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 Yo I just finished watching Tyler's video about how painful experiences with game and girls is a positive and NECESSARY thing in order to become good. 

http://www.rsdnation.com/tyler/blog/why-you-need-pain-transform-and-succ...

Owen also touched on saying that you need to find that inner joy, and when you do, your game will THEN AGAIN improve.

It made me realize something. I've been going about things the wrong way. I've been trying to find inner joy to show girls that I have it, which means I never had it at all. I need to genuinely not give a fuck if they stick around or not. Not just show them that it looks like I won't.

At this time, I'm not taking a break from game, because I can't. This shit is imbedded into me. It's something I want to do, something I want to improve at, it's something I view s a worth-while investment of my time. But I'm gonna relax on it a little bit. Take a bit more time to do/find that inner joy and happiness that Owen talks about. I already know when I'm happy for no reason at all, my game is way better than it is now. I lack the intent sometimes cause of it, but I'm definitely not scared to approach or get blown out.

So I'm gonna throw this thing on the back burners for a tiny bit. Just long enough to wake up each day with a sense of excitment and joy, and maintain it. Even as I type this now, I doubt I'll stop much, it's not hard to continue. I'm just gona run solo for a while, and when girls come around, cool I'll be me. But better.

~Acro
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 Yo whaddup. Today I was schooled by an old regular in town at the bar in the ways of living. I just applied them to pick up.

He was talking about learning to have. People try to give, but end up taking. You cannot give what you do not have, or realize you have. I immediately think about giving value. According to this, I must learn that I HAVE value, before I can give it.  And it made me happy. Just thinking about it made me feel good, realizing that because I'm the only me there is, that's value. Because of my unique personality, only because no one else can have it, I have value. I cant display high value or give value in a set, if I don't believe on the core level that I don't have value just for being me.

So learn to have. It's like appreciating what you have, learn it and GET it before you try to give it.

~Acro
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 I've come to the conclusion that as humans, we have certain emotional energy that we can rely upon. Being happy consumes some of the highest and most energy, and as you go further down to sadness and depression, less energy is needed. 

I use the term 'people' to the general populous that is unconscious and needy.

Usually when you get a good nights sleep you shuld charge back up rather well. But the problem is people. Humans can DRAIN energy from one another. When you have enough emotional energy, giving these people what they want is no issue, it barely effects you, like bill gates giving someone a dollar. But over time and different types of people coming at you for it, you start to break down, lose energy. Being happy, truly happy is no lnger capable for you, and it seems you cannot pickup then pace again. Sometimes you will get little boosters of energy, in the form of good news, drugs, alcohol, and even anger. Anger produces a lot of energy, but it also uses up close to sometimes more than it makes. 
So now the you who felt on top of the world, didn't let anything get to him, who could laugh off anything, is now a grumpy person trying to find happiness. But you cannot when people are around.
The only way I know SO FAR to deal with this is take vacations frequently enough to recharge, and remove 'people' from your life. Incorporate vacations with this, as removing people from your life can require TONS if emotional energy, if you let them into, or even go into their reality.

Meditation also does the same job as a vacation, at a lower scale. Meditating calms the energy and allows you to restore yourself. This is why you always feel good after a meditation session. I'm trying to meditate daily first thing in the morning.

So think about people who constantly want something from you. People who use you to feel good about themselves, in an openly abusive way or not. People who you will give them just a little bit of your energy, just because you want to avoid confrontation.
These are the people that MUST GO. Do not let them linger, and expect them to take the hint. Do not give the cold shoulder, and expect them to go away. Stop them dead in their tracks and let them know that you are removing them from your reality. Let them know the reason, then that is all.
 All of this being said, if you surround yourself with people who aren't like this, your emotional energy goes up. So friends, women you enjoy, and other happy and friendly people can all ping off each other for happiness. Surrounding your reality with THESE humans can keep your emotional energy running high, so when you do encounter people, you can rid yourself of them easily, or send them on their way quickly.

~Acro
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 So lately I've been talking with people about shit in their life and even in mine and realizing people are really fucked up. I'm doing better than ever, which is sick, but as long as I chip away at this thing, I'll always get better.

I've started to look at things I've wanted to excel at in my life and question why I want it.  

I want to develop the skillset required to consistently pull hot women, I want to become a great snowboarder, I want to become an excellent bartender and travel the world with it. I also want to develop a body physically strong and a living monument and statement of the dedication I can apply to something.

All of these things are going to require time. Lately I've been going out clubbing with my buddies and wanting to pull just to show them how good I am. Even though I'm not there yet.  I want to become a super good snowboarder to show my friends I can compete and even exceed their skills. I want to become a bartender with super skill for money right away. I want a beach body that girls will flock to.

All those things are short term skills that I want for validation that I'm AWESOME.

The thing is, I already know I'm awesome. And really, the journey to becoming good at something is the majority of the fun. So long as I'm constantly pushing myself at everything I do, I'll reach my goals. By then I'm sure I'll want to push myself even further. Thing is, don't stress, and enjoy the journey. So long as you are pushing towards your outcome, it will come up. 

I still have fun at the club, I love snowboarding, I love improving at bartending, it's not like these things aren't gonna be fun until I'm at a certain skill level, they're fun NOW. This has a lot to do with accepting myself, and accepting the stage I'm at, and as long as I'm always moving forward, there is nothing to NOT accept about myself, because I'm creating change within.

~Acro
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 So lately I've been talking with people about shit in their life and even in mine and realizing people are really fucked up. I'm doing better than ever, which is sick, but as long as I chip away at this thing, I'll always get better.

I've started to look at things I've wanted to excel at in my life and question why I want it.  

I want to develop the skillset required to consistently pull hot women, I want to become a great snowboarder, I want to become an excellent bartender and travel the world with it. I also want to develop a body physically strong and a living monument and statement of the dedication I can apply to something.

All of these things are going to require time. Lately I've been going out clubbing with my buddies and wanting to pull just to show them how good I am. Even though I'm not there yet.  I want to become a super good snowboarder to show my friends I can compete and even exceed their skills. I want to become a bartender with super skill for money right away. I want a beach body that girls will flock to.

All those things are short term skills that I want for validation that I'm AWESOME.

The thing is, I already know I'm awesome. And really, the journey to becoming good at something is the majority of the fun. So long as I'm constantly pushing myself at everything I do, I'll reach my goals. By then I'm sure I'll want to push myself even further. Thing is, don't stress, and enjoy the journey. So long as you are pushing towards your outcome, it will come up. 

I still have fun at the club, I love snowboarding, I love improving at bartending, it's not like these things aren't gonna be fun until I'm at a certain skill level, they're fun NOW. This has a lot to do with accepting myself, and accepting the stage I'm at, and as long as I'm always moving forward, there is nothing to NOT accept about myself, because I'm creating change within.

~Acro
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I've decided to stop running. Stop turning away, stop holding back. I did it before but I never knew what it was I was doing, now I do. I'm putting my personality on the line, all the time.

I'll stand in front of you and run the shit I know, say what I think, do what I want, all while you may not believe I'm "allowed" to do this, but I won't care. This is me, if you don't like it, that's okay. If you do, that's okay as well. I hate turning away from women when our eyes lock. If they are there, perhaps she wants me to say something to her, something new to her life, and to mine. I'm over using sunglasses. I'll stare into your soul as you stare into mine. I'm comfortable what's in there, and I won't be shaken any longer if you attempt to belittle it.

Because in the end, we're all the same.
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Intent + Freedom from Outcome LOTS OF VALUE INSIDE


Okay SO, just finished watching Tyler's free tour vid, that shit is life changing. What I wanted to verbalize, or summarize on paper is the idea I feel will help.

Intent is conveying the same feelings you had upon initial reaction to seeing the girl, in your approach. What this means, is when you see the girl and go 'holy fuck.... That's for me! (Tim steez.)" carry that SAME energy into your approach. Don't hold back emotions, like you don't want to be embarrassed, or have your true intentions found out before you want them to be. NO. Convey that same energy. It doesn't mean you have to tell them you want to fuck them as the first thing you say, maybe you will, but it means to emit that raw emotion from your being. Let her FEEL that SHE is making YOU feel this way.

Now for the freedom of outcome to balance it out.

Freedom from outcome to me, is best answered in a question. That question is, if I were to do this, and it DOES NOT work out, will I be any lesser of myself? Will I LOSE anything from doing this? The answer? NO. This is what self amusement is all about, doing things because you want to, but understanding you will lose NOTHING if it doesn't go the way you plan. In fact, you will GAIN a new experience, which will most likely AID in your next attempt at this going. This is how you balance with intent. You EXPRESS that she turns you on, let's say. You COULD say you are being reactive to her, and this is 100% correct. Butttttt, YOU ARE NOT LETTING YOUR STATE BECOME DEPENDENT UPON HER. It is a TEMPORARY state, she caused it, but you understand you will not be any less if it goes away, or does not work out. In fact like I said earlier, it could grow, or be fueled.

I feel like this capitalized statement is incomplete, but VERYYY important. It's like I found the key to a big lock, but I don't have the strength to turn the key. The lock is big, the key happened to be small. I feel as if the idea/concept is in my head, but I cannot convey it to paper 100%, making it overly esoteric in it's current true nature, and will be tough to explain or make work on a daily basis until I get it. No worries though, the more I go out, the more I understand, simple as that. So I figured out a bit more as an add on here. I figured out what it is NOT. I now need to figure out what it IS, then the concept will be complete.

What it is + What it is NOT= completed concept.

So this is intent + freedom from outcome. Combine these two thoughts for hopeful attraction with the opposite sex. I don't really know if it will work, for I haven't used it yet in my approaches. But I will!


P.s upon thinking on it, I think the thing is YOU ARE LETTING THE SELF COME THROUGH. In the sense that showing her this is you, and what she does, you like. Because the same girl might not be attractive to the next guy, you're displaying your personal interests in her. I think. It feels right, but not whole. A lot better than before though. We will leave it at this for now.

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That's really all I have to say this time. I found the pure joy in going out and trying pick up. IT'S HILARIOUS! Want to know the best thing about hot girls? There's always more of them.

~Acro.
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So I have (re)learned how to control my breathing. Very interesing techniques. I have learned you can breathe through your stomach AND your chest, and how you use them makes a difference on the muscles being worked. All I have to do is focus on breathing through and out one of them, ideally the stomach, and my body stops moving vertically. I want to test how it helps with others work outs and functions as well.  Another thing that helps get through workouts or anything else is removing identity with the body. Instead of saying or thinking "My body is strained, or hurt or whatever," remembering the I am not my body solely, but much more. The thought "This body will not die/break from what it is doing. It may hurt it or strain, but it can go on." And it's true. The body may be indeed tired when working out, but it will not stop working  under conditions this easy.
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On the drive back from taking photographs, I started rehearsing per-say. Started with a basic opener, "HEY, hey you! Come here!" and saying it in BR continously. Almost having a conversation with myself, all in BR. PRacticing different words and phrases. If you have said, "You're coming home with me tonight" 1000 times, chances are you won't be stifled when you tell that girl it as well. But if you've never said it EVER, you might fuck up, and fuck up the pull.

So I started saying different things, things I've never actually said before, things I could say for pulling, things for resistance, anything and everything. I find I get into that state as well. While I was driving this girl calls, what did I do?

I was like "EY YOU! WHAT'S UP!?" full BR. Outcome? Attraction, and maintainment of that baller state. Before I go out to the clubs, the entire drive there I'm going to be doing this, so when I get there, I already got that shit on lock. CHY CHY BRAP BRAP.

~Acro
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