeat; January 19, 2013: Copenhagen, Denmark
HotSeat; January 26, 2013: Oslo, Norway
HotSeat; February 2, 2013: London, United Kingdom

IN EACH OF THESE CITEIES I'M GOING TO DO A FREE TOUR AS WELL! Thats right, I'm going to come in, do a free seminar, tell stories and answer questions! Click like on www.facebook.com/alexanderrsd for the time and place in your city. 

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And now for some learning times!

When you’re in the social environment, trying to pick up girls form cold approach… YOU HAVE TO STOP THINKING OF GAME AS A LINEAR PROCESS and shift your perception to think of game as being locked in detention.



You know that girls are attracted to guys who arouse them (attraction IS arousal). To really be a guy who can arouse a girl you need to be able to get lost in the moment. You have to totally let go of trying to be time efficient with pick up and have so much fun in a moment, have such a strong connection in the moment, that time flies by and your relationship with the girl you’ve approached strengthens organically.

Whenever a girl sense that you are PROCEDURAL about your game she can’t be aroused because you are systematic which isn’t fun and unpredictable. Not to mention that you are like every other chode she’s ever met who simply wants to lick her moot.

The trick is to think about the interaction like you’re stuck in detention – you can’t go anywhere you so better learn how to relax and enjoy yourself. You are in a bar for a certain amount of time, whoever can have the most fun in that time frame will be the most arousing company for the girl, make her laugh, engage her and excite her.

I know that when I’m picking up a girl in a social situation there is going to be a good deal of time before she’s going to even START to think about leaving, and quite a while before her emotions will ever start to warm up to someone new, before she gets excited about getting intimate with someone new.

So… I have, and you can have, these strong feelings of liberty. You know that you’re stuck there with the girl, your not doing anything wrong toward her so you don’t need to feel apologetic when she tests you, so all you really need to do is be dumb, have fun and talk rubbish to pass the time.

Pretty soon you will get really fucking good at talking rubbish and amusing yourself.

Its like you’re on a holiday there in the bar. Your interaction is a holiday. Or detention. What do you do on holiday, just have fun, enjoy yourself, pursue what you like and be free.

Its so great because when you meet someone new you can just relax and be yourself… and be the self that you want to be.

When you can get over your approach anxiety you start to see your social time as the fun that its supposed to be, some kind of relaxation therapy where you can get a bit silly, not even worry about chicks and sex, because girls don’t have sex in public places (USUALLY) and then get on with have fun TRUSTING than your fun will inspire a girls attention and arousal.

Just be sure to take that girl by the hand and be the one to show her a good time, and the way home.

Well I guess it time for me to go out on a RARE non Bootcamp-Hotseat weekend. This Saturday I have 14 hours to myself… I will use them wisely to watch some football, go shopping, play with my cameras MAYBE drink a beer or two, then get my harassment on in a bar. And by Harassment I mean “I am enough” plus “staying in set”. Know what I mean? Don’t? … check out the Alexander Hotseat.

And stay up to date in the meantime… click like!

Alexander~
Executive Coach
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