Somebody asked me recently on rsdnation: “What does it mean to have a strong reality, and why is it even important?” This was asked on a forum that focuses on how to be attractive to women and how to be good at picking up girls.

The short answer to this question is: a strong reality is when you have a strong sense of self and a very strong understanding and perception of the world around you, to the point where you play a part in defining it. The reason why it is important is because as a guy, you will always be able to have a stronger reality than women. Men have an ability to have a stronger reality than women (in an emotional and social sense), because you can have a stronger reality than women, you have something that they don’t and that is something of value to them. This makes you attractive. Most importantly, when you have a strong reality you automatically behave in a way that inspires a woman’s attraction triggers. Attraction means getting girls; this was the purpose of the question.



That’s a pretty complicated short answer with many different components. It begs the following questions: What makes a reality strong? How do I know when it's strong? What is a perception of the world? What does it have to do with your sense of self? What are the differences between men’s realities and women’s realities? If I don’t have a strong reality, how can I get one - and how can I keep it? How does having a strong reality make you behave in attractive ways? All these things are massively important to being good with women, but for most people they have no idea this paradigm exists, or even what it means. So, I’d better answer the questions for everyone so your reality can be stronger, you can behave in attractive ways and get lots of hot girls in your life.

First of all you need to understand why it’s important for a human to have a strong reality. Human beings, unlike most organisms on Earth are social creatures. The reason why we have evolved in the way that we have is because we have a co-dependence on other people in our society or tribe. In societies and tribes there is a culture, or a socially-conditioned standard. In modern society, our culture is socially-conditioned in ways that keep people in place, that way they won’t clash with each other, kill each other and continue to drive primal natural selection.

So, because humans have evolved to want to fit into the culture, they strive to form an identity that contributes to, and is recognized, by their culture. Everyone wants to fit in and be acknowledged by everyone around them. The usual way of forming a strong reality is the age old struggle to fit in and feel special. For example, take a 14th century village. There is the village doctor, the village blacksmith, the village drunk and the village idiot. Each of these people have a role in society and they are acknowledged for their role. When people meet them, they immediately understand who they are and what they do. That way, they fit in. The more they fit in, the more the collective co-dependence of human society will protect them. When each of these people fit into society, they feel secure.



This feeling of security gives these people a strong reality. The feeling of security, and the formation of a strong reality –be it village doctor or village drunk – brings with it good feelings. On the deepest level, good feeling is the natural innate impulse that drives every human being in every single thing they do.

The reason why a modern day bum, or the example of the village idiot, can live the way they do is that they feel secure in who they are and what they do, and this gives them a good feeling. The good feeling that comes from feeling secure is significantly more powerful than the good feelings that comes from having money and being respected. That is the importance of fitting into human society and culture. When you understand this, it will become clear why people let themselves identify with being assholes, bums, drunks, victims or any other negative identity. They then, at least, have something to identity with that gives them a strong reality - that makes them feel good, because they feel secure...