“What does it mean to have a strong reality, and why is it even important?”

If you have a reality that is stronger than the girl you are trying to pick up than you have something to offer her that she isn’t getting for herself. The stronger your reality, the stronger your internal sense of security. With your internal sense of security comes positive and calming feelings. To have a weak reality means you feel vulnerability, anxiety and negativity.

For a guy, a strong reality can come in two forms: externally-derived or internally-defined. Both can be strong realities, but one is resilient and can be absolute, while the other is fleeting and vulnerable.

In the case of the strong externally-derived reality, it usually means that you have more contextual confidence relative to the girl. It means that in that situation, you have a stronger security of reality and therefore a better internal feeling about yourself than she does. If the girl connects with you emotionally, then her sense of self (her reality) is strengthened because when she is with that guy, her reality is being strengthened and validated by a stronger source. She is attracted to a guy with higher value than she has. The things that make a guy valuable to a girl is if he has strong positive and secure feelings that come from having a stronger sense of self.

But, an externally-defined reality is EXTERNALLY-DEFINED, so it is always at the mercy of external elements and influences. His reality is formed through validation seeking actions and him identifying with abstract external labels and identities. If a guy’s reality is externally formed then it can be externally broken. One day he can be attractive to girls, but If his reality should be broken by an external source the next day, then he would no longer be high value. Some people call this an identity crisis. For people learning how to become better at picking up women, this explains their inconsistencies and frustrations.

In the case where the guy defines his reality internally, it is safe from external fluctuations and is more consistent and can always be stronger. An internally-defined reality can be ABSOLUTE or 100%, whereas an externally-derived reality can never be ABSOLUTE or 100%. An internally-defined reality is formed through proactivity, initiative, willpower, effort and decisiveness. The foundations of an internally-defined reality are positive, whereas the foundations of an externally-derived reality are negative. Girls are attractive to guys who have any type of stronger reality than them, but they are more attracted to guys who have internally-defined realities because they pick on the positive vibes of internally -efined realities. A woman’s recognition system instantly categorizes those types of guys as alpha males. They are attracted to those guys. If you are one of those types of guys, picking up becomes easy.

A guy who has a stronger reality than a girl is attractive to her because he is less reactive to her than she is to him. A guy with an internally-defined reality is not only less reactive to the girl than the girl is to him, but he is unreactive to the world itself. Unreactiveness leads to core confidence. Core confidence leads to automatically offering value and when you know you are offering value you can supercharge your attraction by asserting that value. Picking up becomes more effective.

Unreactiveness, core confidence, offering value and assertiveness are all behavioral patterns that girls recognize as alpha and they instantly categories that guy as attractive. When a girl makes this alpha male categorization, that guy gets high value status in that girl’s emotional perception.

When that guy is higher value than the girl, the girl is reactive to him. She will become nervous but attentive around him. The more time a guy with a strong reality spends with a girl with a relatively less strong reality, the more she will react to him. Each reaction she has to him, the more he becomes a source of arousal and the more she becomes aroused. Arousal is EMOTIONAL STIMULATION. Attraction builds when high value is combined with emotional stimulation. A = HV + E.

Girls’ realities are inherently different from guys’ realities. Guys are designed to be delusionally confident and delusional confidence stems from a delusional sense of self trust. Innate emotional self trust is what guys have that girls don’t have as much of, and that’s what girls want from a guy: a guy who is being the man he is supposed to be. Girls innately have a more skeptical and cerebral reality, as a result of being less physically versatile in the natural world.

Humans have evolved in a way that men are the risk takers and women are the risk questioners. Between these two opposing forces, they find some happy medium and offer mutual value. The woman urges the man to take fewer risks to be safer, but men look to take more risks to conquer more territory or gather more influence. Girls are attracted to ‘ballsy’ guys. ‘Ballsy’ guys have the strongest internally-defined reality because they are deluded in their sense of entitlement, strength, capacity and abilities.

For a girl to spend time with a ‘ballsy’ risk taking guy, she will be very aroused because she will always react to him. BUT MOST IMPORTANTLY, that type of guy is high value to her because he has a very powerful feeling of internal strength that the girl wants more of in her own reality. She feels safe, and therefore good, when she is with a man with a strong reality.

That’s what it means to have a strong reality and that’s why it is important to have one. It’s just as important to have the right type of strong reality.

How do you go from having a weak reality to a strong one? In short: nominate your path and goals and follow them. Seek to remove blindspots. Firmly adhere to your personal boundaries, and come into congruence with Presence, Positive-Dominance and being a Man of Action.



Are there different degree of Alphaness and Betaness? Yes. But somewhere between the two there is a DEFINITE divide point - this idea is more important than the degree to which someone is alpha or beta. The varying degrees of alphaness depend on how many times (socially and emotionally) that the guy is reactive, relies on his context for confidence, how often he takes value and how often he asserts value taking. Degrees of betaness depends on how often a beta male or female has core confidence, is unreactive, offers value and is assertive with that value.

How do you know when you are an alpha male? You are an alpha male when your own (social and emotional) opinions of yourself are more important to you than the reactions and opinions of other people. But this is only true if you have no blindspots.

Can beta males get girls? Yes, if they have a stronger reality than the girls. But it's easy for the beta males reality to fluctuate, and with that their attraction from girls fluctuates.

Can Alpha males with an absolute reality get girls? Yes. They are higher value than everyone in their own reality. When they interact with girls, the girls are reactive to these guys and the alpha male inspires a full range of emotions in the girl. Girls are usually shy and nervous around alpha guys and they test them a lot. But don’t worry - tests give you a chance to overtly DHV. Remember that when girls give shy and nervous reactions, it’s the true IOI.

In conclusion, having a strong reality of the right type will help you pick up a lot of girls.

Open your eyes to the strength of reality matrix.

Alexander~