Alexander~ RSD

Alexander~
 
I’m in Norway. What do I think about that? FUCK THAT! -15 celcius! Ahh well, I'll just have to find multiple Alsklings (Swedish word for lover) to help me keep warm at night! But I can’t lie around all day with Norska Alsklings when I have TWO MORE HOTSEATS TO TEACH IN THIS WINTER WONDERLAND.



One More in Norway tomorrow starting at 12.30pm at the Anker hotel in Oslo… And then the GRAND FINAL… THE SUPERBOWL OF PICK-UP EUROPE::: THE LONDON FREE TOUR AND HOTSEAT!

For your information the London free tour will be this Thursday night 8pm-10pm @ Holiday
Inn London Bloomsbury (Tube: Russell Square) Coram Street, London, WC1N 1HT.

Attendance is completely free but let us know before you come so we can organize the right
sized room for you. email support@realsocialdynamics.com

HotSeat; January 26, 2013: Oslo, Norway
HotSeat; February 2, 2013: London, United Kingdom

AMERICA (FUCK YEAH)

HotSeat; February 16, 2013: Las Vegas, Nevada, USA
HotSeat; February 23, 2013: Phoenix, Arizona, USA
HotSeat; March 2, 2013: Miami, Florida, USA

AND I WILL BE AVAILABLE TO TEACH BOOTCAMPS AT THE MIAMI MODEL SEASON **ALUMNI ONLY** BOOTCAMP BETWEEN THE DATES OF TUESDAY FEBRUARY 26TH
AND TUESDAY FEBRUARY 2ND. AGAIN, EMAIL SUPPORT@REALSOCIALDYNAMICS.COM FOR INFORMATION.


HotSeat; March 9, 2013: Denver, Colorado, USA
HotSeat; March 16, 2013: Los Angeles, California, USA
HotSeat; March 23, 2013: Chicago, Illinois, USA
HotSeat; March 30, 2013: New York, New York, USA

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During this Europe trip I’ve really solidified my internalfeeling toward girls. Amidst all their drama, challenges and brattiness... I really truly, deeply, love them.

It might be because now I meet so many guys on free tours and at hotseats that all I want to do is get away from the masculine beards and more-often-than-not guys with bad breath who close-talk me, that all I want to do is
whittle the night away in interactions with graceful, cute little chicks that are such a pleasure to spend time with. Approach anxiety? What the fuck is that? I like talking to girls, there’s no other thought about it.

My man-escapism has really helped me to enjoy the girls without even needing to try. And you know what, just by enjoying their company, they enjoy me so much in return that they think it’s a great idea to go home and have sex.
The more I think about it, the more I feel it, the more I experience it the more I live the true way of the natural.

Of course I tease them and screw with them in cute ways to have a little bit of fun drama, but I just feel the pure pleasure of their prettiness and goofy ways.

I love them. I will marry an Alskling one day, but right nowits heavenly meeting so many flirting and interacting with them completely emotionally unaffected by the tests the throw at me. Inevitably, their tests buckle, they succumb to the frame battle and start to react to me. And then the seduction starts to work.

A girl reacting to you is a girl being seduced by you.

Before you know it you have all kind of compliance from gorgeous little chicks that want to spend time with you. Much better then hanging out on your own with men. Gay.

I was thinking about how to describe this feeling… this ultimate feeling of abundance, and it comes back to that good old fashioned ‘king frame’. The ultimate high value frame that’s makes all the game work.

Its particularly prominent in Denmark where the Danish king-in-waiting is married to the Aussie every-day-girl Princess Mary.



http://youtu.be/OiR-5VUOd1g

What I’m saying here is look past all those messed up approaching issues and ‘skills’ that you think you need to have and re-adjust your focus towards how your going to show the girl a good time, how you can have fun and include the girl (and people) around you, and I guarantee you with time spent together the privileges come to the guy who’s out to show value.

Translated into normal person speak: the guy who knows that he can’t control a girls emotion’s and will power and just wants to have a great time.

Imaging trading up your immersive focus from developing game skills to developing fun skills and a consistent bubbly, smooth, outgoing vibe.

Those traits alone will win the game for you. It’s a dynamic of trust that makes this work, but you can only ‘get the girl’ if you have self trust, no other way ‘works’.

Once you understand this you then need to become the recipient of privilege. Girls love to be nice to guys, girls love to show affection and love and return the feeling of 'being made to feel special'.

It’s a strange and wonderful skill if you can be graciousabout receiving a girls desire to be affectionate.

Some guys who are good with girls are good at NOTHING except letting the girl do nice things FOR him and TO him. I don’t advocate only ‘taking’ in a relationship… but its important to take, being gracious and showing a person that you truly deeply enjoy them and the nice things they do for you is incredibly rewarding for that person. A validation. And when its from the King Frame, it’s the King’s validation.

Be thing king… and then enjoy the privileges.

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Time for a little bit of video blogging fun! I want to follow up from last weeks indirect approach video from scary Germany! Now I want to tell you all about why indirect is better than direct because INDIRECT GAME allows for both types of game where as DIRECT game doesn’t allow for indirect game afterwards UNLESS YOU ARE super calibrated, which is hard for most guys.



http://youtu.be/96wkqJ4W5yo

So you can see there are quite a few pitfalls of the direct style. Direct has its advantages like self-amusement, growth, fun, drama at cetera, but overall it will be harder to keep consistency of mood, and then consistency of results if you always go direct.

You MUST be able to temper yourself and control the flow of emotions. Note the Finland president checking out Australian Princess of Denmark, Princess Mary! Haha ultimate representation of the fin chodes!

President?!?!? Why are you looking at her when you have the hottest nicest girls in the world in your country! OMG.
Also, I love that hip hurrah song! Want to see a Dane go nuts? Play that and watch them sprint to the dance floor uncontrollably! It’s pretty awesome.

And then there is just about my favorite song of all time, Move your feet by junior senior haha. Maybe I am gay, but I have always loved that song. *Well that’s it for now! Information about USA events coming
soon!

BTW, special notice for American bootcamp alumni of any instructor! If you want to participate in an Alexander~ Bootcamp and Hotseat weekend email support@realsocialdynamics.com and tell the guys that you are interested in the volunteer program. Its been incredibly popular in Europe and it’s a great way for Tyler/Julien/Jeffy/Brad
alumni to see the complimentary Alexander style of bootcamp first hand at intense live events!

Speak to you soon and stay tuned with daily updates and tidbits by clicking like on www.facebook.com/alexanderRsd

Alexander~
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#1

PerelAlon

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00:43(1st video) Oh god, no... Alex... You're supposed to pull the GIRL not the guy... Jeez, how much you had to drink to start stripping the DUDE?! *grins*
06:01(2nd video) Alex - So good, he tries to game the wall *grins*
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The Duck ✘

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Now that's a good one
Alexander~ wrote:

It’s a strange and wonderful skill if you can be gracious about receiving a girls desire to be affectionate.
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Haha awesome videos, i watched braveheart on AMC the a couple nights ago before going out and its funny because the whole night i had this KING frame established. This sounds alot like Tylers Prince effect video, and i like it! Indirect game is the best!
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#4

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Haha Alex, you and the other instructors keep saying a girl won't just jump on you and make it happen BUT actually a girl DID take me by the hand and lead me to an alley for an instant fuck.

BUT I am an Alexander bootcamp alumni, sooo.....
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#5

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Alexander
First before I will comment on the videos. I like your style very much, and consider you absolutely top in terms of game. I still want to discuss one sentence.

"Before you know it you have all kind of compliance from gorgeous little chicks that want to spend time with you. Much better then hanging out on your own with men. Gay."

I get you there and I feel the same towards women. I like their energy, emotionality and spontaneity. I have many women as a friends only for the reason I like to spend time with them BUT I never make distinction like that above. Men and women are equal. Why women has some huge advantage over men in club environment - because men think like you mention here. They don't value their own company enough and cling to girls. Still girls don't want guys who value them more than their own crew. They like to join the party as Tyler said.
Hanging with guys is gay if you don't approach. If you have fun with friends and then approach is super cool because chicks are social and they want to hang with cool crew.
The right mindset would be - value the men company but go for the girls.
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The Hawk

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I disliked your stuff at first but lately it makes a lot more sense and I see the quality of your words and work. 2 great vids man, you really made it clear what relaxed arousal is about as I never understood it before. Physced for your next vids!

I really admire you actually (no homo).
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 Awesome videos alex, why is the king frame video hidden though?
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Fortunato

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Great clarification in the last video! I have noticed that going direct in the daytime sometimes puts women into a fight or flight state and some girls have freaked out and just runaway. Hilarious!

I would say direct is great for noobs who need to practice showing intent. Once getting to intermediate, they can stop doing direct verbals and just keep direct non-verbals.
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 Top notch video man. México City Hot Seat see you there.
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#10

Shawnn

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YAAOOOOOO ALEX!! loll 

Nice vid, very valuable advice and the wisest eternal moto of success "someone's gotta do it, it's gotta be me!" lol
Got the divine right to, might as well, right?!?!?!?! :D 

Check out this song by DMX, titled "King Thing", its a title track from Romeo Must Die jetli movie lol top notch song with the most amazing chorous... Check it out :)

Cant post a link on this chode yet WTF! my other account is SEAN PUA I lost the pwd and e-mail for it lol... wtf! anyways, check it out, DMX, KING THING!!!
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Buii

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Hey Alex!

You talk a lot about how to make the girl interesting for yourself.

Can you give some tips how you make them interesting and remind yourself that they will give you a fun time when they a warmed up?
Telling them how you cute they are is a good one, do you have some more tips on this topic?

The problem is especially at the beginning of the conversation, when the girls are a little bit shy and maybe testing you, they are not fun :D
You are knowing that they are looking great  but in the moment i often think "mhhh.... how boring... mh how bitchy" and sometimes i lose the fire to interact with them.
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Buii

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Btw. your content and you wibe is awesome! Its the vibe i personally resonate the most.

BUT the problem is you are coming from a relaxed place and although your content is awesome it´s sometime hard to listen to you because you are so calm that the video gets a little bit boring.

Looking videos of tyler and brad often is much more entertaining, i think it would be a bad idea to try being like this crazy style like tyler but maybe you should do some little things to make it easier for the viewers to hold the attention.
For example take sometime a little break, 1-2sec, in your speeches or something like this.
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#13

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You guys dont realise just how good alex's stuff is.....just pulled another STUNNER

thnks bro.....internet hi five!
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#14

skott

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Melting chodes brains and womens hearts all over Europe. Great vids
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0bbi

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In that direc/indirect video Alex kind of associate direct game with negative and overly aggresive vibe. Why?

I approach in a chill manner (like todd described in his street game mission impossible video) with "hey hey.. one sec.. hi.. i like your xyz.. we don't even know each other it can't be like that". Then when she gets kind of stifled for few moments i just stand there relaxed with slight smile giving her time to chill. When she gets sceptic i just stand by my action and admit. Then we just chat. I quickly offer to go somewhere together instead of standing. It's not negative or aggressive at a all. 

Then it goes from there or not. If not then we just split with smile on our faces. The most negative response i get is "thank you but (some excuse)". 

I want to try what Alex adviced but I simply can't start asking cute girl I'd like to meet about directions or similar unrelated topics to me apporaching her. Standing by my actions honestly feels like "right" action to me. Especially in daytime, I cant imagine crossing the street to talk to a girl and asking her something impersonal or not related to my approach (i can do that to anybody around me on the street). 
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TheFinisher

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 So awesome. The video from Denmark describes my frame most times. Whats up from America!
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Noronha

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 But if the girl must be "party mode" to go direct, how day game works for you?
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#18

Emerveillement

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Thanks Alex! After attending the Amsterdam HotSeat and letting all the ideas/mindsets trickle down into a rock solid cognitive lens, interactions with gorgeous women become effortless, like ironing a wrinkled shirt :-D

met a super gorgeous romanian girl at my local bar last thursday, she just looked at me skepitcally while I was just japping on how much I enjoy the snow, mulled wine and bratwurst, after 20 minutes she actually started talking to me,  I took her by the hand led her to bar, we had two whiskeys, chatted for an hour, let her bring the friends in and then just left with her when the bar closed, through the park, into my flat to check out the view of the castle, done. awesome, just awesome :)
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Remembering on what TD said on one of his hot seat vidz while he was carrying the girl while she was about to enter the taxi "it's about not saying stupid shit!"

I just got a new job (at reception in a sheraton hotel at brazil - saying this coz u guys use to stay at this brand of hotel, so in any way if I can help..) and i notice that whenever I'm at circle of people talking, for some reason they will always direct theyr eye contact to me. Even though I'm not theyr best friend/buddy.

This afternoon I came to a place and the girl who was explaining me things, after a few minutes I notice that she was having weird manneirisms, with the eyes, raiysing the arms in a weird way (maybe she was trying to change my focus on her eyes to another part of her) but the thing was - i was completelly chill, paying attention on what she has to say and when i notice that she was nervous I though to myself: "wait a second... This girls IS actually cute!" But i wasnt forcing in anything to impress her AT ALL!

Just my presence.

This was the proof of being enought right there ahaha when I notice I make some jokes so she can relax. - this happened also when I was at copenhagem , i dont know if the girls there are very shy or just this one, but the cashier LoLed hard when I just asked if she have the cd that was playing coz i wanted the songs, while she was exchanging EC with the friend.

Even in family, I was talking to my mom about girls i had been with and when i was talking about the one i liked the most she said: "who?! The one who latter on cheated on u?!" My broder (unfortunatelly socially conditioned) tooked the pain and defend me "eeeeh! Leave the guy alone!" Haha

One guy from the inner circle asked me once "how do u know when u move from newbie to intermedium" i think that will be good to him to read to this. Subtle change on behavior : good tonality, relaxed body language and eye contact, having initiative will do the job on being influential
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#20

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 awesome awesome awesome.
really puts things into perspective
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#21
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What a surprise another Alex video talking shit on direct game. Well, I guess it's his brand now.

To clarify btw I'm not advocating either. I say remain flexible, use each when needed.
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Alexander~

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yeah exactly... start oceans 11 and step it up when the times right!
jlaix wrote:
What a surprise another Alex video talking shit on direct game. Well, I guess it's his brand now.

To clarify btw I'm not advocating either. I say remain flexible, use each when needed.
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#23
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Your infield footage blows my mind man....hardcore motivation to get after it!
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#24

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to me indirect or direct is irrelevant, whatever works depending on the situation, but ultimately the girl will know that you want to make sweet love to her.
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#25
seany

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 Once again sensational article keep it up! liked the second vid in particular! 
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#26

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I am in Norway right now and I should of went to the free RSD but I didn't find out until today that you were here in Oslo. I am looking for some suggestion to the mid game, it seems like it is a little different here than back in the states.
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Alexander~

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haha yes of course it can happen but that is the exception to the rule! Btw help me match a person to your username?

Alexander~
Roscoe~ wrote:
Haha Alex, you and the other instructors keep saying a girl won't just jump on you and make it happen BUT actually a girl DID take me by the hand and lead me to an alley for an instant fuck.

BUT I am an Alexander bootcamp alumni, sooo.....
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Alexander~

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hhaha yeah , i know what you mean. I love my mates and actually try to avoid them sometimes because we get really drunk, drink, eat KFC and do nothing!

I meaning haning with guys as an excuse to talk to girls, and in some case cut off conversations with community guys who want a little Alex conversation when girls' company is much much better!
Gulisos wrote:


Alexander
First before I will comment on the videos. I like your style very much, and consider you absolutely top in terms of game. I still want to discuss one sentence.

"Before you know it you have all kind of compliance from gorgeous little chicks that want to spend time with you. Much better then hanging out on your own with men. Gay."

I get you there and I feel the same towards women. I like their energy, emotionality and spontaneity. I have many women as a friends only for the reason I like to spend time with them BUT I never make distinction like that above. Men and women are equal. Why women has some huge advantage over men in club environment - because men think like you mention here. They don't value their own company enough and cling to girls. Still girls don't want guys who value them more than their own crew. They like to join the party as Tyler said.
Hanging with guys is gay if you don't approach. If you have fun with friends and then approach is super cool because chicks are social and they want to hang with cool crew.
The right mindset would be - value the men company but go for the girls.
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David from LA :) Just went on a date with a quality girl. She admitted to feeling a huge mix of emotions in reaction to me and now is infatuated. Receiving a looooot of affection. Just living the "I am enough" paradigm and treating her well in an adoptive way.

Alexander~ wrote:
haha yes of course it can happen but that is the exception to the rule! Btw help me match a person to your username?

Alexander~
Roscoe~ wrote:
Haha Alex, you and the other instructors keep saying a girl won't just jump on you and make it happen BUT actually a girl DID take me by the hand and lead me to an alley for an instant fuck.

BUT I am an Alexander bootcamp alumni, sooo.....

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#30

Chai

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Move Your Feet is the best. 

This was a rather enlightening video as I have indeed found myself SEEKING that reaction - the one where the girl explodes into blushing - when going "direct" especially during the day. It''s been my go to but I shall put more action into "indirect."

Either way.

Thank you Alex!
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 Awesome mate! Your the real deal! The fatter you get the better YOU become with women!
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 Right on I was about to request that you expand on you concept of being diplomatic with some real examples but you already did it

Cheers
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Mate, loved the first video!

Looking forward to some action up there in Scandinavia. If all guys are such introverted and chody it will be a hell of a blast up there...
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#34

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nice post 
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