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Drill day in my playground. 9 approaches yesterday. Nothing solid, not too much fun did I have either, but it had to be done.

For the sake of cold approaching, so it becomes automatic and completely normal for me. Unconscious competence, 'nah mean?

Good news that cold approaching is becoming comfortable for me ... if the situation is comfortable for me.

For me it's all about the situation, not about a girl, really. If no one's watching I can approach the hottest girl, but if there are dozen of people around, like in a bus stop, I struggle to approach any girl. I don't care that much about a girl's thoughts (I know she'll be flattered at least) as I care what surrounding masses of chodery will think, like, I'm afraid to be mocked or laughed at. It's embarassing but it had to be said, and logically I know it's stupid, but fact is, I have it in my mind.

This is a great, quick and on point video by Ozzie.



I noticed I stopped pushing my comfort zone. I got comfortable approaching in certain situations, and I keep doing it, not going for it in the situations that are more scary.

Like Julien said in his ARTICLE, there's always a comfort zone, and the only way to really grow is to constantly adjust to it and push through.
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BOSS_WATSON

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Join Date: 01/09/2012 | Posts: 158

I know what you mean about the bus stop. Or when there's like 20 people around. This is where momentum building comes in handy. Just talk to anyone. Say hi to five random people. God I love momentum.
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6pac

6pac

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Join Date: 02/11/2012 | Posts: 205

Yeah, you are absolutely right.. me, often I don't even want to talk to non attractive girls, but then when I see an attractive girl I have no momentum going most of the time and realize my voice is stifled. 
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