Alexander~ RSD

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Hey team, Dzratvuyte (Russian for hello, I think Cyrillic is cool). I’m going to the Communist bloc soon.

Just checking in from the mighty banking nation of Switzerland to touch on a subject that is of massive importance to all the guys out there striving to make the most of their nights out: an article that is of importance to chodes, who want to be more than just chodes. Is that you?

This particular point is one that warrants a much deeper explanation, however it’s something that I need to articulate to the RSDnation community so I get internal game cogs spinning in graceful synchronization as soon as possible.



There will be a time and place where it is fully elaborated and published, but I’ll put it out there now for you to read, mull, digest, sleep on and allow to filter through to your behavior, then soon enough be telling your friend how you scored a hot girl.

And to be honest, sometimes you can brag -- if the girl was previously out of your league or she was just a bang-up stunner. You can do it. It’s OK. We say so.

Personally I had the ‘Relaxed Arousal’ epiphany about nine months ago, but I needed to be 100% sure that it works for me, and I needed to be 1000% sure that it works for students before it goes ‘live’ for you to get better.

Alex Daygame
Students in Alex~ Daygame Action in Geneva

The basic point is lifted from something that Tyler touched on in the Blueprint but that I think a lot of students still miss, costing them very straightforward anxiety elimination in the pickup field.

The importance of being so relaxed… and so chilled-out and at ease within yourself and within your environment that you become aroused is something that only really hit home for me since I started watching myself on infield video. At that point it became clear that ‘pumped-up’ was not the way to go about feeling good, but rather the ‘relaxation’ that others have called ‘letting go’ is the key to the right emotional state that will make you attractive.

So in simplest terms, walk into club (or underage discotheque) and the priority is relaxation. Then, as you breathe easy, drink and shoot the shit, notice as your arousal level builds up the right way.

Before you know it you’re in a good mood – or state – or nimbus – or beasting – or embering – or in the zone – or present – or whatever – or in love, that things just start to work.

Geneva Daytime
Geneva by Day

You have fun, express your range of emotions instinctively, ladies become aroused and you’re picking up like Tyler. Easy.

So enjoy the video and the scenery, enjoy the interjection of a young German fan and get out there and relax.

Peace playa,

Alexander~
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#1
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MOTHER FUCK YEA!!!

The end is soo funny
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Awesome...the end had me in stitches. Love that guy just strolling in casually.

RSD is famous everywhere ha ha!
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i love you alex.
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 "..I'm on ze top of ze hill man"

Nice :)
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Hahahah, this german guy is so funny, hahaha
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I had a very similar epiphany about state a few weeks ago... good to know rsd backs me up on this
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I had a very similar epiphany about state a few weeks ago... good to know rsd backs me up on this
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great video once again sir
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 i made this picture three months ago. Never posted my thougts on it; but it is exactly what alex said.

My question was: What is the right amount of action to take? Too much is anxious and reaction seeking, too little is stiffled,unresponsive and not arousing.

Then I realised that both too much as too little action is REACTING something. Either you feel fear and become stiffled because you react to outside pressure. Or you get anxious and seek reactions because you desire something. (e.g. evidence for your ego, while you should let go to find you self-esteem).

If you become internally relaxed and peaceful, your actions on the outside will go towards the "middle". If you ever meditate and feel yourself becoming more peaceful, relaxed and quiet: it is exactly the same feeling of relaxtion!

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"Dzratvuyte (Russian for hello, I think Cyrillic is cool)"
HAHA,dude,you can't even say Hello properly hahahha
It is "Здраствуйте" or in latin Zdrastvuite.You can also learn with a couple of months practice another important word : Nazdravoia (Cheers) 
Will read the article later and comment on it,bet it will be great as all the previous ones
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 Goddamnit.

For a large chunk in my life I've been doing stuff to gain state by looking for girl's reactions, wearing spiffy clothes, getting approval etc.

Then I moved onto feeling good by myself, until I realized that what I was doing was just a more advanced and subtle way of 'chasing' like I was doing before. stuff like trying to psych myself or shock myself into state, essentially seeing it as some means to an end which ended up with hella frustration with small and short peaceful intervals...

rather than relaxing and enjoying the moment now, for whatever it is

come chill in the mud with me
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this completely contradicts everything tim talks about
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 @nebuR

I remember Tim talking about the FURY that fuels you. 

That night I approached some girls and it went AWFULL. So I got a little frustrated! I thought "ah ha! this should not let me down, I should use this as FURY".

But then I started acting on that frustration,.. i was only seeking more reactions, but instead of a pleading vibe I had a angry, frustrated vibe. Whatever you feel, she feels... so I got rejected ever harsher.

This went on for the evening until at some point I thought: I HAVE HAD IT! I will stop approaching girls just FUCK IT.

Then I RELAXED... and I was just standing in the club...and suddenly I catch myself chatting with some girl next to me. And I think: "Huh wtf I just said to myself I would stop approaching and know I started a chat without even noticing"
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 yeahh Alex is so relax and chill he need to push away girls that approach him in the club
 because he need to concentrate on his students in the bootcamp..
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not fair!

but its ok because i'm so awesome because of  him....
so i forgive u great Alexander 
make me even more awesome than i am! 
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very true, now that I think of it. Funny I just asked RSDN about 3 days ago how to get into high energy, lol. guess that isn't necesary anymore.

but seriously I get this now, I just need to impement it now. Just gotta do however I do.
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hey alex,
what revelations did you find on how to get yourself into this relaxed-arousal state man? is there a little ritual you go through daily to get get rid of the unneccessary stuff so you're in this way of being?
good stuff mate
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if relaxation is key, everyone should drink more ?
alcohol tends to REALLY relax ya
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subx wrote:
if relaxation is key, everyone should drink more ?
alcohol tends to REALLY relax ya

Why be dependent on alcohol? I have to drive 30 min, and I'm trying to save my money. I have no reason to go out at night and drink until I'm relaxed -- isn't that being reactive? lol

This is a very interesting concept. I've been in that "chasing state" mindset for a couple weeks, but last night I went out with a girl, and was just completely 100% relaxed -- whenever I take girls out, I'm so in my own element and so relaxed, and they often say - "you are so chill" or "you are so relaxed."

Being 100% relaxed in the club is fascinating to me. I'm just wondering Alex, how do you go in and have success with high energy ADD chicks when you are being relaxed? How do you still communicate that you are fun and bring the party? Sometimes I just get the urge to yell and be obnoxious when I meet people...

What do you think? OR anyone for that matter?
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I've been thinking about these kinds of ideas a lot recently! 

My thoughts are that the WOOOOO high intensity stuff that can get thrown around here has to do with getting the ultra newbs to take action...transforming anxiety and nervousness into fun and action; but ultimately that has to change into a guy who trusts that he can take the action and hence can chill a bit and still take action. 

This is what I've noticed happening NATURALLY from myself naturally on various nights; one of which includes the evening out after the "I am enough" Alexander~ talk at Summit.  It is a behavior that comes from I AM ENOUGH.  
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 It's actually Zdravstvuyte (Здравствуйте). And folks in Russia and in my country would have called you Sasha or Sanya instead of Alex.

BTW currently the most popular humorist Ivan Urgant in Russia told one catchy phrase that correlates with RSD vision: "sense of humor is the ability to not produce jokes, but to laugh/amuse yourself". It very much relates being relaxed vs. frame controlling. And he is famous for being very relaxed (opposite to dancing monkey comedians) and producing the fastest funny jokes that majority of people are not skilled to do. He somehow can be outside of his head and use his mind to quickly snap and misinterpret the situation. Imagine how popular he is among chicks. 

And I have a friend, who is always slow moving, with almost no facial expressions/ gimmicks, a narcissus with frankly speaking big ego, but the most important is that he is able to say funny staff when everyone around cannot, and he is doing this amuse himself as he is not waiting for reaction. He is a natural who is attractive to girls with relaxed yet present  himself. I wondered how can he be so present (in a relaxed arousal) yet not being in state all the time (in the meaning frequently used in the community). Now Alex explained how. Go figure, he is almost 90% of the time in this mode, which actually makes himself happy, I suppose, and friends like me valuing him for just himself. He may not understand how he enriched my game, but I know:)

Alexander~ wrote:
Hey team, Dzratvuyte (Russian for hello, I think Cyrillic is cool)...
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Yep, u missed it too;) letter "v" in zdraVstvuyte, and Na zdorovie instead of Nazdravoia. Cheers)
Kington wrote:
"Dzratvuyte (Russian for hello, I think Cyrillic is cool)"
HAHA,dude,you can't even say Hello properly hahahha
It is "Здраствуйте" or in latin Zdrastvuite.You can also learn with a couple of months practice another important word : Nazdravoia (Cheers) 
Will read the article later and comment on it,bet it will be great as all the previous ones

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 Awesome awesome awesome vid. My fave out of all the ones you've done so far.

Everyone who thinks this contradicts high intensity/energy game is probably looking at it the wrong way.

Think of it this way:

Being relaxed is a prerequisite for ALL successful social interaction.

It is simply the absence of anxiety.

Alex is NOT referring to outer behaviours most people think of when they hear "relaxed", i.e. chilling and sitting at the bar, looking around, moving slowly.

He is talking about your INTERNAL STATE. Even when the best guys are manhandling a girl, yelling her into submission, etc .... they are not feeling anxiety.

If they did, it would come off as creepy.

Because they are internally relaxed when they do it, it comes off as natural.

Any abdominal breathing exercises, muscle contractions/releases, etc you can find can help you with this.
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Hilarious ending there.

Zee state.. zee top... zee mud
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"Then, as you breathe easy, drink and shoot the shit, notice as your arousal level builds up the right way." <--- yep. unfortunately, I guess most people have distinguished "sexual" and "relaxed". They think that, when you're relaxed you're more feminine. But just enjoy the women in front of you, and you're going to be really sexual.

Edit: think the relaxed feeling comes about because your breath becomes as it should be, your body langague as well, and for the same reason your sexuality is freed.
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LOL he is really German. This is how we sound.
The last picture of this post is the RSD fan ejaculating to the sky because he has just met Alexander.
Wooooooo!
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Schnappi is awesome. Tell me if you're going to Russia or Ukraine, and if you need internship or something.
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A good question is how can we practice being in this relaxed state?
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FUKK MY LIFE THIS is TRU STORY
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""Huh wtf I just said to myself I would stop approaching and know I started a chat without even noticing" <----- wow, very telling!
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nebuR wrote:
this completely contradicts everything tim talks about
Not really. There is no contradiction between "high frequency state" and relaxation. Granted, the vocabulary difference can be confusing if you don't have the reference experiences.

Relaxation is the chill feeling of "it's all good", in the background. When you're relaxed, you are free to express yourself through whatever range of emotions you wish...which can include being high-energy if you want.

Relaxation gives you the internal space and foundation upon which you can behave in an infinite number of ways. Like if you're driving a car and you grip really tightly to the steering wheel, you'll barely be able to maneuver. But if you just relax then you can do whatever you want with it.

And of course, Tim is very relaxed and very chilled.
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That was so pimp at the end.

I've been waiting for some guy to be like, "Aye, Tyler/Alex!" or whoever is doing the video.

Very funny.

Really like Derek's explanation......all this stuff related to your internals. Your external expression will naturally fall into place.

"What's your best opener, man?"

LOL
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Damn those clouds look amazing in the video. It looks fake, like some victorian oil painting. Very beautiful.

Anyhow cool video man, really nice to hear you touch on this subject. This knowledge has been around the forums but not really in the spotlight... "State is chill" thats usually the personal epiphany guys will learn.

And that kid cracked me up, "Whats your favorite opener?" hahaha!
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Hey,

 He's gonna have to put another post up to clarify, Iotsa people confused.

High energy is fine, low energy is fine.  Jokes are fine serious is fine.

Don't be a try hard.  Don't be tense.  Don't be jumpy.  Don't react on auto-pilot.  Especially don't be reactive to YOURSELF.

Loosen up.  Relax.  Be comfortable in your own skin.  Don't try, just be.

You can be totally relaxed and high energy at the same time.  Like sprinting.  You should relax even when you're sprinting full tilt, especially when you are.  They teach you to do that..

Everyone gets what it means to be relaxed, but all this terminology like "state" etc. confuses sometimes.

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UtopiaFive wrote:
I've been thinking about these kinds of ideas a lot recently! 

My thoughts are that the WOOOOO high intensity stuff that can get thrown around here has to do with getting the ultra newbs to take action...transforming anxiety and nervousness into fun and action; but ultimately that has to change into a guy who trusts that he can take the action and hence can chill a bit and still take action. 

This is what I've noticed happening NATURALLY from myself naturally on various nights; one of which includes the evening out after the "I am enough" Alexander~ talk at Summit.  It is a behavior that comes from I AM ENOUGH.  



George Leonard touched on this in Mastery: if you really feel confident about something then there is no reason to pump yourself up for it.  When you wake up in the morning do you pump yourself up in order to eat your cereal? 'WOOOO I AM THE BEST GOD DAMN CEREAL EATER EVERRRR!!'  Fuck no you just calmly go about your business because you unconsciously know that you can do it.  I think far too often guys get caught up in the mix and lose sight of the end goal.
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YEAH !!!!!!!!!!!!! PICK UP !!!!!!!!!!!! YEAHHH !!!!!!!!!!!! POWER !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! MAN POWER !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!


ahhahahahhaa made my day
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Ah this must have been recorded quite  a while ago. Summer is well and truly over here now! But great, simple advice to apply easilly. Thanks mate!
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 It's a helpfull concept indeed but i still didn't get it.

if a guy approaches the girl chill, without wanting to impress, the assumption of attraction it is in HIS mind and not in hers.

Let's say that this guy isn't physically attractive to her or other random aspect how did he'll get the girl?

this process should be considered as desilusional?! or based on guy's assumptions?

You have to had some value to the girl for this concept work. Am I missing something?
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~cavalheiro wrote:
 It's a helpfull concept indeed but i still didn't get it.

if a guy approaches the girl chill, without wanting to impress, the assumption of attraction it is in HIS mind and not in hers.

Let's say that this guy isn't physically attractive to her or other random aspect how did he'll get the girl?

this process should be considered as desilusional?! or based on guy's assumptions?

You have to had some value to the girl for this concept work. Am I missing something?
Well, it is not just an assumption, it is truth. And it goes hand in hand with the realization that you are enough. You don't need to get on the top of the mountain or something. Generally, you are attractive to every girl, you can't even change that. A girl who tries to show you she dislikes you is just telling you bullshit and playing weird games. But once you understand it's not really her fault but rather social conditioning, you just ignore this bullshit and keep going.

It is important to understand that it is not just an idea, you don't have to convince the girl with it. It is actually true and you simply know it.
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....and thanks for all the videos ;] - why did u choose sony handycam? I'm wanting to buy one hd handycam.
i wonder what u would show if u were here in brazil.

cheers
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Alex, I notice that you actually come up with new concepts that elaborate and refine older concepts. Here you have refined one of your own.

I think you one of the only instructors who is actually ADDING new information to RSD.

But I must say, Tyler gets better and better to explain the concepts he already talked about in the blueprint. Things that were a bit vague or unclear then, are now explained much better in his videos.

From AlexAttitude.com:  
State is chill, not fireworks. This is a big one, most guys have no idea that state is not something exciting, not something flashy or even something extravagant, the coolest people you have known in your life and alpha males all have a chill vibe about them. This is true state, what Jeffy calls a burning coal. It is EASY to be consistently chilled-out or relaxed, it’s as simple as adopting an ‘it’s all good attitude’ and having some willpower to not let petty things get under your skin. If you’re always operating from an ‘it’s all good’ attitude, and you don’t get into bad state by letting people or incidences (the external world) get to you, then simply taking actions of your own choice (following your core) will ignite the nimbus. You will draw state from within. As a man it’s when you’re doing something you want to do that you’re most aroused. You influence others with this arousal and it makes you attractive. This state, unlike fireworks state, is the infinite well and never burns out – making you always attractive.
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The way that alex explained that, every single one of my pick ups have been done just like that. I am genuinely calm and relaxed because its actually our natural state. Since the girl feels what you feel, the girl feels calm and comfortable too. A lot easier to connect from that level because a lot of the external stuff doesnt matter. Just pure genuine natural awsomeness. Approaching with this level is very effective, just remember not to draw a state from her and her reactions to you because you have zero control over that. What you do control is how you look at it all (frame) and how you choose to react. So you can just let everything move around you like water and let the now keep going. 

Alex is right it is "letting go". Its letting go of the identity you have for yourself. Including every single approach you have done , good ones & bad ones. Its letting go of your judgements of other people and situations you are in. Its letting go of your emotions and thoughts in the moment. Just letting it all be there and not judging it. As soon as you get used to this, everything just flows. Talking to anybody just becomes natural because your are just letting everything go. You are living in your own reality. Which is attractive because you are allowing everything to go as it does. Women love this because it allows them to be themselves too and kind of let go too. Theres too many guys projecting too much onto these ladies and almost suffucating them by trying to control their actions. The like it to be free to do what they want. So let them, and do the same by doing what you want by allowing yourself to do whatever you do.
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Watermel wrote:
~cavalheiro wrote:
 It's a helpfull concept indeed but i still didn't get it.

if a guy approaches the girl chill, without wanting to impress, the assumption of attraction it is in HIS mind and not in hers.

Let's say that this guy isn't physically attractive to her or other random aspect how did he'll get the girl?

this process should be considered as desilusional?! or based on guy's assumptions?

You have to had some value to the girl for this concept work. Am I missing something?
Well, it is not just an assumption, it is truth. And it goes hand in hand with the realization that you are enough. You don't need to get on the top of the mountain or something. Generally, you are attractive to every girl, you can't even change that. A girl who tries to show you she dislikes you is just telling you bullshit and playing weird games. But once you understand it's not really her fault but rather social conditioning, you just ignore this bullshit and keep going.

It is important to understand that it is not just an idea, you don't have to convince the girl with it. It is actually true and you simply know it.
Well, that is not entirely true. It is said that you are already attractive, and you just need to stop sucking. In other words, you need to do less and man down. You need to stop your chode-behavior in order to show your naturally attracive behavior.

While this behavior happens effortless and is executed without thinking, it DOES require some effort. The behavior of being positive, leading the interaction, taking action, etc happens all automatically. But in order to get there, you need to assume attraction, let go of the outcome, realize you are enough etc. So it's more like a self-fulfilling prophecy. If you manage to assume you are attractive, you are doing the right things to stop sucking (or chode behavior). 

But in essence is because you define your own reality, that you are not reactive (dependent) but independent. This is value giving and attractive. Assuming attraction CREATES attraction because you do not limit yourself, and provide the world of a measure of what's cool (you) indepenent of others. (If everybody looks at eachother for whats cool.. yeah.. that does not work? Somebody has to decide. Might as well be you)
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Pistola wrote:
The way that alex explained that, every single one of my pick ups have been done just like that. I am genuinely calm and relaxed because its actually our natural state. Since the girl feels what you feel, the girl feels calm and comfortable too. A lot easier to connect from that level because a lot of the external stuff doesnt matter. Just pure genuine natural awsomeness. Approaching with this level is very effective, just remember not to draw a state from her and her reactions to you because you have zero control over that. What you do control is how you look at it all (frame) and how you choose to react. So you can just let everything move around you like water and let the now keep going. 

Alex is right it is "letting go". Its letting go of the identity you have for yourself. Including every single approach you have done , good ones & bad ones. Its letting go of your judgements of other people and situations you are in. Its letting go of your emotions and thoughts in the moment. Just letting it all be there and not judging it. As soon as you get used to this, everything just flows. Talking to anybody just becomes natural because your are just letting everything go. You are living in your own reality. Which is attractive because you are allowing everything to go as it does. Women love this because it allows them to be themselves too and kind of let go too. Theres too many guys projecting too much onto these ladies and almost suffucating them by trying to control their actions. The like it to be free to do what they want. So let them, and do the same by doing what you want by allowing yourself to do whatever you do.
"Letting go" is part of it, because you can't let everything go. You will always act through some sort "self", and you will always talk about some subject, and you will always have some feelings.

The less judgemental, the better. The more flexibele your "self", the better.... but that being said, if you are asked an opinion, then you must judge and react. For this, you should know what you find cool and what not. What you like and dislike. You should have an INTERNALLY defined SELF and EMOTIONS, instead of letting them be dependent on external conditions (her reactions).

"Letting go" and being "non-judgemental" results in freedom of outcome, in the "flow" experience. Knowing who you are, and having your own measurements (without imposing them needlessly on other people -- that is reactive and validation seeking for your thoughts!) contributes to a strong reality. 
 
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hey alex you failed your body lenguage when that german guy came up
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markzor wrote:

Pistola wrote:
The way that alex explained that, every single one of my pick ups have been done just like that. I am genuinely calm and relaxed because its actually our natural state. Since the girl feels what you feel, the girl feels calm and comfortable too. A lot easier to connect from that level because a lot of the external stuff doesnt matter. Just pure genuine natural awsomeness. Approaching with this level is very effective, just remember not to draw a state from her and her reactions to you because you have zero control over that. What you do control is how you look at it all (frame) and how you choose to react. So you can just let everything move around you like water and let the now keep going. 

Alex is right it is "letting go". Its letting go of the identity you have for yourself. Including every single approach you have done , good ones & bad ones. Its letting go of your judgements of other people and situations you are in. Its letting go of your emotions and thoughts in the moment. Just letting it all be there and not judging it. As soon as you get used to this, everything just flows. Talking to anybody just becomes natural because your are just letting everything go. You are living in your own reality. Which is attractive because you are allowing everything to go as it does. Women love this because it allows them to be themselves too and kind of let go too. Theres too many guys projecting too much onto these ladies and almost suffucating them by trying to control their actions. The like it to be free to do what they want. So let them, and do the same by doing what you want by allowing yourself to do whatever you do.
"Letting go" is part of it, because you can't let everything go. You will always act through some sort "self", and you will always talk about some subject, and you will always have some feelings.

The less judgemental, the better. The more flexibele your "self", the better.... but that being said, if you are asked an opinion, then you must judge and react. For this, you should know what you find cool and what not. What you like and dislike. You should have an INTERNALLY defined SELF and EMOTIONS, instead of letting them be dependent on external conditions (her reactions).

"Letting go" and being "non-judgemental" results in freedom of outcome, in the "flow" experience. Knowing who you are, and having your own measurements (without imposing them needlessly on other people -- that is reactive and validation seeking for your thoughts!) contributes to a strong reality.
I agree, there is a certain amount of knowing who you are and having boundaries with letting go. Its also knowing what you are not. Like knowing that you are not your thoughts, emotions, and not being identified with your outcomes no matter if they go your way or not. Its good to feel good about your successes but not to become attached to them. Same way with failures, its ok to learn from them but you cant make a whole identity out of it. This is why action is so necessary with letting go. The more situations you get into, the more you can let go of.  The less reactive and validation seeking you get.
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~cavalheiro

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Maybe *I* just misunderstood chiil with indiference
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Marcoo

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Your hair is so fucken stylish. How d'you do it?
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Skyisthelimit

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lol reminds me of bootcamp times, was awesome and the video is rlly funny.

I want to get back to Geneva I enjoyed the 100m fountain and nightclub at second night of bootcamp. Damn I also want to help out on bootcamps one day, looks like a lot of fun.

I think the relaxed arousal mindset corolates with a lot of things. The more you realise I am enough and the more you don't care about what happens ( because youve had succes and failures ) the more naturally you're in that state 24/7. And you get horny easier and from expirience so does the girl haha


greetings from Schnappi from Germany :) ( beaaaassttttinnngggg )
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CremeDeLaCreme

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 maybe it's posed....

...the "I'm schnappi" part is the price he has to pay for some minutes of coaching ^^ 
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Canello

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Join Date: 07/23/2008 | Posts: 1261

Relaxation...the third principle of natural game...

Canello
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