Yo! Alexander here from the Exotic city of Singapore. Just ran a highly successful bootcamp weekend. We set out to do some exotic infield footage deep behind enemy lines. Plenty of excelelnt interaction were recorded, and then eventually I pulled a stunning model Malaysian-Singaporean Model for a one night stand. 

THEN, the Singaporean Police confiscated the camera. After a lot of drama and lots of smooth talking by my esteemed Singaporean host the camera was recovered and the footage extracted to be shared at the Alexadner Hotseat coming this Natural Instincts Method in action in Asia.

Check it out here.



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Yo, I’ve been tearing up the field in recent times with the Melby crew – who are becoming awesome by the way – and this weekend in Singapore and really beginning to get into some awesome infield momentum.

But, I’ve discovered a trap to the momentum of going out frequently that seems like some kind of fool’s gold. Momentum keeps giving me this awesome feeling of empowerment and instant gratification that takes my attention away from proper follow through that gives me actual closing results with girls.

Let me explain from the beautiful hot night in Singapore’s Clarke Quay.




As a general rule I seek to get into a mood or state of ‘unwinding’ when I’m going out infield.

I have a deep inner game trust in the notion of unwinding, coming into a monopoly of my emotions and then using that monopoly to express myself, empathise and connect with others and hold a mindsets that causes sets to go longer; all the kinds of things that make for solid game and real results.

I like the idea of seeking a goal of unwinding because its as though once I’m there I can’t lose that mindset. Unwinding from chilling out, honouring the two hour rules and allowing the relaxed arousal to wash over me. Once I’m in that Unwound state it’s hard for it to go away. When I’m unwound I feel so centred and so in control that natural game just works. Admittedly the game infield is uneventful. I have a good mood, I’m I feel good, I talk to a stunning girl and we hang out. Once we’re hanging out in isolation things can happen. Only in isolation can you ‘get the girl’.

But going out to do infield footage means that you really have to step up you’re sense of urgency and make the most of everyone’s time whose involved in recording me infield. So you step up fast.

I noticed that taking that massive action had me getting some kind of awesome momentum that gave me these cool flashy results that I never got with the unwinding relaxed arousal game.

With relaxed arousal the goal is to eventually settle into one solid interaction a night and then eventually go home together. To really employ all the social skills on camera you want to be as active as possible.

But then, I had this weird limiting belief come over me. I kind felt that if I stop moving and stayed with one set that I was somehow off balance, that I lost my centeredness and that someone, that was tied with my value.

Getting that infield momentum was fucking amazing to slingshot me back into infield competence – especially under the social pressure of the camera and film team.

So I want to make it clear, if you’re a guy who’s new to going out, go and get your fucken momentum on. And in no time at all you’ll be unlocking these social powers that had been lying dormant in your DNA all along. It’s so exhilarating when you get these experiences for the first time.

But the question is, what do you want more? A three way make out with stunning chicks/fingering girls in public (if that’s your thing?), or actually getting laid?

The answer is both.

What you personally consider to be fun in a social situation is up to you, three-way make outs, fooling around in public… please yourself! But you gotta know when to shift gears, settle into an interaction and make it count.

At RSD its like where talking to a schizophrenic audience, one side of your personality is alpha, the other half is beta, leaving plenty of room for misunderstanding and plenty of space for reconciliation of ideas.

Most of your guys swing between socialising like and alpha and socialising like a beta.

I’d say all alphas out there, ignore momentum and seek to unwind, because you have the value, you are enough and you are automatically arousing.

All the betas out there, I’d say ignore unwinding and only take action for the sake of momentum and until you can comprehend the notion that ‘you are enough’.

And while you swing between alpha and beta socializing know that going hard and chasing momentum will slingshot you into great fun and experience in the bar, but its slowing down, playing it out and unwinding that will get you’re the girl.

That momentum is amazing going out and meeting girls, but how do you use momentum on a one-on-one date? You don’t once “you’re in” you’re good, unwind and go through the natural comfort process that make a girl comfortable enough with you to become very intimate. Time is your ally.

That thought of unwinding is very empowering. Once you feel unwound, its stuck there on you while you hang out. Its like you can’t question that you are enough – the holy grail of the Natural Instinct Method.

So know the difference between the two. Use momentum to get you back to game fitness, and unwind and relax when it comes to getting the results.

Never concern yourself with the ridiculous notion that “you need momentum to get the girl” fuck that, flip it around and realise that you need to unwind to get the girl. Like with everything in the world of cold approach pick up, it’s all in your head. Don’t keep things that are limiting beliefs in your head.
Know the difference to learn faster and then to get more results.

Alexander~ from Singapore

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