Sick video!

I'd be interested in hearing how this style meshes with Jeffy's more aggressive beast mode style. It seems like yours is fore the super cute, well connected girls though I could be wrong.

When you are going to Bulgaria? And why?
There are not that many murders here...

 Wonderful microphone. It picked up even on the surrounding sounds. Do you use it for your Hotseat footage?

Hey Alex,

Saw you out here in Calgs this weekend, did like a triple-take cause I had no idea you were up this way haha

Didn't wanna interrupt your bootcamp but saw you do some awesome stuff Friday. Been partying at that club for a while and didn't realize you could get so physical there cause it's our top "high-end" club where the hottest girls and richest guys go and the vibe feels super pretentious.

Just wanted to say it was awesome to see you in action and to anyone thinking of taking an Alex bootcamp do it up, the guy is pro and smooth as fuck.  The girls he was hitting up were gorgeous and I didn't even see a drink in his hand haha  Inspired as hell to get off the "getting hammered with my buddies instead of approaching" plateau I've been stuck on for like a year now and ditch alcohol and consciously focus on my game more seriously.

Anyway, just wanted to give ya props man!  I gotta pay closer attention to when RSD events come this way haha

- ninjasdf

P.S. I am stealing your handshake-to-her-arm-around-you move. That was slick!

HAHAHA

 YOOOOOOOOOOOOOO ALEX!!!

Come to TORONTO!!!!!!!!

Rogers, Redman and me (Rogers again the following night from same venue pulled a real stunner!). But yes i would say they were only 3.5 stars. Thats the one thing precinct never offered was quality and DTF together. There are usually a couple of hotties but they tend to be older and already taken. The less attractive girls never seemed to bite from this place either, usually cuz of some logistical crap.

Never liked that place for its results but after last friday it makes me think, maybe there are a few girls getting around that place that are DTF. Shall investigate further...

Hotter women consistently is wait im going for now...and there shall be plenty wait for us in Bulgaria!

Nice article and  VÄLKOMMEN TILLBAKA TILL SVERIGE mannen :P

If you're talking about coming into congruence with "I am enough", you could call that process a journey if you wanted to. But you don't need to go on a long journey of self improvement. You are already enough.

Alex some great stuff here mate

Its funny now whenever i go out and get on the gear ( occasionally) my game becomes stilfed because i can't relax
when im off my head on drugs and i end up taking very little action, or i do and its just not the same..

the best frame of mind i can have for pick up is when i have 3 or 4 beers over the night and im in a calm and
relaxed state, its seems to be the best way to approach as women notice it straight away and react accordingly.

Going out on a regular basis sparking attraction getting numbers and makeouts is becoming a more consistent thing but when it comes to calling these girls for day 2ss im just to afraid to do it....I just end up texting because its so easy but im finding it hard to line up day 2ss just of texting, Is calling essential?...and what are some of the main principles you follow when using phone game?....I dont why im so stifled when it comes to calling these little girls stupid...

Thanks Alex. I look forward to you returning to Canada, your second home away from home next year. Great video.

Spot on!

 Great video on getting back to basics, which can be some of the toughest things to remember when you are also trying to apply the sometimes abstract and complex ideologies that permeate RSD.  Sure, "there's no reason you're not enough" and "just get it done" and "if someone put a gun to your head, you could do it" are great mantras and thought processes that will help any newbie, veteran, or legend progress on their journey.  But frankly, some of the most basic things are the most important, and will allow girls to "categorize" you correctly on the first impression, which will infinitely increase your chances of success.

The two big things I want to "touch" on about this video are physicality and dress code.  

First, physicality will make or break your success.  It's plain and simple.  An alpha male is not afraid to touch anybody...Even to back off and distance another larger, more fit male from himself.  One thing that I see with a lot of newbies and chodes is that they see other people's physical space, but don't acknowledge and manage their own.  They see other people managing the distances and physicality they have with the world around them, but do not know how to manage their own.  My advice, and personal modus operendi, is to establish a 1 to 2 foot bubble around myself, in which that is my personal space, and in which I am in control and I dictate what is to happen.  If you come in that close, you're in my space...And if you're also on the level, and we are in each others space, then we have that mutual respect that makes us acknowledge each other's prescence.  To newbies, own the world.  As you are walking, don't get out of the way of anybody for a day.  Let other's move out of your way.  You'll feel your presence in their body language.  You'll begin to feel how you should feel when you are gaming.

Specifically with girls, physicality is a vibe.  It's natural.  However, in addition to developing innocuous touches that develop a report (hand shake, high fives, hand on the shoulder while pointing in a direction or while you're both looking at something like a phone screen), I've developed what I like to call trust touches and emotional touches. Trust touches are those in which she puts her trust in you to keep her safe.  At some point in the interaction, I like to pick the girl up.  When you do this, and set her back down, you've kept her safe, and it develops a "trust" in your physical prowess as a male (which can be threatening, as most girls know that as a stronger man, you could straight up dominate them physically).  Another excellent trust touch is a dip when you spin her in a pseudo dance move.  When you dip her towards the floor, support her, and bring her back up safely, her connection and trust with you increases immensely.   To do it properly, make sure one hand is on her upper back, right below/semi on her neck, and the other is reaching over and around her stomach and on her lower back.  Then, when you lean her back (which is to your side, the right or left), move your foot toward the dip and open your stance, supporting the weight on your legs.  Her arms will naturally fall around your neck.  Bring her back up to eye contact.  She'll get so aroused that you'll have to almost manage her adrenaline.

Emotional touches have to do with Julien's recent "I Love You"/"I Hate You" drama that will keep them aroused.  When you say "I Love You," put your hand on their lower back and bring them close to you.  When you say I hate you, put your hand on the front of their shoulder and (lightly) shrug them away and turn slightly away from them.  These touches have an "emotional" effect that will create arousal and emotion purely from how and why you're touching them.  It's a sad to make the comparison, but dogs are the classic example of knowing the difference between positive and negative touches.  Make her be able to sense the emotion in your touch (and that there are good and bad touches).  Make her your lap dog.

Finally, sexual touches are VERY important.  When making out, or getting very close, DON'T KEEP YOUR TOUCH STATIONARY.  You always should be moving in a slow caress, with gentle squeezes.  It sounds a little too specific, but the feeling of your hands running over her will make her senses go WILD.

Now to more beginner shit.  Dress Code.  I challenge all in the community to take a step back and assess their personal style. It's really important. Is that haircut you've had since N'Sync or Nirvana was popular really still working for you, if it ever did? If you're seriously losing your hair, is it time to rock a buzz cut? (Which by the way makes you look bad ass and skinnier if you combine it with some facial hair and proper maintenance. I just did it, and its been one of the best decisions of my 20s). Is it time to seriously hit the gym and lose the 30 pounds you've been carrying around for too long and finally keep it off? Is it time to throw 80% of your wardrobe away and start from scratch? Look at Tyler in Blueprint versus his current look. The change is remarkable; yet, his DNA has not changed one bit. It's the same exact person with two completely different looks, and currently, he's never looked better. Grooming and style wise.

Deep down, yes, the inner-confidence principles that RSD teaches and stresses will be what drives your progress most, and are a must have for success. But, how you maintain yourself, no matter what your unchangeable features, is a monumentally important component to the way women will perceive you. As a lawyer, we have an adage that is most instructive. It is "if you're going to ask somebody for a million dollars, you have to look like a million dollars." It doesn't mean you have to have a million dollar watch, or an amazing Brioni suit. It means you have to look put together and congruent, such that the parties you're dealing with believe that you know what you're talking about.

I posted a couple weeks back on Tyler's "Looks Don't Matter" video with a top ten (12) list of the biggest mistakes that will make you look uncalibrated and straight unconscious to fashion and grooming.  As Alex awesomely points out, girls spend a lot of time on dress and grooming.  They will notice it in you. So:

1. It is never ever ok to wear socks with sandals. Period. No debate. If you don't want to show your feet, then you can't wear sandals. On this note, if you wear sandals, take a good look at your feet and keep your fucking toenails in check. Get a fucking pedicure if you don't know how they should look at their best. And oh yeah, unless you're pulling the west coast high white sock look, stay away from high white socks. Low cut is where its at.

2. As a general rule, brown never goes with black. Do not wear a black shirt with brown shoes or vise versa. It looks terrible. Same thing with khaki and black. It doesn't work. More about khaki below. Furthermore, blue generally does not go with black unless blue is an accent color to black.

3. Khaki should only be worn as shorts or as a work/church pant. In a dress up setting, khaki typically looks best with lighter colors (baby blue, oranges, light greens), and should be worn with darker brown shoes.

4. If you're losing your hair admit it and cut it. Buzz cut or straight up shave. What's more, hair loss products of all kinds are a joke and some are dangerous. Finasteride fucks with your testosterone and can seriously fuck up your endocrine system and brain. Also, everyone knows if you have hair replacement. Only your confidence is increased. Do it naturally, and let RSD tell that "there is no reason you're not enough." Hair is one of the toughest male appearance hurdles to overcome. Trust me. It's worth it. Free your mind.

5. Keep your hands and fingernails perfect. It's so important and I see so many people falling way short. It's the first thing you can see when you shake somebody's hand and introduce yourself. Fingernails short, clean and shapely. Also, regularly moisturizing your hands is huge. It will make your touch way more inviting and soft. Bottom line, if you're gonna put your fingers in a girls pussy, they'd better look clean and be soft. if you're not sure what to do, get a manicure. It's an eye opening experience. It's also a great place to sit around talking to women. I've closed a girl I met at the spa while getting a manicure.

6. How clothes fit is as important as their color and designs. If you're not in the best shape yet, you have to admit it. Trust me, you'll look fatter in a shirt that's too small than if you got one size bigger and didn't have fat bulges. Also, tighter pants can be good, but make sure you have mobility. When trying on jeans, walk around, sit down in chairs, lean over, etc. You'll find what feels good and it'll show in your comfort when you're in the field.

7. Never ever tuck in your t-shirt. Ever. Same with polo shirts and khaki shorts. It just looks off.

8. Do not wear a t-shirt under buttoned up dress shirts and polo shirts. It looks retarded (sorry if that word offends you). Anytime I see a fellow lawyer blantantly breaking this rule, I cringe. If you're going to keep the dress shirt completely unbuttoned, yes, wear a shirt under it. Also, wifebeater/undershirts are equally terrible underneath a dress shirt. Everyone can see them, and you've instantly sucked all the coolness right out of you. If you think you have a terrible sweating problem, then get v-neck t-shirts so nobody can see them underneath when you're top few are unbuttoned, but also know that your sweating problem will be compounded by the fact that you're wearing two layers.

9. Wearing sport coats can look great with jeans/t-shirt or jeans/tucked in dress shirt (not polo shirt). However, don't just take the coat from your suit. It just doesn't fit right (it's not intended to). Go to the store and get a specific coat for the casual look. Try to fit it tighter and shorter than a suit coat, and keep it unbuttoned throughout the night.

10. Short guys. You may already know this, but horizontal stripes create the optical illusion of looking shorter. Vertical stripes make you look taller. Also, invest in pair of leather dress boots that have a good inch and half in the back. You'll look demonstrative in your posture. In fact, all of us should have a bad ass pair of boots with a lift. Be European. Look at Julien.

11. Finally, know the difference between sneakers and gym shoes. If you’d wear a pair of shoes to go for a run or play sports, don't wear them for anything else. Instead, buy a cool pair of dress sneakers. Respect the difference.

12.  Always remember CONTEXT. Think about where you are going and what you are doing, and remember to dress appropriately.  A suit from work doesn't make you look cool at the club.  Neither do gym shoes (not sneakers).

To all of you who will reference Julien's cum-stained smelly T-Shirt, I understand.  Dress isn't everything, and what you're wearing should never hold you back.  But understand that it shouldn't hold you back mentally.  You will still be coming from behind the eight-ball if you're not dressing the part.

Keep on rockin' gentlemen.  Be safe and keep it sexy,

BLife

Great vid! I think a lot of the physical interaction stuff is basic and actually known by most, but it is a good reminder as we slip out of that over time. 

I have hyperhidrosis so my hands sweat like all hell. I'm decently charismatic and I've introduced myself to plenty of women in the clubs with a handshake even with sweaty hands. In some cases they hold on to my hand and use it to bring them closer to me. I think I am more self-conscious about it than any of them even care (especially if they have alcohol). Do you think I should just keep doing what I'm doing? 

Come to Gothenburg, mitt hem :)

"First impression is the last impression" So this tips are really amazing for having the your best impression.
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